Have You Ever Changed Your Name For Reasons Besides Marriage?  |
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 I have never cared for the tradition of a woman going from her father's name to her husband's name. I also wanted something that reflected my Danish heritage. I'm Danish-Canadian, but a Canadian Citizen, speak fluent English, have no accent, and had a very English-sounding last name.
In 2001 I decided to "feed two birds with one crumb" and take care of a sexist tradition, while claiming a part of my Danish heritage. I took my mother's very Danish maiden name, and kept it after I got married.
know that is my grandfather's name, but because of the nature of Western surnames, a totally random Danish name would be some man's last name, so i thought "why not just take one from the family?" Besides, my sister kept our original last name at marriage, so now each of my parents has a child with their birthname.
Has anyone else changed their name for reasons other than marriage? Would anyone like to change their names for reasons besides marriage?
If you have, and if you'd like to, I'd be interested in knowing why. I won't ask you to reveal any names, if you're not interested in doing so.
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1.  book1962 (14737) | 7 months ago |  hi danishcanadian, I would have liked to do that as well as a teen. My parents divorced when I was not quite 2 years old and my father only fought for his paternal rights to see me in order to make me feel like a zero, and lie to me all the time on these dreaded regular visits.
When I was a teen I asked my mom whether she would agree to me changing my last name to her maiden name. But she strongly disagreed as that would look like I was born out of wedlock and she didnt like that idea at all.
However the time to change that hated last name came almost 4 years ago when I got married. I gladly took my husbands name though it is a very common name here in Germany and when you look into any phone directory there are lots and lots of people running around with that name.
No more signing with that maiden name of mine, yeaaaah.
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| danishcanadian (20687) | 7 months ago | I thought of the "out of wedlock" thing too, and it only made me want to do it more. I'm not a b@stard. The only b@stards out there, are the ones who make the assumptions. One of the reasons why I took Mom's maiden name was to fly in the face of THAT tradition too. It occured to me that by having my Dad's name, it only enabled the friggen male ego because a woman with a man's surname was either only proof that her mother wasn't a "$lut" or that her husband owned her legally. What a scissor play. I felt damned if I kept my "maiden" name, and damned if I took my husband's name, and some would damn me for Mom's maiden name but I drew the line there and realized that it was their problem. If I took her name I'd be free of the honour battle. | |
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| book1962 (14737) | 7 months ago | you cant imagine how much I hated to have to sign with my last name, my fathers name. Simply as it was not only a few lies told to me by my father but he never did any else than really emotionally abuse me.
But when my mom says NO its a NO and not a maybe, ask again. Sigh.
Lucky you that your mom let you carry on her maiden name.
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2.  winterose (17884) | 7 months ago |  I see your point but even your mother's maiden name was some guys last name, so you really don't get away from it.
tradition
anyway I was glad to get rid of my last name, the creep that disowned me made that possible, why should I keep his name for what for a laugh, he said I was not his kid so I was only two happy to get married and change that name.
Now women in quebec have to keep their maiden names, there husband's name is not legal.
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| danishcanadian (20687) | 7 months ago | That's what I said above.
"know that is my grandfather's name, but because of the nature of Western surnames, a totally random Danish name would be some man's last name, so i thought "why not just take one from the family?" Besides, my sister kept our original last name at marriage, so now each of my parents has a child with their birthname. "
Before changing my name to Mom's name, I thought of "I might be able to get married one day and take his" but that just reminded me of a knight in shining armour saving me from a somewhat distressful situation.
I AM NOT A DAMSEL IN DISTRESS.
I also felt that it was taking the "easy way out" and why would*I* (and you know me off of MyLot) want to do something acceptable to a society which I felt opressive? | |
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| winterose (17884) | 7 months ago | yep I know you lol | |
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| 3. gitfiddleplayer (5483) | 7 months ago |  I guess you could have an alias. I've never changed my name, I like it, I didn't at first but I got used to it.
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| danishcanadian (20687) | 7 months ago | Never changed your name... what would you do if you were female? Should it be different for the genders? | |
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| 4. ElicBxn (15526) | 7 months ago |  well, I've never married, but if I had I wasn't planning on changing my name - we're talking the only time I ever considered marriage in 1974
I might've been interested in changing to mom's maiden name, but... well, it can be taken several ways whereas my name now is obviously a family name
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| danishcanadian (20687) | 7 months ago | How is it obviously your family name to people who don't know your family? Or is a member of your family well-known to the world with a unique name, so everyone who hears your name wonders if you are related to that person? | |
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| ElicBxn (15526) | 7 months ago | no, but its obviously NOT a noun or a verb like Stout in Rex Stout
see, that could be a drink, or a person's size
Now, my last name has made a famous appearence in a poem, but I don't know if there's any chance of it really have happened. | |
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| 5. vanities (8842) | 7 months ago |  nope.. i did not..since it be a lot of trouble if i am going to change it..i mean problem in my school records and accreditation..and for me no use of changing my surnames( when i was still single)i love my surname!!
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| 7. scarlet_woman (9045) | 7 months ago |  i haven't..but there's quite a few people in my family who've changed their first name.people in my family seem to name their kids something truly awful to live with,and as a result,when they hit 18,they change it.
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| danishcanadian (20687) | 7 months ago | But why would anyone need to, or have no need to? That's the question. | |
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9.  rogue13xmen13 (7297) | 7 months ago |  I have never changed my name for anything at all, but I had a friend who did change his name because people kept calling him by another name, and so he adopted it as his own, and then he has his name legally changed to that name. It was a smart move on his part.
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| 10. psspurgeon1 (670) | 7 months ago |  I had a few fathers over several years so I'm actually glad I got my mom's maiden name instead of any of my father's'.... I also gladly gave into tradition and took my husband's last name. It was like a new identity for me.
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| danishcanadian (20687) | 7 months ago | Interesting how that worked for you, because the "new identity" thing is exactly why it didn't work for me. | |
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