I admire those that adopt a child

I think all children deserve a loving home as well. And I just think it depends on the couple who is trying to adopt, plus the child's personality as to whether they would be adopted or not. I like kids, but I'm not sure I would be a good parent. I do however enjoy spending time with my nephews and nieces, and sometimes I can give them things that there parents cannot. I guess that is because I don't have any children of my own.

Hello maximax8, I think u were referring to me. :-) But in our country it is true. :-) Cost of living being high, and there are other factors as well. I come from India, and here the girl is considered a burden because she has to be married with hefty dowry. Oftentimes, people get into debt traps for such marriages. And it has also been the cause of abortions of female foetuses. Other factors like loss of possible inheritance makes relatives unco-operative in adoptions. In fact, relatives and friends try to force their children on the person who has no children or has some means. I too think adoption is a great idea. But I would be able to love only that child who has no parents, especially children who are victims of tsunamis, earthquakes, and other factors that are beyond human control. It may be because I will always fear that the child will love natural parent more than me, and if I were to admonish anytime for any wrong, the child would run away to the natural parent. I know my fears are baseless, but these are the fears. Because of this, may be I would opt for a child with down's syndrome or something that does not require any admonishing on my part.

Hello max, I really think people who adopt are very special. Your question poses deep thought. When I was young my parents used to sponsor two young girsl, on some weekends, and school holidays from a Melbourne orphange, with the idea of adoption at some future time. This was after we had lost my young four year old sister to meningitis. Somehow, the adoption never eventuated, I think the girls' mother was involved, but my parents never told my brother or me the whole story. I know my mother would have loved to have the two girls as part of our family. As for your question, I think a 12 year old girl, or a 5 year old boy with down syndrome would be the hardest for me.

I know people who have adopted children because they had problems to have one. I don´t specially admire them: I think they got back a lot more than they gave. All of then consider their children their own as if it was their own blood. Once I met a couple whose eldest adopted daughter had mental palsy. THey discovered in a routine checkup after they had her for 3 months. They called the adopting agency and said they needed ALL the girl´s background papers. The agency told then they could give them another baby. Both parents were shocked! They wanted to know as much as they could to help THEIR daughter. I met that family when the girl was eight. She was adorable, much loved and had a special playroom for herself. She was treated as a little princess. Adopting agencies are too full of rules in my country. Meanwhile, children have rough times that many times lead to delincuency.

me too.. i think all these children are gift from God and desereves to be loved and enjoy their existence. I can say that even our country belongs to the middle class. alot of people here learn to take good care of children and its very usual to see families with adopted child and treat them the same love with natural child

Actually, I am adopted, and I know that is was definitely the best choice that my mother made and I am very glad that she adopted me because she has always loved and cared for me above anything else in the world, and I love her for it. My sister in law cannot have children and she is 30 and my brother is 38 and they have adopted one son already, and he is almost 9. They have been working on their home study and trying to get a group of children for YEARS, and it is RIDICULOUSLY hard to adopt children in the united states! and it is just complete bull, because my brother and his wife have wanted kids for years and they have to keep redoing their home study to even have a chance. There are so many needy children out there that need parents. Why is it so difficult to give them a home with a happy family?

HAving been adopted myself, I really think it's a wonderful choice. Of course in my case things were different, and I was never really officially adopted. My parents also kept contact with my birth family so I was always aware of the situation. At an emotional level my adoptive parents are still my parents. My real parents. My birth parents rate somewhat like a family member but not as important. I understand that it is important to find out if the people wishing to adopt will be able to keep the commitment but at the same time I feel a lot of it is just red tape over red tape, making it very difficult and often allowing only the people with more money to be successful. Which is not fair, really. For the prospective parents and for the children as well. There is nothing that says that money will bring more happiness than parents that will love you but have no money. In the examples you give, like you I believe that all those children deserve a nice loving family. Of course we know that preferences usually go for the younger children - babies if possible - followed by healthy children. A child of 12 often has little hopes of being adopted although she needs it as much as all the others. I would love to adopt siblings, so I would probably try to adopt the 2 and 4 years old kids.

hello maximax8, Adopting a child takes a lot of courage and will. You must be both ready before doing it. Other couple who find it hard to have their own kids are advice to adopt firts so they can have their own baby soon. Others are not lucky to have it because of old age and other problems. Others don't like to lose their figure. I salute those who decided to adopt a child especially when the child is "special." Taking care of her/him is hard and needs a lot of understanding and sacrifices. I guess it's harder to get pregnant than to adopt for you will risk your life when you'll deliver your baby.

I think those who adopt have good heart. I mean why bother adopting a child especially if he or she is not even your relative or has no blood relation. In fact I myself would not adopt a child who is not my relative but I really admire those who could do it. I think they really are kindhearted and sad to say I am not as kindhearted as them. I admit that. I would not mind though whether he or she is black or white for as long as the child is my relative or a friend's child maybe. I also would not care about the age. At any age if the child really needs adoption, then I will go for it.

Hi Maximax, This is the same scenario in India too. The adoption process is not that easy and hence many people do adopt child on mutual understanding or in a word they buy a child literally. Now I too admire adoption for this serves two purposes - one a child finds a home and a parents get a baby. but selection is up to them. Had it been me I would pick up a girl child between age 6 months and one year regardless to the colour of the skin.

I think that its terrible how many children need a home at the moment. I actually think the adoption system in place is a joke, they make it so so hard for you to adopt and then deny you on stupid reasons. A friend of mine was denied because she worked too many hours, she told them she obviously wouldnt be once she had the child but she was just doing it now to get a bit of a financial headstart. They still said no, i mean come on, no woner they have so many children that they cant find homes for when they are that strict. I would love to adopt a child or children once i have finished having my own but unless they sort out the application process i wont be applying. For me i think the most chalenging out of the list you described would be the 5 year old boy with Downs, Downs children need a lot of time and patience, which whe you have other children would make it very hard to give them the time that they need