I know one of my sons is lying to me.

hi pillusch,
i just want to tell you one thing.young children especially teens like your son don't like to be watched or disturbed by their parents,they just like to spend time with their friends.if you have trust on your son,you won't ring him often,to ask what he is doing,so trust him and let him have a sleepover without any disturbance,he will be just fine.

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Hi pillusch, We are just concerned parents and we don't want anything happen to our children. I don't know why some children doesn't want their parents to check where they are and what are they doing. Try to have a heart to heart talk with your son, let him realize that you love him so much that you don't want anything bad will happen to him. Let him know that you trusted him and he must be responsible in every action he will take. And explain to him that you just want his whereabouts so that you can have peace. I have a suggestion, why don't you try to invite you child's friend and have their sleepover in your place and try to be friendly, talk to them sing, play, watch movie with them.

I think you should lie low for some more time. I remember the time when I was that age...acting big and expecting mom to show me that respect, which of course she did't. This is not the age to understand parental worries, rather you embarass him the more you call him. As a mother, I can relate to your worries, but first you must earn his trust...so dont call him until and unless its really important. You may just call once to see if everything's OK...if they are home (wherever that sleepover is) and after that leave it to the boys to enjoy themselves. I think if you dont call him every 10mins for some days or weeks maybe, he would be more forthcoming to receive your calls.

this is part of growing up but....guidance should always been there maybe you should let him experience what we have experience before...i myself has stop this already but im 26 years old and i, myself choose to stop it...anyway his a boy and the just be sure that he will not get involved to any prohibited drugs...

you are too much worry with your children.he need sometime to be alone.it will teach him to grew up,to learn something new,wheter it's good or not',it'll be a experience to him,,you also ever young too,,i think you knew that.

Whenever my girls stayed at someone's home, I had to have the phone # of the parents. I would call the parents and confirm the plans. Calling his cell phone every 10 mins. won't do anything other than upset him and maybe embarrass him in front of his friends. Even if he picks up, it won't assure you really that he is where he is telling you he is. Good luck. Teen years are fun aren't they?

I'm guessing since your profile says you live in the D.F. that that is where he is as well. I agree very much with what poetrypose said and I would also like to add this. I have a son that will be 14 in July, he has just recently started staying over night at friends house in fact tonight is the second time. My son for the most part is a good kid, gets good grades and all the other kids parents tell me he is very respectful so I really don't worry too much when he goes out, but we have a few rules and if he doesn't follow those rules he just don't go out period! Now in the D.F. it's even more dangerous than it is here crime level is higher, and well you live there so you know what it's like.

Here's what I do with my boy..

1: When he goes out he is to call me ( this takes away the embarrassment of me calling him ) let's say he leaves at 5 p.m. he is to call me no later than 7 p.m. If I say he is to be home at 8 he is to be home at 8!

2: If he's at a sleep over I talk with the other kid's parents and find out what the plans are, if they will be in the house the whole time or plan on taking the kids somewhere.

3: My son calls me right before going to bed and then before 10 a.m. the next day ( I know the kids like to stay up late so I give him time to sleep in )

I must say this strategy has been working well. I give him the trust and freedom he wants ( to an extent ) and as long as he is being responsible and keeping in contact with me then it's fine,.. if he " forgets " to call me and is more than 15 minutes late on a call then he doesn't go out the next time. Not once has he missed a call yet;)!

Keyword is yet LOL I know the day will come. As our children grow we must grow with them. Yes your sons minutes disappear because well he's a teen they can chat up phone minutes quicker than we can blink. As for the phone not working in the mall mmm well it depends on what kind of phone and who the provider is.. if it's a cheapo phone then it probably doesn't work inside the mall.. so test it out take him to the mall to go buy a shirt or something and have a plan with someone else to call his cell while you are in the mall.

Anyhow as said try having him call you at set times, and let him know that he is to respect those times otherwise he doesn't go out for a couple of days,.. etc.. and tell him he still needs to make sure his phone has some minutes because " If you have an emergency you might need to get ahold of him to let him know what's going on" I find when I word things a little different it works much better;) Good luck.

You are right he is lying to you but this is not unusual at that age. As far as the sleep over is concerned please confirm it with a parent of the other kid. If possible meet the parent at their house and make sure the sleep over is supervised. Call him one time in the evening and call that house the next morning to make sure he is there. When he goes out other times make sure he shows you his cell phone and ascertain there are sufficient credits on it for him to call you. Ask him if he prefers to call home at a certain time, if he says yes make sure he does. Tell him you worry about him and you have no interest in snooping but you need to establish trust between the two of you and you need to know that he is safe. Good luck.

when i was that age i hated my nanna checking on me, it was embarrassing in front of my friends, we all think we know everything at that age but in reality we don't we think were all grown up and that parents know nothing, back then we didn't have cell fones, so we had to stay close to home, your son is only doing what any normal teen is doing, he doesn't want you calling him all the time and he is using his mall thing as an excuse, just ask him to call you at a certain time when theres a signal on his fone just to let you know that he's ok....sometimes my fone does not work in the mall because there is no signal, but i am sure he's not going to spend the whole night there, as soon as he is out of the mall, ask him to call you just once to let you know he's ok, or even get him to text you to let you know he's ok, as long as you get some kind of message it will put your mind at rest, then in the morning, ask him to call you again...kids think they rule the world in this day and age, they grow up way too fast...but we worry as parents and they just won't understand that till they have kids of their own