All young girls[between 20 and 26] what would you look for in your future husban
By kalav56
@kalav56 (11464)
India
7 responses
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
2 Jul 09
Hi Kala,
I think girls are not much bothered about the physical appearance instead they wish to get a caring, loving and understanding person as their partner. Now I remember a comment by one of my friend when I was doing my B.Com degree, according to her, husband will help for cooking, you know why, otherwise she will be busy in kitchen in the morning and day time he will be in office and when he back at home evening she will again in kitchen with works. So if he helps her they can spend sometime together. ( I don’t know about her present situation, I got an invitation card on her marriage after that there was no connection). Girls are different in their attitudes and I guess when they think about marriage there must be some dreams like a good husband she watched in movie. Later she realizes the reel life and real life is different. Anyway I also wanted to know about the different opinion so I will go though your discussion later.
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
2 Jul 09
Your second last sentence is absiolutely true. I w as reminded of something that I had told my niece when she was very young--[she recounted it to me later though I had forgotten] Apparently in an advt a husband lovingly presents a hot cup of tea to his wife and I had told her that such scenes are possible only in films and that it would be unwise for women lik e us to expect all this. Now she has been married for the past 10 years or so and she told me this when her marriage had been finalised. That is how our Indian women operate. However, in some cases where both husband and wife are high earning members they get together and share their work. But , I feel the greater load would still rest with the women because they have a compulsive need to clean up and would eb less tolerant of messiness inside the kitchen etc
@subha12 (18441)
• India
2 Jul 09
I think I am in that group. I do not think much about marriage and husband. Still I would say the person should be caring and supportive of my career. He should also have good sense of humor. Education wise should be on same wave length.He should earn good money.
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
30 Jun 09
Hi Kala!
Though the question is intended for young girls, yet I'll make an attempt (if you permit me to do so........LOL
!). A young unmarried girl would like to marry a man, who is tall, handsome, smart, dashing and attractive, with great sense of humour, who will take care for her all the time, who will always be truthful and faithful to her, who will never cheat her, who will disclose all his financial transactions and income to her, who will give her unconditional love and respect, who has no family responsibilities on his shoulders, who will always keep on smiling (even in adverse circumstances). Also, it would be more better, if the man in question could also cook, besides looking after cleaning, dusting, mooping and sweeping of the house. The man in question should have more and more positive qualities/traits and above all he should be a 'yes' man.
Good discussion!
!). A young unmarried girl would like to marry a man, who is tall, handsome, smart, dashing and attractive, with great sense of humour, who will take care for her all the time, who will always be truthful and faithful to her, who will never cheat her, who will disclose all his financial transactions and income to her, who will give her unconditional love and respect, who has no family responsibilities on his shoulders, who will always keep on smiling (even in adverse circumstances). Also, it would be more better, if the man in question could also cook, besides looking after cleaning, dusting, mooping and sweeping of the house. The man in question should have more and more positive qualities/traits and above all he should be a 'yes' man.
Good discussion!@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
30 Jun 09
Kala!
It is really great to know that I could make you laugh and I feel that if you ask a girl about his prospective groom/hubby, her response should matches mine.

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@vijayanths (7877)
• India
30 Jun 09
I think most of the girls want love in the first place. When there is love, the care comes automatically. They want their men to care for them. Then he should be reasonably rich to meet the basic needs at least(Most of the girls are happy with mediocre type life. So the boy need not be a multimillionaire(if he is she won't say, no, that is different,though)
She wants him to provide security.He should be bold, and humorous. He must be family oriented. He should be somewhat good looking.He should be addicted to any bad habits.Above all he should listen to her all through out the life(She always has so many matters to talk to him....)
@visaseetharaman (232)
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2 Jul 09
I am 54 years old but still I would like to write about this because all of us have gone through this phase in life.A girl would like her partner to be handsome and good looking .ofcourse smart.Next todays girls would her life partner to be extremely rich because in todays world the luxeries are awesome .She would prefer a small family and definitely not a joint family.They are all late risers and this is not possible in a joint family. She would like her husband as well as inlaws to broadminded and spendthrift .She would certainly want aperson with a spotless character-no drinking or smoking and one who respects a woman.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
2 Jul 09
Hi ,
A few years ago, once a young girl told me that she did not look too much for the smartness or celluloid type of looks in her husband. Times are changing and women look for a lot of financial security and I think this tops the list. Of course the concept about joint family is there , but in many cases when there is a child the young mother does seek the help of her parents , so that she can pursue her career or job.
@kawalnarang (1095)
• Trinidad And Tobago
29 Jun 09
start with regular prayers,,so u will get the right companion,, NO DOUBT,,all of us need the best in life,and I guess life is how we make it,, U sleep according to the way to fix ur bed,, If the actions are good,, the results are good,,
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
29 Jun 09
That was a wonderful response Kawalnarang and I was most impresssed by it.Of course this is what we too keep saying .Yours was a very wise answer and we do need the best in life and life is how we make it.I am sure you have a great married life and a very understanding partner.So do I ;
thank God.

@carolbee (16230)
• United States
29 Jun 09
I am way beyond this age but looking back I would want a loving, caring, fun, committed husband with a good career and future. Personality and disposition are all a part of fun as mentioned here. When young and in love, some of these qualities are overlooked. Priorities often change with age. My husband isn't what I would call a fun person but he is pleasant and committed as a father and husband. I am the fun one in the family and I never let him forget it...lol
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
29 Jun 09
Oh Carolbee your last three sentences could have almost been written by myself.I am the 'fun' person in the family and I would not let my dear husband forget it.And I am yet to see a father as committed and loving as he is.[among all my friends and relatives]And your response is absolutely true.Thanks a lot for sharing.






