Tell me I am being silly

Hi Meandmy3, It sounds that as she knows that you are always there she is just taking you a bit for granted, she may not even realise she is doing it and subconciously she may have been jalous of your hubby and kids and now she has her own hubby and is trying to impres his friends and family as she knows she doesn't need to with you, I don't know but I would say she is your younger sister as they do seem to be like this towards the older sister. I have never had a sister but I have two girls and seen the younger one feel she was in her older sisters shadow, however I would mention it and tell her how her actions are making you feel as she probably doesn't even realise that she is doing it. Let her settle a bit more into married life and I am sure you'll be like best friends again. Deep down she apprciates all you do but has come to expect it. A total outside point of view I could be totally wrong here. Huggles. Ellie:D

Feelings are never silly. You feel how you feel and that's about it. I really think that you should talk things out with your sister. Explain to her how you feel and see what she has to say. If there IS a problem it will give you two a chance to solve it and if there ISN'T a problem then it will point out to her how insensitive she's been and either she'll make an effort to fix it or not. Then you'd have to see where you go from there but NOTHING will happen if you don't talk to her about it.

You are not being sily at all. She was probubly caught up in the moment, and just forgot. The only thing that I can tell you is that you are more than likley a great person and you will be appreciated no matter what you think. I think that you should just let her know how you feel about it and go from there. I am sure that she loves you and she is grateful to have a sister as great as you. I am sure that if it comes down to it she will be the first person to try to help you if you are ever in danger or any other trouble no matter what it is. Hope this helps you in one way or another..

Aww, not silly. You have every right to your feelings. It sounds like you are being taken for granted a bit. It is possible that it just has not occurred to her with everything going on in her life.

You should sit her down and have a long talk. You feelings matter. If something has happened to cause this behavior in her she should discuss it with you.

I can see how that would hurt your feelings.... maybe she is just trying to get used to her new in-laws and hubby's friends... maybe she is just going through an adjustment phase in her life, and I am sure that she still loves you very much.

I hope that things get better for you and that you and your sister become close again, but just remember to keep your cool and be prepared to be there for her when she needs you. Maybe this is a phase and she will need you when she gets out of it. Just give her time... hope things get better!!

Your feelings are hurt. That's not silly, it's honest. I wouldn't let it go. I would wait til a time when you have a moment alone and ask her. At least then you'll know, and can clear the air. Hopefully things will work out for the best.

I also wouldn't say that you're being silly.

I've been overlooked by my sister a few times too, and it really does hurt. Sometimes, siblings are so used to you that they take you for granted; or sometimes they have even more siblings that they feel need their attention right now, and they get distracted.

I'd say ask your sister to visit so you can have some one on one family time. Just her, not her husband. Have her come and stay with you for a weekend and make it just sibling time. That's helped me.

Tell me am I being silly?

Hello Meandmy3, personally speaking I don't think that you are being silly. It's apparent that you are the older one and I hate to be the one to say it but i have seen this to happen in my own family. The younger ones sit around and they expect for the older ones to do certain things for them. Oh and as long as you are doing it everything is nice and lovely but when you stop. Guess what, all communication stops. Now I don't know how close you were with your sister but it does sound as if she is treating you mighty distant and almost cold. I think that you should sit down and write her a letter and just tell her how you feel. One thing that you must be aware of is that things change in life. Particularly when a sibling decides to get married. So while you are happy for her and you want to see the best things happen for her. Let her know how you feel about the whole situation. But try to stay away from mentioning all the money that you've spent on her but rather instead focus on the friendship and the good times that you once had with her and let her know that you miss her company. If you want to have a sister relationship her in the future you need to let her know and then wish her the best and leave it up to her how she chooses to respond. It sounds as if your little sister is trying to find her own way. Often when they get married they get wrapped up into their husband's life and lifestyle. The old person that you might have known a long time ago could be gone already. For in marriage she will have to learn how to stand her own ground so a new person might be emerging, don't be surprised with whatever happens. But at least you will have done your part by trying to extend your hand in friendship one final time. Best wishes with the two of you.... I always believed that a sisterly relationship was one of the most special kind of relationships there was. It would be shame that your sister is too immature to see it. It make me sad when things like this happens between two sisters born of the same parents. God bless you.

She is probably so swept up in her new life, wedding, and husband as well as getting to know his family that she does not even realize she is shutting you out. She probably knows you will always be there for her and right now she is trying to concentrate on getting to know her new husband's family and friends. They were probably invited by the friends to stay and she did not want to offend the people by not staying with them as she is just getting to know them. She knows you will like her and love her no matter what. But she probably really does not realize she is hurting you and probably did not mean to not include you. If it bothers you enough you should talk to her about it. She is your sister after all.

Hmmm, well it might be she is trying to feel... "grown up" now she is married, and not rely on her big sister, if you know what i mean? Thats just a wild guess lol. It doesnt sound like you have done anything wrong, and i certainly dont think you are being silly! You should maybe try talking to her, maybe put it like
"You seem to have been a bit distant lately, is everything ok?" rather than directly ask "Have i done something??" then it gives her the oppertunity to tell you. If it then continues ask her is you have done something!