Complaning neighbours...!!!!!  

No, your kids should be able to play and do all the other stuff kids do. When you live in an apartment, you have to expect people to be making noise and you have to learn how to somehow live with that noise. If your neighbor has such a problem with that, she should have either gotten a house instead of an apartment or requested a room on the top floor. I hate tip-toeing around other people, don't you? Our neighbor doesn't want me doing this...doesn't want me doing that...and I'm sick of his a*s already. Wow, I guess that anger has been building up over the summer

Good luck to ya

Oh, I didn't see that you live in a flat, not an apartment. But it's a similar situation, whenever you have people living below you. So what is a flat exactly, is this lady renting the uptairs to you, or how does that work...

argh... never easy to stay in an apartment ya.. and it's really tough to handle neighbours who are very petty on noise. I think people who lived in a multi-storey got to be tolerance as then to make peaceful community. If given me, I can understand the noise, and if I barely able to stand it, I will go out on my own instead of staying in. Or alternatively, will use the ear butts to stuff my ears so it reduces some noise? I won't encourage to argue with your neighbour, but to reason with her that kids are unable to remain seated all the time. At the moment, she may have to either choose to bear with it, since it's not making noise at those weird hours, or she will have to be out of the house. Or should you ask her for the best advise of how to keep your child stay?

I can understand your frustration but I can also understand your neighbor's too. My first apartment was on the ground floor and the people above me had kids who sometimes sounded like they were a herd of elephants. On the other hand, I'm a mother...although my kids are grown now...so I agree that your kids should be allowed to play. The only solution to this problem is to try to make friends with your neighbor and see if the two of you can agree on a schedule where the kids can be free to make noise without bothering her. Make a treat and either invite her up to your place or stop by her door and give it to her. Maybe if she feels that you really are trying to be considerate, she will be more understanding.

Well, there are reasonable expectations on both sides and your kids should play quietly in the house for a number of reasons, but she should also have realistic expectations about her neighbors and noise.

Is it possible for the kids to play outdoors? And just what kind of noise and play are we talking about? Are they wrestling and roughhousing or just sitting and playing games? Are they running around and shrieking?

How old are your children?

Oh!Some neighbors are like that.They can enjoy things if their kids do it and complain if others kids do the same thing.Probably that is out of jealousy more.Did she have any kids?If no,then it is purely of jealousy.When ready to live in an apartment,people should learn some tolerance and have nice relationship with the neighbors.I think she lacks both the qualities.Best thing you can do is,try to make friend of her.Cheers!

I have heard house owners being troublesome...neighbours??? I think you can listen to her in some cases like noise after 10 in the night but all the time if she has a problem with you, then give her back once. She can't be doing this often.

The entire flat is not hers??? Just be keen on what she does everyday...point out a few things that you don't like about her...keep nagging her. Then may be she will understand how she treated you.

Try finding fault with her and see if she is able to correct herself...If her torture is increasing...then just shut your ears and do as you wish.

Let me say my opinion. You should tell her to get lost. It's your house. And your kids are kids and kids will be kids. They'll make noise and play and if she is having a problem with it, then she should be the one going out! Your kids never did anything beyond your apartment then why should you worry?

Hi Neha,
I think you gave in the first time so she thinks you can be bullied everytime. Granted that in an apartment we have to think of others too and kids can be really noisy specially when they are thumping real hard, the people on the floor below you can get disturbed but there is a line that needs to be drawn between being rude and unnecessarily accommodative. I think you have been unnecessarily accommodative…next time she comes up (as I am sure she will), do tell her politely that while you will do your best to rein in your kids, however kids being kids, they will continue playing and enjoying themselves. You can also say that you would stop the kids from thumping or making very loud noises but beyond that, they need their freedom too! BTW…is she your landlady?

I know how you feel. You actually does not do anything wrong. I would say your neighbour is too fussy. I can see you are doing your best to not disturb your neighbour. Your kids can play their toys and run in the house. You just might sure they are playing at the right time, not late at night or mid night. If your neighbour can not concerntrate, that is her problem. Maybe you can try talk to your management office of your flat regarding this issue.