My sister in law got remarried
By katsmeow1213
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
United States
September 12, 2009 8:14am CST
So why am I posting this discussion under Facebook? Cause that's how I found out about it!!
Needless to say we don't have much of a relationship with hubby's sister. We haven't seen or spoken to her in a couple years. We don't like her attitude at all, she's the type that thinks she's better than everyone because she has money, and she refuses to speak to her own family because they're poor and embarassing, us included.
I knew she had a Facebook profile, I'd come across it before, but never added her as a friend.
Last night I was bored and started searching for some old friends. I do this every so often. After searching for friends I couldn't find I got curious and decided to look up SIL's profile. At first I couldn't find it, so I looked a little harder, and that's when I realized she'd changed her last name!
It does come as a bit of a shock that my husband's sister got married and neither of us knew about it. But if we think about it, we don't really care. We probably wouldn't have gone to the wedding even if we were invited. It would have just been a show of all the money she can spend... that's how her first wedding was as I mentioned in Cynthiann's discussion.
Have you ever learned big news about one of your relatives or friends through Facebook instead of being told directly by that person?
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9 responses
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
12 Sep 09
I don't think I've found out too much big news exactly thru FB. I do get updates on folks I used to talk to in forums such as this on FB. Other than that no real big news.
And honestly, I can't say that I blame you for your feelings tward your SIL. Just because you don't have her money or her lifestyle doesn't mean she should look down on everyone. If she had any kind of heart she could spread her good fortune around here & there. Nothing big but you know... say send gifts for the kids at the holidays & other occasions. Call the power company or whatever and put some money on your bill, things you'd appreciate her kindness in doing w/o begging her to do so. KWIM? I have a 2nd cousin who did that (when we were on speaking terms) she knew since I had been at home I wasn't able to get them alot. But she'd send boxes for their b-days, holidays ect. She had no kids of her own & earns a very very nice living. I really appreciated the mystery boxes that showed up. Or the new clothes she send my mum, it's appreciated. Though at times I wish she'd just pay my heat bill for a month instead of all the toys *LOL* I didn't ask she just does. I was that way too when I had the spare money, I bought for my nieces and got them things they needed when they were small.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
12 Sep 09
I'm surprised she didn't bring the horse to your shower!
She sounds like a piece of work! My Aunt & Uncle are super cheap too but they have enough money put aside that they don't need to be so flip'n cheap. Ya know they go out to eat atleast 2 of 3 meals a day, but then turn around and save sugar packets in old milk jugs. Or b!tcH about paying for a persription that's not on the $4 k-mart/wal-mart/target list & beg for free samples of meds but then turn around and buy a spanky new car every 10yrs in CASH! So I dunno maybe that's how they get and keep their money being so cheap & NOT having any kids. I have to live frugally to get by, where for them it's not necessary. And my grandparents were raised during the depression so I"m sure that's some of it as well.
@reinydawn (11642)
• United States
20 Sep 09
Nah, I don't think so... Although my niece did (jokingly) post that she was married. It made for a great conversation!!!
Oh, and you're probably better off without your SIL in your life, although I think family is important and wish it could be different for you.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
13 Sep 09
This isn't necessarily "big" news but we found out my SIL moved in with her boyfriend (wouldn't be a big deal but she has a 2 yr old and this is the 2nd boyfriend she's moved in with in like the last year or so, so the kid gets up rooted..) through FB.
My husband isn't very close to his family, but I email his Mom a few times a week. let her know whats going on here or just to chat (she's in school full time and not home a lot). Not only did she not mention this, we foudn out from a wall post she put on a friend of my BIL's FB page! I didn't think she knew anyone can see it so I didn't say anything. Then the next time she emailed I asked about my husbands niece and if they ever put her in daycare. She mentions that she was placed in daycare but in a city that is about 2-3 hours from my MILs house. Causally mentioned that was far away and that's when she came out and said that my SIL moved in with this boyfriend.
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 Sep 09
I can't say as I've had that particular experience though I did find out about my sister-in-law's miscarriage on her Christmas newsletter. I was a bit miffed as we are (more or less) on good terms.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
15 Sep 09
i just joined FB about 2 mths ago and only done it because my daughter kept bugging me about it. i really dont have much luck with getting around on there. i do have a couple of aunts though that act like they are not our family simply because they married money and now think they are better than the rst of us and are actually acting ashamed of their simple working class upbringing
but i just figure its their loss since we have fun without their bragging, boring presence
but i just figure its their loss since we have fun without their bragging, boring presence
@kprofgames (3089)
• United States
13 Sep 09
I think that's sad when family looses who they are. Money or no money - is that really how relationships are made?
I have an older step daughter that does that. Finds these men all because they come from money. She did say that she didn't want to work when she got to a certain point of her college education; howeven being 26 years old and we still raising 6 children I don't know why she thought we had to support her.
So she pretty much broke off ties with us because we wouldn't finance her way through college. She got married in July and there wasn't a lot of family invited. To be honest, it was just mostly a college get together for her and her friends. I think there were 2 cousins invited and only some imidiate family.
It's a sad case when that happens but it happens. You can only be who you are but the bottom line is, people make their own beds and burn their own bridges.
As this relates to FB, that is where I saw their engagement pictures and some of the wedding pictures. Othere than that, haven't seen her for about two years.
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
12 Sep 09
Actually I found out my older brother Michael Joesph got married by a email his girlfriend(or so I thought at the time) sent me..She signed her last name Castle in the email while all the other times she always used her last name. I asked him about it and he told me yeah and not to tell anyone..I told him his new wife is telling everyone since she is using his last name.. So they had been married over 2 months before anyone even knew about it in the family. I was the first to know and then my mom..We aren't really close to him...but still you'd think he would have the common courtesy to tell us since we were family. It hurts to find out things like that from somewhere or something else. In the email she sent there wasn't even anything about their marriage..just one of those pass it along things..Well, just look at it this way..you don't have to send her a wedding gift...
@snowy22315 (208849)
• United States
13 Sep 09
Yeah, I have alot of cousins on facebook and I don't know if or when i would hear anything about them. that is one really nice thing about facebook. It makes the world a global village and it is easy to hear about what people in far off places or different areas of the countyr are doing.
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
13 Sep 09
Well it's sad but it doesn't seem as if families are really close knit anymore. My family isn't as close knit as we used to be, but I guess you could say we were always dysfunctional. I've never had anything like that happen, I don't think. Although I don't have any of my side of the family on my myspace. I tried once for one person, but she never added me, so I just said 'whatever"...
I have my fiance's family on here though - that's what I mean by "my side of the family" vs "his side" lol.
