Who Keeps The Engagement Ring?

I keep the engagement ring and still keeping it after we get married.

Personaly id I were engaged and it were broken off, by either me or him, I would no longer want the ring. I would give it back. But, I am happily married and we aren't talking about me, so I would have to say that legally, it is a gift and shouldn't have to be returned. If it happens to be a ring that was passed down from one generation to another, the morall correct thing t do would be to return it.

i think it should always be the woman who should keep the ring,...

first just like what you have said it is a gift and it is very unlikely to take back or receive back what you had given with your heart.

second women are very good at cherishing items. they are good are keeping them and making them special. its not that men are incapable of this but this attitude turn out to be inert in a woman.

regardless of the situation in which the relationship had ended the ring is still a ring that represents the previous feelings that was entitled to it. and so the woman should always keep it.

hmm sorry for the flaws in my grammar..:D

I think that whoever broke off the engagement should not keep the ring. Personally, I don't see why a woman would want the ring anyway...unless she wants to sell it. I can understand why the guy would want the ring. He may be able to sell it or take it back to the store and get his money back. If it is a family heirloom, then I think it should stay in the family that it came from.

I really think the guy should get the ring back. After all...it symbolized the "promise of marriage". Regardless of who is at fault for the break up...the promise of marriage is done and the ring and the ring no longer has the same emotional value that it once did. It is not "just a gift"...it is a symbol of love forever....unlike a "promise ring" or a "friendship" ring. What it symbolizes makes it different than an ordinary gift. If the boy wants the ring back when the engagement ends...it should be given back to him. If the girl refuses to, then she is keeping it for it's monetary value only. There are girls out there that lure men into getting engaged just to get the ring and then they turn around and profit from it. I don't get why anyone would want to keep an engagement ring from someone they are no longer engaged to if not for money reasons. I would give the man back his ring and let him recover some of his losses. It only seems fair.

Legally and Morally the ring is a symbol of a promise when an engagement is broken the man who bought the ring is legally entitled to have the ring back. And even more so when and or if it is a family heirloom passed down from one generation to another. Any woman wanting to keep this ring is wrong for wanting to do so. It is not a gift when she accepts the ring she is making a commitment to marry the man and when he puts it on her finger he is making a commitment to marry her. It is not a gift but a token of what is expected to be a life time together. So legally he gets it back and should get it back ethically and morally as well.

For me, If ever I am engaged and we got married with the same person who gives me the ring, I am the one who will keep it. I will really treasure it.
But when I am given an engagement ring and we broke up, i think it's better to give back the ring, because I guess, the guy will have the right for that.
Well, Its only my opinion.

I think that if it's a gift, something he bought then you should keep it. But if it was a ring that was in his family that has passed down then he should get it back. That would only be right. If you don't want the ring then give it back to him, if he doesn't want it then pawn it. But if you have any kind of thoughts of getting back with him then don't pawn it. Keep it safe. If you pawn it and he finds out that could possibly ruin any chances you might have of getting back together.

well miss manners would say to return the ring..in some states if its a family set that she should return the ring..and judge judy would say if its a gift its hers to keep...

Well I don't know if this can be done but in my place it can be............sell the rings and divide the money equal share and give it to both parties. In my case I am married, my engagement ring is also my wedding ring. My husband and I both took it off on our wedding day and re wear it again at the pulpit....so both of us are keeping our ring each on our finger............LOL!!!!