Have you ever took revenge in to your own hands?
By maria120883
@maria120883 (392)
United States
July 1, 2009 2:31am CST
Have you ever been cheated on and you decided to take revenge into your ouw hands and give him/her pay back? I have never did anything like this but I am pretty sure that alot of people have thought about it or done it. So are you one of them let me know how did it go? Were you happy after you did that?
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6 responses
@Jill22 (263)
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
I had tried to do that. But I didn't win. I just then realized that its not good to have revenge on something or someone. If ever it would happen to me again, I would just try to ask help from God to remove all pains I have and I know HE will help me! I trust Him! And I'm trying my best to really be able to follow His words and implement them on me!
@maria120883 (392)
• United States
2 Jul 09
Yeah well thats good that you learned your lesson. Things done with bad meaning dont always come out good for you. So its better to be the better person and move on and let it go. Oh by the way thanks for the comment.
bye
maria
@pixeltwistr (613)
• United States
1 Jul 09
Yeah I have.....lol.....y'all are too good.....
When I was in my twenties my boyfriend decided to go back to his ex just like that....no warning just one day he is my boyfriend and the next he is like who the heck are you? I am not going to say what i did for revenge but I did get revenge and yes it made me happy.....oh and we ended up getting back together and are married now and we laugh about it....
@pixeltwistr (613)
• United States
9 Jul 09
Well he is not most guys.....
He did hurt me a lot by going back to her but he had been with her a looong time and we had only been together a few months when that happened and she had originally left him so when she came back around he fell for it....yes it was wrong to do me that way but i have been in enough relationships to know that just because they are over doesnt necessarily me you are over them and i felt like him going back to her was at least understandable..(not when he first did it of course...lol...then i was mad and wanted revenge...)
So when she left him again only a few weeks later he started calling me again.....for a couple months i refused to talk to him.....but then i did forgive him and we got back together and yeah at first I was a little suspicious of him....but after a while (especially after we had our daughter) i got over that....i know he hasnt cheated on me since and i think it might have been different if he had cheated with a total stranger but i think he just wasnt quite over her yet at that time....he definately is now!!
And yeah we are happy enough....we have been together for 20 years now.... ;)
@maria120883 (392)
• United States
1 Jul 09
LOL!!!!!!!!!! I cant believe you did what you did and still ended up with him!! I dont know what you did but i can just imagine something bad of course. Well anyways atleast you got him back. But i dont know why you would want him back. He did something bad to you. Well are you happy with him? Does he make you have doubt in him since that has happened? I tell my friends that if they can deal with it the rest of their lives then they can move on with that guy but if not then they need to let him go.
bye
maria
@rsa101 (40966)
• Philippines
1 Jul 09
Well what would you get from taking revenge. It is just feeding your hatred to that person and it would not do good in your favor. I think taking revenge would just make you breed more anger in yourself which is not at all healthy in terms of your emotional state and physical well being as well. It will make you more miserable person since taking revenge means you will actually do what the other person has done to wrong which in turn makes you a bad person yourself. I think for it to stop you should move on with your life and find happiness somewhere. By that you will find you life more happier and more free from hatred and all those negative vibes.
@maria120883 (392)
• United States
1 Jul 09
I think you are right. If you do what they did to you it makes you the same as them or worse!! So its better just not to do it at all and move on to a better life.
maria
@Shellyann36 (11383)
• United States
2 Jul 09
I have never had the problem but I do have a friend who is married and she was talking with an old friend from highschool. This friend also happened to be married. They had a very naughty texting thing going. No actual physical cheating had been done but they did discuss what they would like to do to each other, etc. Well the guy's wife (who has his cell phone in her name) was very suspicious and she got a copy of the cell phone messages printed out from the company and showed them to my friends' husband. Needless to say there was quite a bit of apologizing, swearing that nothing actually happened and so forth. The wife of the guy was pretty ruthless about it and kept calling my friends' husband constantly bugging him about the situation and then telling everyone that would listen what a lousy "homewrecker" my friend was. Eventually my friend and her husband had to get their cell phone numbers changed. They made up and everything is ok for now. They have not heard back from the highschool friend or the wife. I would never dream of cheating but if my fiance cheated on me I would have my revenge!
@maria120883 (392)
• United States
1 Jul 09
yeah plus you turn into a hateful person when you have revenge in your heart. you have to learn to let it go and that is all. thanks for your comment
maria
@maria120883 (392)
• United States
1 Jul 09
Yes you doing it back to the person that did it to you or paying them back will only make you feel bad inside. You will know that you did something wrong and for that you are just like the person that did it to you.
bye my friend,
maria
