Desperate friends - Are they friends?  

Hi kevchua,
Friends are really very important and it is up to us to decide which is the best one and trusted one... If we really find and have a good friend ship then we enjoy our life like anything. If not, then problems is on our way.. We should be ready to face it.
So choose the best and enjoy.

Friends like these are still friends though not the bestfriend you wished to be. Friends in work places are not what I call best of friends except for really real ones.
I have colleagues that I have been friends after I quit my job and we each other not too often but we find time. There's friendship in there. Someone whoi can run to and vice versa not just begging for your help when they feel like it and most needed it.
I think it is normal in a work place and I have learned to say no.

Yeah, I'd also encounter that kind of person. Actually there are many of them.LOL They are not fortunate enough to learned how to be grateful and appreciative of the things that other had done for them. They are very quick to take and slow to say thank you. They don't know how to put value on what others done to them.

Yeah, it's normal. And I think one day these kind of people would learned how to be grateful.

Unfortunately, what you've said is all true in this world we live in today. People like to be friends with benefit. The more you can offer, the wider your circle of friends are. But sadly, the moment we stopped 'contributing', you can see that CIRCLE shrink right before your eyes.

Having said all that, not all friends are like that. You might (if you are lucky) find a gem in one or two of your friends. These are the ones that will stick with you like super glue through thick and thin. And once you've found them, never let them go. Treassure them like they are your life! :)

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it was said that people closer to you are so used to you that they are likely to pass you even when you see the, reason? is that they don't have to all the time be with you! what a naughty world.

I don't think those type of people are friends. I think that they only consider you when it benefits them, and when everything is good with them they simply forget about you and may even forget you even help them at all.

Personally I don't think they are. I hate that kind of people and that's why I prefer to only have a handful of people as real friends, who I know are my friends and -I- can rely on them, which in turn tells that I'll be there for them too.

But I think it's pretty common for that to happen, other people wanting to turn to everyone else when things look bad. Survival of the fittest, and they need help to survive bad!

and true friends are really hard to find nowadays. you can really see it with the way they act, talk or help you. you can feel whether they are really true to you and in your case, they only see you when they need you and they are not worth helping.

I tend to treat people the way they treat me, and it's quite hard to get into my friends' list.
if someone only comes to me when in need of help, I by no means call them my friend. these people should be addressed only when something is to be gained, and if they refuse to help, there really is no use in such company.