family fauds

Pat- Simple. I ignore them all until they start talking sense. I always try once to reason with family, but if I am not getting anywhere I just let them to their own devices. I've no time in my life right now for negative family or friends. I don't mind listening to a friend vent, that is different, but if it comes to starting feuds, etc I just bow out. Namaste-Anora

My family goes through things like this sometimes too, Pat, and it is really nerve wracking. I eventually tell my grown daughters to take it elsewhere. And to think I could hardly wait for the "sibling rivalry" to come to a halt! Karen

Yes, I certainly agree with you one hundred percent. Family members are to supprt each other. That is the whole meaning and value of "Family". I keep saying that to members of my family too. It is a joy to be together, not to keep fighting. One has to be considerate and attentive to each other's needs and wishes.

My sister and I don’t argue very much at all; the last time was about twenty years ago when she was still a teenager and did not speak to me for ages because she presumed that I told our parents about something she had got up to that was unacceptable and it took ages to get her to believe that I was innocent! I used to fight with my parents all the time when I lived with them because they are not the easiest people to get along with. These days I let a lot of things wash over me because I don’t have the inclination or the energy for arguments!

That is disheartening to hear.But truth is arguments are always present even outside family matters.The only thing I knew that will lessen these arguments is to learn how to respect each others rights and accept a family member who they really are.If a family member is angered by a situation if you feel that you did that family member wrong,I guess saying sorry and promising not to do it again won't hurt.And respecting spaces within each and every family member is I think best tool in order to bring back a harmonious relationship in a family.

I love my sister and she loves me (I think?). We only argue rarely - and nothing seriously. I love that and hope it will continue forever. I hate to argue, but I do argue with my parents sometimes. I hate when they somthing like "why do you have to be so teen-like?" It is so annoying, and a bad excuse for arguing.

A family feud is enough to make you uptight. I cannot imagine my kids acting that way. As far as my siblings and I go, we have one half sister, and maybe we can think she is a little off, but everyone else better lay off of her, she is ours, warts and all. We do not fight. We also had a younger sibling die several years ago now. We took care of her. My mom and dad did not grow up getting along that well with siblings, and they always marveled that they raised us not to fight. I am guessing they have you pretty upset right at this moment by the tone of your post.

I can't help it, but I've always enjoyed a good cat-fight. I remember once at the factory where I worked, we were all standing in line at the time-clock, waiting to punch out. Two ladies in their 50's, immediately behind me, suddenly took to scratching, screaming, clawing at each other, and pulling hair. Then it became even more exciting, when they wrestled each to the floor and began to rip, and tear, the clothes of their opponent. The boys, in an aroused state of titillation, completely forgot about going home, as they gathered around to encourage the ladies in their childish pursuit of revenge. But all good things must come to an end, and end it did, when the commotion attracted the attention of the foreperson, who came running down, anxious to quell the excitement before someone was dreadfully injured. She gave a great bellow, and the 2 ladies, rather sheepishly got up off the floor, brushing themselves off, and adjusting what was left of their torn clothing, as they walked belatedly, behind the reproachful foreperson, back towards her office. Then the disappointed spectators, myself included, sorrowfully punched our time cards in the clock, and proceeded slowly out of the factory, and home to our innocent, and loving wives.

Hello, Are you telling me, your daughters are in 50s already right? well, if so, they are old enough to do that. it is time to be great and nice to each cuz life is short and we should be take care of each other. For me, I have only brothers and I love them so much... yeah, sometimes I have words with him; especially my second brother; but he never talks back to me. Im sorry to hear that, but I think you should talk to both of them. Try to put things together and show them what went wrong and it is not a good time to fight anymore

Hi savypat, My siblings and I have always gotten along well and so far my three boys are doing well and I hope it continues. Like you I don't like fighting in families. Blessings.

I am the pacifier in our family always in the middle of things and knows everyone's problems , if someone argue in our family I would just speak up then everyone would just go silent lol i speak silently buth it them straight where it hurts the most . Well I guess I learn this art of pacifying since I was still a kid and being the middle person of everything they will have to listen to me but too tired of doing it now..... and wish that I was somewhere else other than here if something comes up

fighting makes one uptight. my siblings and i argue sometimes but never reached a stage where we fight. when things heat up somebody facifies. no, we are alwaya a team. happy mylotting. ann

Right now there is a lot of family drama on both my mother's and father's side. A lot of posturing and envy and jealousy going on, but no one wants to talk about it. It would just blow up into a big fight and not speaking to one another. I think there are a lot of in-family intricacies where people want to "one-up" each other and it just ends up alienating different families. And in public everything is just covered up like it is fine. Too much going on...

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