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How do you deal with people who do not like you? email this discussion to a friend?

myLot reputation of 96/100. kalav56 (1900)   ranked 470 out of 35,199 in people5 months ago

Sometimes we can sense that for some reason or the other we have provoked some sort of dislike in another person. Now, how do you handle such a situation? First of all, are you able to sense it? If we do not like another person's manner or something then it is easily handled because we would be aware.But for the situation I mentioned, our antennae needs to be very very sensitive. This is more difficult with a close circle of people and with whom we do not suspect anything.Have you faced such a situation? For my part, if I sense something like that then I stay away from that person.That is all.
Please do share your views.

 
 
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Sweetchariot (956) response was accepted on 8/2/2009.
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1. myLot reputation of 73/100. shaggy_ (185)   ranked 8,262 out of 35,199 in people   5 months ago

I hate this situation, especially when you don't know what you did wrong (if anything). I find the best way to deal with it is just to be kind to them and make sure you don't say anything offensive to them. It is much harder when you're talking to a close group of people that you don't really know, but if you're nice to them and don't offend them after time either you'll realise that's just "the way they are" or they will start being nicer to you.


myLot reputation of 96/100. kalav56 (1900)   ranked 470 out of 35,199 in people  5 months ago

You are absolutely right.you feel bad when you do not know what you have done. We just need to be normal and as you pointed out things would settle in due course and they would realise that their dislike was unfounded.Thanks a lot for the participation.


Beshaxy (22)  5 months ago

i agree with you.
most of time i can not controll myself to show my dislikeness to them.
however i realize this is not good. i have to become more patient. so that i can be a great man.

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2. myLot reputation of 94/100. devmitra (180)   ranked 13,941 out of 35,199 in people   5 months ago

hello kalav
i think that first if i have provoked dislike in another person and if the person is a good person than i will try to sort out all problems to restore things to normal.and if the person who dislikes me has his own set of reasons for disliking me than i will stay away if that person if insignificant for me.if you are confused that the other one dislikes you or not than leave it to your heart as it always speaks the truth.if you dont like that person stay away and stop worrying that he likes you or dislikes you.now i request you to keep smiling as it will remove away all dislikes from anyones heart.


myLot reputation of 96/100. kalav56 (1900)   ranked 470 out of 35,199 in people  5 months ago

Thanks for sharing your views on the subject. We can only make efforts where we feel they are really needed and as far as outsiders are concerned the question does not arise. If it si is a close circle then it would be better to define relationships right in the beginning so that we wont be hurt ultimately.

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3. 1LostSoul (80)   ranked 23,765 out of 35,199 in people   5 months ago

I try to get along with everyone.I will not give any butt hickies to make someone like me.I am me and I will not change for you or to please you.If I encounter a person I do not like I will still be friendly.If I know a person doesn't like me I just try to not be around him or her.Invade myspace,push my buttons,or mistake my kindness for weakness and you will see a side of me that you will wish you didn't.I am me:)


myLot reputation of 96/100. kalav56 (1900)   ranked 470 out of 35,199 in people  5 months ago

Thanks a lot for the response.I admire your forthright response and your courage to stand up to people.

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4. myLot reputation of 87/100. syankee525 (3419)   ranked 392 out of 35,199 in people   5 months ago

for those who don't like me, oh well they be alright. as long as i am respecting and treating others how i would want to be respected or treated, but i had many and still got some who dont like me. to me i am not changing who i am or kissing up to them or even begging them to like me. i could careless if anyone like me.


myLot reputation of 96/100. kalav56 (1900)   ranked 470 out of 35,199 in people  5 months ago

Ultimately we have to behave according to what our conscience dictates to us and we have to maintain our own peace of mind. Thanks a lot for sharing your thoughts and particpating in the discussion.

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5. myLot reputation of 90/100. homeshoppers (1079)   ranked 6,784 out of 35,199 in people   5 months ago

you cant avoid people to do things which you dont like.. bcoz all of us have different personality.. at first it maybe hard to sense their personality but as the days goes by you will find out.. you dont have to judge once personality as every people are unique... what matter is they dont hurt you or hurt other people... its on the matter of acceptance and understanding...


myLot reputation of 96/100. kalav56 (1900)   ranked 470 out of 35,199 in people  5 months ago

it is not a case of judging others;it is only a case of avoiding unpleasantness or a genuine desire not to inflict our unwanted company on others.

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6. myLot reputation of 90/100. kawalnarang (682)   ranked 6,568 out of 35,199 in people   5 months ago

None of us is perfect,we all make mistakes,, I would rather find faults in myself,,before coming to any coclusion,, staying far is a good choice,, another formula I like is to find out what the problem is,and find a solution to it,,and this only comes out after a DICUSSION,,If I can't change the other person,I know I CAN change myself,,


myLot reputation of 96/100. kalav56 (1900)   ranked 470 out of 35,199 in people  5 months ago

Thanks a lot kawalnaramg for the partcipation and your response shows that you are a very sensitive and large-hearted person.however, I disagree with the statement that we have to change if a person does not like us.We need our peace of mind ultimately and if doing what you said gives you the best state of mind then of course I agree.

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7. myLot reputation of 98/100. scheng1 (1675)   ranked 11,416 out of 35,199 in people   5 months ago

If work related, then still have to deal with it professionally. Of course I like a cordial working relationship, but it's not always possible. If that colleague wants to make personal attack or whatever, then I have to bite back.
If personal or whatever, that's his or her business. I wont try hard to please or whatever, just let it be.


myLot reputation of 96/100. kalav56 (1900)   ranked 470 out of 35,199 in people  5 months ago

That was a very sensible response Sceheng.We have to get along with people in this world but we cannot allow people to trample upon us.Thanks for sharing your views.

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8. myLot reputation of 91/100. jayrene (1885)   ranked 4,587 out of 35,199 in people   5 months ago

i have experienced something like that before. well, what i did was, said something nice and then after that never talk to the person again. well, if they ask me something then i would answer but that's all.

i never really want to get close to people who dislike me even in little ways. i stay away from them too, there are still more people that i can become friends with.


myLot reputation of 96/100. kalav56 (1900)   ranked 470 out of 35,199 in people  5 months ago

That was a wonderful response and with thsi I agree wholeheartedly.Why inflict ourselves on people who do not like us?We can choose our friends who like us.Thanks a lot for the particpation and the response.

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9. myLot reputation of 99/100. grace118224 (671)   ranked 7,853 out of 35,199 in people   5 months ago

It's hard to please everyone in the world . There should be some guys who don't like you. Not a big deal! Don't let him to get you angry . Life is short . Just live a life you want and live for the people who care about you and you love very much . Yeah staying away from thme is quite a good choice too.


myLot reputation of 96/100. kalav56 (1900)   ranked 470 out of 35,199 in people  5 months ago

It is definitely hard to please others in the world and we can only act according to the dictates of out heart..Thanks for the particpation and sharing your thoughts on the subject.

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10. myLot reputation of 98/100. tattylashes (4295)   ranked 258 out of 35,199 in people   5 months ago

i don't deal with them, i just ignore people like that, if they don't like me then that's their problem, i would never associate with people who don't like me, they are not wirth the time or effort, just let them go away and be friends with people they like, i have no time for haters, they are better off away from me so i can be happy with my TRUE friends.


myLot reputation of 96/100. kalav56 (1900)   ranked 470 out of 35,199 in people  5 months ago

Very true.We can concentrate on company thta prefers us and is preferred by us.Thanks for the particpation and sharing your thoughts on the subject.

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