I know one of my sons is lying to me.

Hi,
Well these are kids these days and they grow up so fast. He is starting his teen age and calling every 10 mins by dad is surely is a big downthing for the kid. it is not that he want to lie but he would be embarrassed in front og friends that his dad is always calling. the credits u sent would be soon consumed if someother friend called. It is not that he is doing something bad but he has to have his psace in front of friends and probably girls there too where he must be trying to impress them by showing how much he has grown up. may be call from you time and again in front of them make things hard for him so it would be better if you tell him to call you twice or thrice a night, so he would when he can get away from crowd. This is my personal opinion and since i am not a dad so i can be 100% wrong.

Come on! Your 13 year old child has a cell phone. One that, no doubt you pay for. And he won't take your calls? Who's the parent here? Children let on the loose get into all kinds of trouble. Parents must guide their children. Take charge.

You have many responses, I think the best think is to follow your heart and if you are not comfortable with the sleepover just pick him up and tell him he can go places as long as you are able to get in touch with him whenever you want, after all you pay for this convenience.
Good luck.

Don't you know 13 years requires a declaration of war. You need allies, contact other parents, especially the ones where sleep overs are to take place, find out how supervised these are. Don't you remember being 13? There is so much trouble out there that young men can get into and if you feel he's lying, he is. How easy is it for each boy to say the sleep over is at another's home and then go, lord, only knows where, but you can bet it's somewhere you don't want him to be. Many times children challenge the parents and a part of them wants you to care enough to go to the effort to protect them. Good luck

That is a tough one. I also have a son that age and he lies to me on a regular basis. Some things I just let go and get him about it later, others I get after him repeatedly reminding him of inconsistancies in what he says. I know he will lie. I lied to my parents when I was young. I use every opportunity to teach a lesson about lying, respect, honesty worthiness. It is a tough age and until my son grows out of this phase, I believe it will continue to be difficult. But one thing, if I believe he is lying about to many things and especially big things then he has to stay home. I just dont let him go beyond our yard or the park in the back of our house.

As a mom myself, I'm a worry wart. My kids never go anywhere unless I take them, meet and talk to the parents. If I want to call my kids, I will do so, I could care less if they don't like it. With so many things wrong with this world today, my kids could easily go missing.

Now as being a 13 year old at one point, it's not fun being out with friends to have my parents call me all the time to check up on me. Everyone around me, would call me mamma's girl. When I was 13, I could be outside without my parents and not worry about some sicko taking me away.

So for this situation, I would sit him down and explain to him. If he wants to keep the cell phone, he better be available when you call him. That's the main reason he has the phone in the first place. If his phone stops working in a mall, which can happen, doesn't mean that it does with all the wifi hot spots.

As a parent in this situation, I would drop him off or wait until he's picked up, after making sure I got the housing information. Then I would wait 30 minutes to an hour and drive by there to see if he's there. That's just me though.

He probably is lying; he 13 and I know I used to lie to my parents at that age. For me, the lies didn’t have anything to do with bad stuff; they were just useful so I could keep my reputation with my friends.

I wouldn’t have liked calling home every 10 minutes! Why not once every hour or two? I would say his friends are probably giving him a hard time about having to call home. You can compromise; he can call less frequently and you can drop him off and pick him up.

I remember, although it was a real long time ago (LOL), that being a teenager is not the easiest; you are so close to becoming an adults and a lack the vision that comes with adulthood.

I was the same as him when I was that age. I lied and did things that hurt my parents. I hope that he doesn't get into trouble, I did and I wish I had that time back. Perhaps you should take him on a day trip somewhere and have a heart to heart with him. Explain to him that you are worried he may be led astray by friends and find out how he feels. Hopefully he will open up a little and talk about himself.

I am sorry that you have to deal with this. It won't hurt your child to have his privalages taken from him. Don't let him go to sleepovers, take away his phone. Phones don't work in shopping malls most of the time, but he is 13 and I think that 13 is both too young for a cell phone... and too young to be running around like a ... well a teenager. These are privalages that need to be earned in time, not suddenly added to him because he has reached a certain age. He needs to earn your trust, and it sounds like that hasn't happened yet. So, start back at square one and make him earn the privilage of being a teenager.

Your son is probably afraid that you will know he is lying.
But he is already a teenager and you full well know how they
are keeping things a secret.I suggest that you will talk to him in
a calm manner and gain his trust once more.