Does Your Spouse Always Make Things Harder On You?
By ladym33
@ladym33 (10978)
United States
June 1, 2009 4:54pm CST
Wednesday is laundry day around here. Always has been the day ever since I married my husband nearly 20 years ago. Often times I will finish up my laundry which takes me 2 days to do by the way because I have a family of 5. It always seems like the minute I put that last item of clothing away my husband will dump a bunch of clothes in to the laundry basket. He gets dressed in his office so his closet is in there rather than our room. So a lot of times he will put things on and then decide he does not want to wear that and instead of hanging it back up he will toss to the side.
Then today I had just finished doing all the dishes, 15 minutes later my husband comes down with a big stack of cups that have been accumulating in his office.
When I get upset about these things he tells me I am over acting.
Dose your spouse do things like this to you?
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5 responses
@hmkoct5 (2065)
• United States
3 Jun 09
No, my spouse doesn't do things like that. I am actually worse than he is. I am the one who leaves the dirty glasses lying around. My sons, on the other hand, do tend to do stuff like that. I will just clean something and two minutes later, it gets dirty. When that happens, they know they are going to be the ones cleaning it up. I think over the years they have learned to take care of the areas that I have just cleaned. There is nothing more frustrating than having to redo something you just did!
@Citychic (4067)
• United States
2 Jun 09
Does your spouse make things harder on you?
Hello Ladym33, welcome to the club of married life. It's all about nonstop work for the wife. Constantly we have to pick up and clean up behind others. Believe me it can get to be very irritating if you allow it to. I would suggest that you think on the good things that your hubby is doing instead of dwelling on the bad. He might be a good provider etc. Everybody have something good about them. You simply need to try to figure out what it is. Many of us are still so fortunate to have our spouses still around, while so many have lost their husbands already. Well I could go on and on concerning this subject and how it really does get on our nerves to have to pick up and clean up behind others, day in and day out but it's all a part of being a wife so therefore we might ask God to help us to accept those things in life that we cannot change. Be blessed and have a wonderful life and try to enjoy your hubby. Peace out.
@GardenGerty (169453)
• United States
1 Aug 09
Yes, sometimes he does, but he thinks that he is helping. For instance, my laundry. He does not always get it out of the dryer and put up without it wrinkling. But he insists on washing it, since he is home more than I am, and I also earn more online than he does. Together we have just finally gotten the kitchen all clean and all the sinks empty, but he does things differently than I do. We have different priorities. He also cooks, but does not always clean up after himself. I am thankful that he is so fully invested in our life together, though. Most of the time I try to not over react, but I have my days and sometimes I get a little unkind about the whole thing.I try to think about that when I go upstairs and the bed is so nicely made.
@gitfiddleplayer (10362)
• United States
2 Jun 09
Sometimes, I take care of the home stuff since I'm a stay at home dad but I have to cut them slack, I'm not going to change their habits to fit mine. I do think that people who take care of stuff do get taken advantage of though. I would just let it become their responsibility for a while, see how they handle it.
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