Tell me I am being silly

I wouldn't dismissed as you being silly. There are too many events that is there to see that she is avoiding you. You need to asked yourself couple of question 'Is it that this begin since she has become intimate this man who is now her husband', Is it that during the wedding you have said something that was negative and she felt offended by it. Call her and asked her why your relationship has been broken. This is the only way you can healed and moved on. My elder sister and I is no friend but on her wedding day even though I was late there are pictures that we took together as a family.

The devil always comes between something which is good but it is for those individuals to mend it before it spread. Take care.

You are not just "being silly"... your feelings are real, and they are really hurt! You do need to talk to her about it. She really may not be doing it on purpose. That doesn't make a lot of sense, but she may simply be taking you for granted and assuming you understand. ... or there may be something you did that you are unaware of. On any account, talk to her, it's the only way to mend anything. Communication is the key to relationship!

Hi Big Sister from another Big Sister. You are both going through an adjustment period and I doubt that your baby sister even realizes that your feelings are hurt. If the wedding reception was hectic I'm sure you weren't overlooked on purpose. I remember my first wedding reception as one big blur. Staying at her husband's friend's house the last time she was in town could have just been a matter of convenience or maybe she was asserting her independence a little bit. I'm only guessing of course. The best thing for you to do is to talk to your sister and clear the air. I have always been closer to my middle sister than my baby sister and it was hard to not be Number 1 anymore when she fell in love. She wasn't intentionally shutting me out but it felt like it to me. It sounds like you've been a wonderful big sister and I'm sure your baby sister appreciates everything you've done for her. This is most likely a misunderstanding so give her a call.

Oh I wish I have you for a sister. I would have been more blessed. That's so sweet of you. Don't worry too much about it, sometimes, when you are too available to a person they tend to take you for granted in a little way, coz they know that you're just there and aside from that you're as much close - you belong to one family. Maybe these stuff are mere coincidence. Talk to her and ask her to sleepover one of these days, if she refused for no reason then that's the only time you should panic and start asking yourself why is she doing these kind of stuff.

I'm sure she's also a good sister to everybody or you wouldn't have gone an extra mile to help her out. Rest assured, she knows all your efforts but her attention are more drawn to people that is not available at those moments, people she misses... and because you're always there for her, I'm sure that's the main reason why she doesn't need to call for you, coz you're already there without being asked and its a fine quality of a person I would dare to miss express my heartfelt gratitude. So on behalf of her, thank you for being such a nice sister and family member.

There must be something she learned or she was dissappointed of with you. Try to ask her what made her change. You might be unaware of a little disappointment maybe made by others towards you. You would be continuously hurt by her wrongdoings should you would not know what it is all about. I know how you feel and it really hurts. I just hope everything would be fine between you and your beloved sis.

In most cases like this when someone feels bad about something they normally tend to ignore that person. I think in your case its the same too. As rest say she must have felt bad about something. Yes talking it out is the best solution or you might go on hurting her and she will kind of develop more stronger hatred for you. So talk it out before its gets nowwhere. Hope you and you sister pair up fast.

I don't think you are being foolish or petty at all. I think that maybe much of what you have done was done when your sis was really young and taking things for granted. She probably looks at you as someone who will always be there for her no matter what....she takes you for granted. I think you should say something to her...not in an accusing way but just talk straight to her. I am guessing that she is oblivious as to how you feel. talk to her.

I'll give you the "little sister" perspective. God I HATE that label! lol
I'm the youngest of four. My oldest sister and I are seperated by 13 years.
We have issues. We have a decent relationship sometimes, but we definitely don't understand eachother on a lot of things.

You'r "baby sister" is growing up. She doesn't need you as much anymore.
She still loves you. I'm sure she appreciates what you've done for her.
Right now, her focus has changed. She has another family in her life.
Her husband maybe be (and probably should be) her "go to" person now.

She is probably trying (to some degree) to impress her new family.
Don't you have in-laws? Don't you know how challenging it can be to get used to your new family?

Give her a little space. Let her get used to her "new life". Stay in touch, try not to be resentful. Let her know you're happy for her and you're still there for her, but respect that she has new priorities now.

I understand that you feel a bit slighted, but I hope you can try to understand her perspective on things.

Good luck.

i am glad that you have got it off your chest. some things really bug us to no end if it remains within ourselves for a long time. without our realising, it results in a whole lot of negativity which affects us.
i dont think you are being silly. i realise that you are very hurt by your sisters behaviour. maybe, unknowingly, you did something wrong... maybe said the wrong words or something. or it could even be that you are too possessive and demanding of her that she feels smothered. or maybe she is so caught up in her new life and relationships and she just took you for granted. it may not be that she doesn't care for you, it may just be that you are sort of 'invisible', but always available as far as she is concerned.
anyway, i would suggest that you talk to her about it as soon as possible.

You're not silly! I can totally understand. That would piss me off big time if somebody treated me like that. Excuse my language, but seriously, what's wrong with her? You've been treating her so well and she doesn't seem to return anything. That's not an appropriate behavior. Maybe something occured between you and her that you don't know about but upset her. I don't know. But to be honest, those actions were impolite of her. If I were you, I'd me really, really mad. I feel sorry for you.
I hope you can work this issue out:).