Are you a good advisor?

Well I know for sure you're not asking me that one clorissa dear, not with all the advice I've been giving you and you really needed it dear. Look how you were just the other week asking about marrying for love, I put you right about that one dear didn't I, now you know it's best to have one young man for love and a different one for marriage because they're both going to end up boring anyway so always take the moneyed one for the marriage. You've got to look out for yourself my dear or you'll end up a sad old spinster with a cat, and remember what I told you dear about my friend with the cat and that nasty old vet.

I really think that I can be. It has happened that some of my friends have come up to me and asked me for advice, and such. I do my best to give people the advice that they may need, and such.

For as long as I can remember people have found it really easy to unload their troubles on me and share stuff that they can't speak about with others. I suppose it's because I am a good listener and am more than happy for people to confide in me, especially as they know that what they say stays with me as long as it's not illegal. But the strange thing is I don't really dish out advice or not as I see it. I may dish out some good old fashioned common sense but rarely what I would call advice. But people generally finish talking to me feeling happier than when they started and I just put it down to being able to share their worries.

I think I am coz most of my friend do ask me whenever they are stuck in a difficult situation or when they just need a shoulder to cry on. Well I am not sure about these magazines advices which you mentioned but I always give advices according to my experience of life and according to the sensitivity of the matter. First I try to calm them down then I discuss they issue with them, ask a few questions if I don't get the clear picture and in the end give my advice on it. (Only when I know my friend needs to hear my point of view on it)

Wouldn't that be risky? He could in some real deep trouble, your improvisation could do more harm than help. Anyways, Here's what I would do. Since most of the people in trouble over estimate the depth of their trouble. I would first listen to all of what they have to say and would sooth them to a calmer state of mind and repeat all of it slowly, step by step. There is always a difference in what they say this time. But since they have slowed down their own thought process corrects them to the true version. Most of the time they themselves realize that the situation is not so bad after all and find their own solutions. In case the trouble is of a very serious nature, I help them by telling them where they can find professional help. Be with them when they seek it.

yea, i do give advices to friends that come to talk to me. but then, there are sitautions where i don't need to give any advices at all but just to listen to them. for the moment, i think my advices are quite ok and applicable. they might not be the best but for me they are applicable at least.

I used to with old friends, but now I don't because we stopped being friends for other reasons. I know that I would listen and tell my friends to just talk to their boyfriend. Although I really only gave one of my friends this advice. The others didn't go to me for this kind of advice, or didn't need it, of which I am not sure. In any case, some magazines are good but some of them do lie, or fib a bit. I've always thought the relationship columns were cute and as a teenager they fit, but when you get older some of the advice just doesn't fit you. Of course there are other magazines aimed for the adults too, that might give good advice. I haven't really read a magazine in awhile as it's not something I like to read. All I can say is also think of the situation at hand when giving advice from a magazine.

I have always been told I am. I was once told I should be a counselor. Sometimes I wonder though. I guess if my friends say I am that is all that matters

I always seem to be the go-to person for advice, regardless of where I am. When I moved away from home and started at a new job, immediately I became the target for advice-seekers in the entire store, basically. It's not a bad thing. I love giving advice and it's my dream to even have an advice column or something of that sort (not that I would ever get one, but it's nice to dream).