Should husband lets the wife manage his salary?

You are still a young lady but have strong opinion in financial in married coupole.
Thanks

hehehe maybe my average of thinking is different and more mature now.;)

you are married, don't you? Thats why the mind more mature.

Thank for your opinion and sharing experience.
I'm not that good husband.If i 'm good, should be able to manage this situation like your hubby.
When she stop working, I did not make any plan to let my wife become the custodian of my income amd how to manage it. I just want to make her feel secure to see some money flow to her account without make her aware its not all hers. Since day 1 of married I'm the one who always settle the bills, and her salary was for her. The situation change when she is not working, I thinks she has difficulty to adjust and to see the fact that almost 40% of it will flow back to me.

ah okay...i think she will not learn if she will not experience doing the budget at home...i mean i think you should involve her in paying the bills so that she'll understand that its not easy!
its true that after stopping going to work its really somehow difficult to adjust when it comes to money matters but again...you can still do something...talk to her nicely and make her understand the situation and maybe you can do some adjustments in budgeting at house...
i don't know...i hope that she have a broad and open mind to understand your situation and the difficulty in budgeting and of course of paying bills...
:-)

My wife opinion the husband is responsible with house hold expenses,She look after the children.
I like shames coment on what his dad did. See whether can train her, may be let her see this mylot.

yes i read shames' response and i think his dad is lucky to have a wife like his mom...very ideal.
now, i think its a good idea to bring your wife here in mylot and so she might read these posts! hehehe...
don't worry everything will be okay with both of you!

I expected the guy will give this answer.
The word "without her knowledge" is a big problem. I did have some saving with intention one day will give to her as present when reach certain amount. But when she notice I have extra money without her knowledge, she though I'm going to hide some money. Now I can't buy some gift for her and she is not happy:-(

hehehe...i think you are right paying! if you save some for yourself "without her knowledge" it might lead you to a trouble...coz even if you have good intention in doing so...she will still think that you are not honest to her and you are hiding something from her aside from the money...hehehe
well its the sad truth! for some atleast...

Honesty in relationship is important.
But my father told me don't be always too honest to your partner.
Yeah, canot give her a nice surprised gift:-(

haha...maybe that's what happen to me...my husband gave me all and so he don't give me much surprise gifts! hehehe but its okay with me...i understand.

Ha..ha.. an honest partner, otherwise you will ask "where did you keep this money away from me?"

This is an ideal case.
I told my wife, I want her to be finance minister in the family who manage family account.
But she afraid to see the bills, because she never handle this before.
Thanks anyway.

Hmm interesting.
My account is joint account, her account is single. She can see mine but I can't see hers.
You are right before start the marriage don't hesitate to discuss or set a rule on financial matter especially if only one person working. thanks.

oops, this comment should come from guys, interesting.
Hmm, I can learn how the other woman thinking.
Thanks med.

It is important to discuss this problem with your wife. It is up to the couple whom of them are going to handle the finances. You are a good husband because you let your wife to handle your salary. I think you should also talk to your wife that you need to pay your bills in time or if she allow you to handle your salary.

Thanks Agv,
I won't take it back from her, but try to explain her carefully on the longterm impact.
Mylotters give me a lot of feedback.

It is direct transfer from my company to her account.
Actually, I prefer her to put aside for house hold expenses first and just give me a bit for my personal expenses the rest for hers.But this is not her type. Thanks.

Wow, he is very lucky to have some one who willing to manage family account. He just work to earn more money for you:-)
I've a trust on her, when the things happened I always remind her that I trust her very much to be the custodian of my salary. Thanks.

Thanks, your case similar as mine in early days.
I thinks once the woman works and earn some income, she shouldn't quit the job.
Every woman like to have their own income for their own needs eg: shopping.My wife, she used to work and the income all for her personal needs. Since day 1 of married, my account is joint with hers and all my saving transfered to her personal account. But when she stop working, she lost her personal income and she feel stupid if have to depend on me and asked me. Yes it is joint account but psychology is not hers. When the saving on her account depleted she become worry,in fact when I got a bonus I share part of it with her. She ever told me she want to see regular income bank in to her account and if I care to her there is no reason for me not to bank in my salary to her. I feel pity & sad for her and immediately I asked my company to bank in to her account except my company expenses/ reimbursement bank in to my joint account.

Okay, I understand your situation. Well, it seems that you did not really like her to quit her job. Just curious, is there any reason why she quit her job? From what I see from your description, she seems to mind a lot on this loss of income. Have you ever thought that it may be better for her to resume working, at least some part-time working, so that she will at least get some income to spend for herself? You may want to talk to her about this possibility too...

Classic reason got kids, looking after the kids. But once yoou stop working for years, it is not easy to re-enter the workforce. For woman to giving up the career need mentally to be prepared.

Oh, I guess this is a common reason for woman giving up their career. I do agree that it's really harder for women to re-enter the workforce later after the kids had grown up. I do understand why the employers are unwilling to employ such cases too. They are usually worried about the adaptability of women back to the workforce, especially those who had been out of the workforce for over 5 years. I will say even after 1 year of not working, you will need some time to adapt to the working environment again. I had tried before not working for a year during my 2nd pregnancy, and found the first few weeks of work very tiring, and totally not used to the working lifestyle.

I only can say good luck to you. You are still young and can return to work force pretty much easy. But when you reach 35 above need to be careful and think twice before you giving up your job/career.

Well, I did return to the workforce after my second pregnancy. I'm now currently working full-time in a company for a few years. Well, I do have to say you are right about women who return to the workforce after the age of 35. It's certainly harder to find a job, especially after taking time off for a few years to take care of the kids. I do have to say that it's okay, if the family do not need a second income to support the family, and if the woman do not really intend/expect to find a full time job after the kids have grown up.

Nope. The man responsible for this. If doesn't works, means he couldn't manage properly.
If this is a corporate world, the CEO made a wrong step and miss managed. Now, his duty to fix it may be need to call consultant to advise him. This forum is one of my step to fix it. Thanks for your comment.