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Should I or should I not sell my wedding dress?? email this discussion to a friend?

myLot reputation of 86/100. mrsl2008 (270)   ranked 28 out of 755 in got married7 months ago

Hi guys,

I'm toying with the idea of selling my wedding dress. I got married 18 months ago in New York and since then it has been hanging on the back of my bedroom door.

I mentioned the idea to my husband and he said it was upto me but didn't want me to regret it at a later date. Although I said, if I did we could renew our vows and I could have a brand new dress!!

It is in excellent condition, just a couple of marks on the underneath of the small train, which should come out.

I really don't know wether to just do it or not!! If I do, do I fix a price and then sell it online/newspaper ad or do I auction it off on eBay?? If I sell at a fixed price how do I decide how much it should be? The dress cost me £700 in the sale.

Have you sold your wedding dress? Would you sell your wedding dress?
If you sold it, how did you go about it??

Thanks for reading

 
 
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1. myLot reputation of 85/100. clutterbug (821)   ranked 619 out of 755 in got married   7 months ago

Hi mrsl2008, I didn't sell my wedding dress, because I didn't want a hassle with mailing, etc., so I gave it to a charity. If you sell your dress, just remember to take the condition of the marks on it into consideration as to a price. If you want to make a sale at all, lower the price. Ebay is a great place to sell stuff, I recommend Ebay as my hubby has sold lots of items there.


myLot reputation of 86/100. mrsl2008 (270)   ranked 28 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

Hi Clutterbug

Thanks for the response, I can imagine if I sold it, it would probaly only get about £100 as people don't want to spend their hard earned money, which is fair enough in current financial situation.

I did think about gifting but not to sound a little rude, but if someone pays me for it, at least I know it's going to a good home.

I never realised there was such a huge market for used wedding dresses, when I looked for mine, I tried on 16 in the first shop and the last one I bought. It wasn't what I had in mind but now it seems such a waste to just sit there and get dusty.

ebay seems the best option as I wouldn't know what to price it at, so what it goes for, it goes for.

Thanks

Mrsl x


myLot reputation of 78/100. mysdianait (12090)   ranked 69 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

Why do you think it would be worth so little after such a short time? confused


myLot reputation of 86/100. mrsl2008 (270)   ranked 28 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

I think because it's used I suppose.

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2. myLot reputation of 88/100. kprofgames (1442)   ranked 150 out of 755 in got married   7 months ago

I didn't sell mine, but out family has a tradition that it's held over for the next generation. I thought about it when money got hard, but I'm glad I didn't. My daughter now soon to be 19 has met a man and they are talking marriage. She wants to wear my dress. We are close and she tried it on and we got all teary eyed.

Some families don't do that, but passing down the wedding dress goes back in mine. It has a sentamental falue to her and I'm glad I didn't sell it so she can have it when the time it right.


myLot reputation of 86/100. mrsl2008 (270)   ranked 28 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

Hi,

It is really nice to hear your so close to your daughter and the family tradition. There is no such tradition in our family although my mum holds onto evertything including her wedding dress.

I wanted my own dress and my eldest daughter although still young is of the opinion that when & IF she gets married she wants to have a new one, which she seems to think I'm paying for!! Although I will, just don't want her taking things for granted!!

I'm in 2 minds but leaning towards selling, I can't stand the thought of it getting dusty.

Thanks for the response and hopefully your daughter will get to wear the dress soon

Mrsl x x

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3. myLot reputation of 78/100. mysdianait (12090)   ranked 69 out of 755 in got married   7 months ago

I kept mine as it didn't seem quite right to sell it or give it away. It seemed such a personal thing and I didn't like the idea of anyone else wearing it so I hung on to it for years. If I had my time over again though I would sell it almost immediately because I lost it when the basement in the house I was living in at the time was flooded doh I kept it there with several other memoirs of the wedding day and the whole lot were ruined in the mud and water that poured into the basements when a river overflowed after days of torrential rain.

A wedding dress holds many memeories. I had thought of using part of it as the christening gown for a child when it came along. That fell through when we then decide not to have out sone baptised until he was older.

I suggest that if the thought is bugging you then you go ahead and sell it. As you say, you can have a new one when you renew your vows and it could always be along the same lines as the original.


myLot reputation of 86/100. mrsl2008 (270)   ranked 28 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

Hi

It seems so sad you wanted to keep it and it was taken away from you by mother nature!!!!

It does hold memories, but my family are just not the sentimental type, never have been and I too have inherited the trait! I just think it is such a waste just hanging there when it could make someone elses day.

I would sell it instead of gifting as I said in another post, this is so I know it's going to a good home more than about the money.

I think I might go for something a little different when we renew, my dress is simple but gorgeous and I was scared I wasn't going to get into it as 10 weeks before the wedding I found out I was 2 months pregnant!! I had to leave the final fitting until 2 weeks before flying & it was taken out as far as it would go. Although it is still only a size 12, had to allow for 2 weeks worth of growth!!

Thanks

Mrsl x x


myLot reputation of 78/100. mysdianait (12090)   ranked 69 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

Yes I saw the reason for your choice of selling rather than gifting and I agree with you completely on that! thumbup

Is there a particular season where you are when weddings are more popular and there might be more of a market for it? Here there are more weddings from May through until end of August


myLot reputation of 86/100. mrsl2008 (270)   ranked 28 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

I think the market is strong now as there are traditionally more weddings June through to September.

I may list on eBay with a reserve to test the water, I can always retract if I have second thoughts.


myLot reputation of 78/100. mysdianait (12090)   ranked 69 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

I hope it will go well for you and that you will get a nice surprise and it will be worth more than you are anticipating thumbup

Keep us updated please and good luck!


myLot reputation of 99/100. Aliceinwebland (5046)   ranked 74 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

Setting a reserve price is a safe mode and wise thumbup


myLot reputation of 99/100. Aliceinwebland (5046)   ranked 74 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

Sad that you lost yours in a flood MysD sad That is one aspect that I didn't think of, fair enough we can have photographs and video (do you?) but if you were going to use the material for a christening gown, then indeed it was a sad loss and in such cases it would be nice to keep the dress. Sort of like recycling love and memories ... sigh*


myLot reputation of 78/100. mysdianait (12090)   ranked 69 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

Yes I do have photos and video and you also know me well enough to know that I must have read a hidden message into that event too wink I did! It was long after 'the end' when that happened and there was just no point in hanging on to it any longer so it was sort of gotten rid of by the powers that be and long after it should have been too whistle


myLot reputation of 99/100. Aliceinwebland (5046)   ranked 74 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

No arguing with the powers that be! thumbup

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4. myLot reputation of 99/100. Aliceinwebland (5046)   ranked 74 out of 755 in got married   7 months ago

hiya mrsl

If you feel it's a waste just lying there gathering dust (not literally lol) and you could use the money to buy a new outfit when you renew your wedding vows then by all means sell. If you feel you would miss seeing it then whats wrong with wearing it for a few hours and taking some video footage or photographs, which you probably have anyway from your wedding day. It could be the same old story of possessing a thing and finding it hard to let go of material belongings (no pun intended)
If you do then set it at a fixed price, that way you will finalize the amount you feel it's worth once it hs sold. Whether you sell it on line or through an add in the newspaper or shop window etc that would just be down to a matter of which you feel would get it sold quicker and easier.
I didn't have a big affair or a fancy expensive dress so I didn't have one to sell.

Alice happy


myLot reputation of 86/100. mrsl2008 (270)   ranked 28 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

Hi

I am leaning towards selling although my auction as it's worth whatever someone else wants to pay.

It was gorgeous on my wedding day, which turned out to be the hottest day we were there!! But now it seems such a waste.

The dress was the only traditional thing I wanted, everything else I wasn't worried about. We married in Central Park, so I don't think I can call it a small affair but we only had 12 of our closest family & friends there as didn't want a huge fuss. The day was about us, not everyone else.

Getting married is the most important thing & if I hadn't have had my dress I would of still married him in jeans & tshirt!! I think thats why I'm not fussed about keeping it, just that keeping it is the done thing.

Mrsl x x


myLot reputation of 78/100. mysdianait (12090)   ranked 69 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

'if I hadn't have had my dress I would of still married him in jeans & tshirt'[/i
Awwwww that is so sweet!

<<< reaches for the tissues cry


myLot reputation of 86/100. mrsl2008 (270)   ranked 28 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

Just don't tell him I got soppy!! He's in my bad books today as he broken our little ones car seat by being heavy handed!!


myLot reputation of 99/100. Aliceinwebland (5046)   ranked 74 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

My lips are ssealed lol. Car seats are expensive to buy, I hope you can have it repaired.
<<< takes a few tissues from MysD cry, who says romance is dead. I expect most men would like to just get married in their jeans too lol


myLot reputation of 78/100. mysdianait (12090)   ranked 69 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

I guess you have a point there Alice! thumbup
A lot of fuss about nothing?whistle


myLot reputation of 99/100. Aliceinwebland (5046)   ranked 74 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

Well to most of us it's not really about nothing, it's a very special day, but look at how men hate to go shopping for instance, it's like trying to get blood out of a stone sometimes rolleyes Then there are the romantic ones who would just be happy that you were there by his side ...no matter what you were wearing (as mrsl pointed out) I reckon the most romantic thing is to run away to Gretna Green .. sigh*


myLot reputation of 78/100. mysdianait (12090)   ranked 69 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

On a lighter note...
the day I married, to top it all Italy played England in a friendly and we had an afternoon ceremony. Half way through the meal that evening all the males vanished to watch tv doh

p.s. I have honestly forgotten who won lol


myLot reputation of 99/100. Aliceinwebland (5046)   ranked 74 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

shocked typical men! whistle


myLot reputation of 86/100. mrsl2008 (270)   ranked 28 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

lolTypical men!!! To run off half way through the dinner!! I would of been most upset if the men had done that on our day as we booked Tavern on the green, which needless to say was very expensive!! My daughter didn't like the menu and ended up with a £32.50 hot dog!!!

Although I really don't think it matters what you marry in and I think the men would be happy with jeans to cut out the fuss!!! It was my husband who convinced me to get married in New York as I got upset over the planning as it became about everyone else instead of about us. So we ditched the big do & opted for the more intimate!!

I would have done Gretna Green but he let me choose the destination!

The memories are the most precious things that won't be taken away by the powers that be fingers crossed!!!

I tried the dress on today and I feel it deserves more than hanging on my door!!


myLot reputation of 99/100. Aliceinwebland (5046)   ranked 74 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

shocked 32.50 for a hot dog!!! you could buy a wedding dress for that lol


myLot reputation of 86/100. mrsl2008 (270)   ranked 28 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

lolROFL!!!!

Your probaly right!!

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5. myLot reputation of 98/100. tattylashes (4295)   ranked 52 out of 755 in got married   7 months ago

sell it, if it was £700, you could try getting £600 with head dress and veil, and if you do decide to renew your vows then get a new dress. i would like a new dress if i renewed my vows i wouldn't want to wear the same dress that i got married in...so go for it, sell it and then when you decide to renew, renew your outfit too...


myLot reputation of 86/100. mrsl2008 (270)   ranked 28 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

Hi Tattylashes,

Thanks for the positive response, I would be very impressed if I got anything over £100 for it.

I had a Tiara but no veil, even if I had a veil I would never of worn it as it was just too hot. I ended up buying some new underwear on the day as the ones I had would have caused me problems. I also have wedding underwear from Debenhams that has never been worn as it was just too hot.

I shall give it a go I think and see how I get on

Mrsl x x


myLot reputation of 98/100. tattylashes (4295)   ranked 52 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

have you thought about making a christening gown out of it, i do see a little baby in your avatar, is this your child and is he/she christened? if not maybe you could get a gown out of it, failing that you could try and sell it for more than £100, i am sure if you put it in auction on ebay someone may place a nice bid for it, even the undies, sell them as a job lot with the tiara and dress, i am sure someone will want it....good luck...


myLot reputation of 86/100. mrsl2008 (270)   ranked 28 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

That is my youngest on the day she was born! she's now a lot bigger and running riot, likes to climb everything & loves a challenge!!

Neither of my girls are christened as we divided religions & don't go to church or follow, so feel slightly awkward about doing it for the sake of it.

I may just do the job lot & see how it goes.


myLot reputation of 98/100. tattylashes (4295)   ranked 52 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

yes i am the same, i have not had my kids christened because i am not a religious person and i do not follow the religious thing, it's something that i am not into, by the way your daughter is beautiful, i bet she's into everything....good luck with your sale, you must come back and let us know if the sale was successful...good luck....

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6. myLot reputation of 90/100. Ammudoll (437)   ranked 620 out of 755 in got married   7 months ago

In our culture we don't sell our wedding dress. We just wear it on some or the other occassion. I know that you can't wear wedding dress after the wedding ceremony has been done. About sellling it I really don't know which is the best place to sell it.


myLot reputation of 86/100. mrsl2008 (270)   ranked 28 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

Hi Ammudoll,

Your lucky to be able to wear it for other things but unfortunately mine is not the type to wear again.

Thanks for the response

Mrsl x x

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7. myLot reputation of 74/100. djsimonmlb (363)   ranked 618 out of 755 in got married   7 months ago

If you feel it symbolizes your wedding and you really cherish your marriage then keep it. If you need a little extra cash or you have other symbols of your marriage then sell it. It really is completely up to you so take a while to decide then ask your husband for an honest opinion other than the decision back to you.


myLot reputation of 86/100. mrsl2008 (270)   ranked 28 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

Hi,

I do cherish my marriage however don't feel my dress defines the whole thing. As I said in another response, I would have married him in jeans & t shirt as the getting married was the important bit.

It just seems wasteful to have this dress that could potentially make someone else's day.

It certainly isn't about the money, that would just be a bonus. If it sold for £50 to someone who was going to get a wonderful day out of it, it would be worth every penny.

The point of selling it, is to make sure it goes to someone who wants it instead of gifting it to just anyone.

I still haven't made my mind up for sure yet, as it is custom to keep them. I suppose I like to make people happy and feel my dress could do that for someone.


Thanks for the response

Mrsl x x

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8. myLot reputation of 81/100. chaitu33 (712)   ranked 632 out of 755 in got married   7 months ago

i will never sell my wedding dress and also i won`t give it away in charity. i will protect it from all the factors so that i can show that dress to my children or grandchildren



myLot reputation of 86/100. mrsl2008 (270)   ranked 28 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

Thanks for the reponse.

Mrsl

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9. myLot reputation of 67/100. catarina_rg (236)   ranked 582 out of 755 in got married   7 months ago

This is precisely why I want to marry in a simple dress I can wear more than once. You paind a bundle for it and now it just sits there, with no pratical use, however it is your wedding dress and has a lot of emotional meaning.

If I were you I would hold on to it. After all, you only get married once (at least i hope...) and even though it is a bit shallow, what you wore on your special day, has some significance.

And inspite of having no real use now it can eventually become a family heirance... Your daughter may like it and wish to marry in it.


myLot reputation of 86/100. mrsl2008 (270)   ranked 28 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

Hi,

I have already been told by my eldest she would like a new dress although she refuses to part with her bridesmaids dress!! Go figure!!!

My problem is I don't seem to have this emotional attachment to the dress at all!! It was a dress, I can't wear again. I got married to be married, so have no intention of doing it again even if this one didn't work out.

It seems to be going to waste hung on my bedroom door, I want it to make someone else happy.

I cherise getting married but not what I wore.

I definately vote the simple dress route!! You will never have to worry about this kind of thing!!!

We'll see, I'm not totally set on selling it yet!!


Thanks

Mrsl xx


myLot reputation of 67/100. catarina_rg (236)   ranked 582 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

Well, I don't know how old your daughter is but she may come around... until a few years back I wanted a big wedding and now I just a really low key type of event. So people come around and change their mind...

And even if she doesn't you may have a younger daughter who will want to wear it or maybe you son's future wife...


myLot reputation of 86/100. mrsl2008 (270)   ranked 28 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

Maybe, maybe not. I think this is the issue that is holding me back from just selling it. 1) because it is custom to hold on to it & 2) because there may be someone down the line who will benefit.

I shall have a think, I won't do anything until I am 100% sure I am happy with what I'm doing!

Thanks

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10. myLot reputation of 95/100. wahmivy (540)   ranked 13 out of 755 in got married   7 months ago

I think that really depends on the type of person you are. If you're very sentimental, I would advise against it. If you're more practical than sentimental, then I think selling it wouldn't be a problem. Just consider some possible scenarios in the future, like whether your wedding dress has a classic enough design to still be beautiful and acceptable fashion-wise when, say, your own daughter gets married... not that you'd force it on her, but at least that would be one of her options... Personally, I won't sell it. My wedding dress is not a very classic style. It was designed esp for me with my personality in mind (the dress is very gypsy/boho). I'm also very sentimental so I can't sell it even if somebody did want it, lol.


myLot reputation of 86/100. mrsl2008 (270)   ranked 28 out of 755 in got married  7 months ago

I am more practical than sentimental unlike my mother.

It is a fairly simple dress, so perhaps would stand the test of time.

I see your point about my daughter possibly having it as an option just worry it will deteriorate over time and miss being seen in public again.

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