mistreatment in rehab!

Oh hell yes I would! I was a CNA and worked in a nursing home several years ago. During my training there was a man that swatted a little lady on the thigh after turning her and hell hath no fury like I had that day. I was there being trained and I aske him whi he thought he was and why would he embarrass her and disrespect her that way..after that I marched straight to the head nurse's office and told her if I were to ever witness anything like that again they would be making a bed in there for him. Not to mention the legal implications the nursing home would stand to face when I reported it to the authorities. He was gone the next day. How dare him. We all deserve respect and dignity.

How sad! How could they treat patient that way? I mean she is there to get treated and not maltreated. I hope that stup!d guy pay a high price for what he did. I hate to hear people who are supposed to be medical providers but not really providing good medical attention to their patients. I mean if they don't like the job, why work there. That guy could be stup!d!

Really? well, there's no doubt that is completely an abuse from that hospital, it's either you help her report it to the administrator or to the cops. it's bad enough that she has stroke but it's even worse that she's being abused there. If a friend of mine was in that complete situation il call my x bf COp and have him beaten to the ground...

Definitely report him! This is disgusting. I pray to God that He will take me quickly. I never want to be cared by anyone except members of my family. May his soul rot in hell

Great discussion Antique ,I have heard horror stories about persons in these nursing homes and teh kind of treatment they recieve there .I think the problem is that many of teh persons who work there just see it as a job and noot an opportunity to help others in their time of distress ,consequently when these persons who call upon them the believe that these persons are just botehring them and tehy are likely to take out the frustration on them.I hope your friend will actually report him and get someone who really loves this job

Right now my feelings are for your friend, Jan, because i know exactly how a half paralyzed person thinks and feels. It's good to know that she can communicate with you. In my case during those few weeks when i was not able to utter a single intelligible word, i was blessed with a loving mother who took care of all my personal needs and i was not confined in a hospital for long. But if that was me being treated the way jan was, give me an alphabet chart and a stick and infront of the hospital authorities i'll report the staff who seemed to have forgotten the oath he once took before he assumed his duties. That conduct is unbecoming for somebody who promised to take care of the sick. HI, ANTIQUELADY! Jan surely is so thankful that she has a friend in YOU!

It must be everywhere! My grandma was in a rest home for rehab and they did the same thing. They would even go as far as moving the button so that she could not reach it. I went and raised cain with the head nurse and she took care of it. At least my Grandma never said anything again.

I know this is an old discussion, but in addition to reporting the staff to the rehab home there are state agencies where you can make complaints. In our state there are volunteers called ombudsmen who come in and investigate, as well as other state agencies that can take licenses away or at least give citations.

You bet I would. When mom first went into the health care center one of the aides was kind of rough on the residents. I knew she was new, and I knew she worked at other nursing homes, so I pulled her aside and told her that this wasn't like other places, these people payed a lot of money to be here and expected to be treated with respect. A few weeks later, I told the head nurse that we were having problems with her. Mom left the HCC for a few months and when we went back, that gal wasn't there any more.

So sorry to hear this is happening to your friend, ANTIQUELADY. You bet I would report them. I'd start with a phone call and decide what else was necessary after the conversation with mgt. There is no excuse for the behavior except that the person is in the wrong job, and mgt. needs to be aware. I wish your friend well.

I remember you asking for prayers for your friend, I think I responded to it but can't remember but I did pray though! As for her bad treatment at rehab, damn right I'd turn his @ss in in a heartbeat! When my mom had her stroke, she was out of her mind because of lack of oxygen in her brain so she thought she could walk but she couldn't and no one could tell her any different. When we left that night, she had tried to get out of bed to use the bathroom and fell to the floor. She had a black eye and some bruises but being her age and her small frame, we contributed it to her fall. She told me that they had picked her up and slammed her in the bed!! Now knowing that she wasn't in her right mind, I couldn't say if it were true or not but she was adamant even to this day that they had done this to her and then they had circled around her bed, something like 6 people, to keep her in the bed and she said she cussed them all out for what they had done. Now that time has gone by and she had gone to one of the worst rehab's in the country!! She can't tell us who did this to her so we can't sue the hospital because we don't know who did what but let me tell you, I kept a vigil on her from then on out and made damn sure she got the best of treatments and got all that she needed because I wasn't going to take any more of their crap! A few times I almost got arrested because I would not shut up!! I'd march my @ss down to the nurse or to the x-ray department and demanded to know what the hold up was!! Mom just wasn't getting the treatments she needed and I demanded to know why or why not!! You better believe, she got good treatment from then on out because they found out that these people have had enough of their crap and aren't going to take it any more!! You have to be on top of everything that they, doctors and nurses, do to your family and loved ones or they'll run over you like you're not even there!! I'm serious. If you don't then your loved one will get the short end of the stick and could very well die because of their negligence and ability to hide it. They get this attitude "Oh they've lived their life and bla bla bla" Well guess what! THAT'S MY MOTHER and they had better take good care of her and they did!!

i wonder if his bosses know what hes doing. someone caring should have his job. theres people out there needing jobs that know how to treat people right. yes he should be reported and you should follow up with it to make sure he dont take it out on her before he goes.what a rotten person he is.

Yes, I would report him! There's absolutley no excuse for this!I sure wouldn't want a friend of mine or a family member being treated this way. I don't care how bad a shape they're in. I would certainly talk to the head nurse or the administrator about him. Kathy.

i think you are doing the right thing turning this person in.there are lot of people that don't need to be any kind of care giver.

I would....we are having issues right now where I live with two girls who were sexually abusing alzheimers patients at a local nursing home....they have been going to court..last I heard they are worried that their rights have been over looked because they weren't read their marinda rights? How about the old folks they abused? They spit in their mouths....sexually abused them.....and did such nasty things to the residents that it is unspeakable. If nothing else....look up Wes Bledsoe.....he in the head of an organization that goes in and supports people who are having problems with nursing homes. I can't remember the name of the organization for sure but I think it's called The perfect cause.....

I don't recall your previous discussions but then again....my memory... No...I would not ever tolerate such treatment of a friend or even a non-friend. Years ago, my ex was in the hospital. We were not on great terms as we were in the process of the breakup when he had a severe gallstone issue. Anyway, I got a call at home from him that was barely audible asking me to go up there. It was after hours. I went in anyway and made my way to his room. He was in severe pain...really severe pain. with much effort, he managed to tell me that they'd cut his pain meds. OH I marched right out to the nurses station and confronted them. They defended themselves saying that he was acting loopy from the meds. oh I can't tell you how angry i was. #1..Who the hll cares!! he is in the hospital...it's ok to be loopy...he's not going to be driving, operating machinery. #2...That's his personality....he was acting how he always did....dry sense of humour. They gave him some pain meds and I stayed until he was comfortable. Had they argued...I'd have gone above them. Don't hesitate to report anything like that.

That is very alarming to hear about. Yes I do remember about the request you made regarding your friend and I am so sorry that she has had to suffer so badly. I would report anyone who does that without even thinking about it. Evil people like that need to be taken out of the healthcare industry. It would break my heart if I found out that someone I cared about had been treated so disgustingly.