I had to say I'm sorry
By carpenter5
@carpenter5 (6782)
United States
March 31, 2009 11:15pm CST
Ok, so this morning I totally lost it.
I got up to the sounds of a downpour of rain hitting the roof of my apartment. I only wanted to roll over and go back to sleep, but had an 8 oclock class so I couldn't do that. So I crawled into the shower and tried to loosen my back up, praying it would quit spasming, which it started to do as soon as I sat up. (welcome to my life when it rains)
I finished getting ready for school. Hubby and Daughter had already left. I went to grab my umbrella, which had been sitting by the door not fifteen minutes prior to that, and it was gone. I called hubby who said "Mine is in your truck, so I took yours."
Well, he could have asked right? I pulled on a jacket with a hood and tried to keep my hair from getting wet, knowing that it would be a curly mess if it got wet.
I went to the parking lot but no umbrella in my truck!
I called Mike back and said "What's the deal? There's no umbrella" He said "I'm sorry"
Something about the way he said it set my nerves off. I really let him have it and told him that he should have been more considerate to make sure that I had an umbrella before taking mine.
I also reminded him that he walked maybe 100 yards, he drops my daughter off at the door of her school, so she has less than 10 feet to walk.
I on the other hand, have to walk from one end of campus to the other. My parking spot is by one building, and the other building that I have class in on Tue/Thur is probably a good 3/4 of a mile across campus!
When I got to school, the rain that had subsided to a nasty drizzle while I was driving in turned into a downpour! I had the jacked which kept my head and shirt from getting wet, but with no protection, my pants and feet got soaked! I got to the Ladies Room and tried to dry off, only to see that the hood from my jacket had really messed up my hair! What a day
Then about noon, when I was calling to tell him I was sorry, even though I felt like he could have done things way differently, he mentioned that by the time he had driven to the town where he works which is about an hours southwest of where we are now, that the SUN was already out and it had quit raining!
So by the time he came home from work, I was beginning to feel better, but I staed angry at him all day long. Was I overreacting?
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@GardenGerty (169452)
• United States
4 Apr 09
Another thought, just a thought, is that the anger lowered your immunity and you got sick. I find that when I get really stressed that way, I get sick. By the way, I currently have the crud. Had a lot of bad and discouraging stuff happen on Monday. I got sick. Environmental factors figured as well, but I believe it was the anger and frustration that allowed it to really take hold.
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
1 Apr 09
Yea, then I woke up this morning with a horrible head cold and I feel like my head is going to explode. I wonder if it's because I got wet yesterday. i hope not, but I'm beginning to wonder. I hate that, but you gotta wonder.
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
6 May 09
I hadn't thought about anger lowering my immunity, but you may be right.
I did go back to the doctor and we did some blood work. My hormones are totally out of whack...I had hysterectomy several years ago. So we evaluated meds and I feel better than I have in over a year
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@kawalnarang (1095)
• Trinidad And Tobago
1 Apr 09
Not at all dear ,I would have made more noise,and complain for 4 days
@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
1 Apr 09
That would have been me several months ago. Hubby and I went through a marriage weekend, and it has helped tremendously in the way that I handle conflict. I did completely lose my cool yesterday morning, but when I calmed down, I was able to say I'm sorry immediately without adding insult to injury with hubby and daughter.
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@GardenGerty (169452)
• United States
4 Apr 09
You probably were over reacting, I do that as well. It does not help the pain. In turn the pain does not sweeten your attitude or your response. Vicious circle. I think it would be worthwhile to have a spare umbrella.
@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
17 Apr 09
Well, you should see what I've done now! LOL
Yesterday, I took all I could take. I packed my suitcase, got in my Explorer and started driving. I knew I couldn't go far because I had an 8 o'clock class this morning. I drove 20 miles from home and checked into a hotel for three days.
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@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
1 Apr 09
Hi ya carpenter :) Overreacting? Well if you thought about it as "just an umbrella", I guess some people would say sure, that's overreacting. I don't think you overreacted at all, personally. It wasn't about the umbrella to you. (Mind you, I can't STAND having wet hair and I know that can upset me all by itself so if you're anything like me for that.... LOL).
Seriously, though, it's about respect and consideration. I'm sure you felt that your husband didn't give you a second thought when he took your umbrella to make it more convenient for himself. It's the same feeling I get when I've just cleaned the bathroom and one of the kids goes in behind me, brushes their teeth and leaves toothpaste in the sink. Or, because I can't eat the same meals as my kids a lot of time, it upsets me when they eat an item that I was counting on having for my next meal, without checking if I needed it.
Small gestures or actions like that tend to make me feel either invisible or really unimportant in the grand scheme of things. I feel like I always put others before myself and, somehow, I get upset if I never get that same courtesy.
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
1 Apr 09
I think all mothers feel that way sometimes. When the kids go through and they eat the snacks that you like, and leave everything that you don't like in the cabinet, even though it's what THEY picked out! LOL
My children are all grown, but I remember those days well.
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@carpenter5 (6782)
• United States
17 Apr 09
He got his chewing believe me. I'm so stressed right now with finals and a couple of papers coming up and all the stuff going on with our son. And like most men, he's not one to just come out and say what's going on. He keeps everything bottled up and won't talk about it.
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@sandal13 (142)
• India
1 Apr 09
oh dear, i think u dint over react but its just that u had a bad day and when we expect things from our dear one's and they dont really turn up that ways then it hurts,it irritates us..
i would have reacted even worst if i was in ur place but thats life dont worry it happens to all of us.
what the best part is that u have really thought over it n trying to figure out what went wrongm i thinks thats the postitive attitude after all how many of us do that? do we really take out our time n energy to analyze our behaviour ?
no we dont! so just chill..... let it be...
i am sure u r mature enuf to deal with it n pls stop staring angrilly to ur spouse go give him a hug! ALL IS WELL!
what bad was that RAIN,,,, n nothing else. take care n cheers!
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@kawalnarang (1095)
• Trinidad And Tobago
1 Apr 09
I wish my wife will get to read this one,, I wait for such occasions to get hugs,,Thanks dear
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