harsh!!!!

It doesn't matter if your current boyfriend had a son in his past relationship if you really love him and your guy was honest enough not to deny anything and maybe he's telling the truth when he said he didn't really know about his ex being pregnant. Don't let your guard down maybe it's really her ex making up stories because she can't move on and get over with your guy. Also be weary of your boyfriend you cannot really tell at this point in time who's lying and who's not

Hi Marie,

You have to be more cautious especially on the men because they
are going to many girls to entertain and then given the chance
to the girl as a mother or may be she is pregnant, so that is common
nature of the boys in this world. So you have to be more careful about
your boyfriend and make sure that he is the right person with pure heart.
Before going to a good wife or good girlfriend to him you have to make
sure and confirm that he is not a father or boyfriend from other girls
too. Without knowledge of your boyfriend, you have to check well about
him and confirm that he is more suitable for you and then go ahead with
him, otherwise it will gives much problems after the marriage or
relationships.

Have a nice day.

Some people likes to create stories just to get the person they wanted. But since you're boyfriend said that he's not sure if he is the father, it means, they really had encounter with that girl. I'd like to know the timeline in this situation, because if it is within your relationship, your boyfriend is cheating he doesn't deserve you. I may be more deserving than him for you. Joke! If this happened before your relationship, you should carefully investigate and ask for that girl all the informations you need. You should ask your boyfriend too. You will then weigh all the information you gathered. But if your boyfriend is honest upon your investigation, then you should accept him.

I think you must clear things first before doing an action. Clarify everything first and let your boyfriend tell you everything. The girl must give details about herself for you clarify things, if she is not capable to introduced herself maybe she is just making fun of you.

She might be fooling around or there might be something serious in this…you cant be quite sure. Its really yourself whom you have to face and clear your conscience before you move on further with your bf. Today he’s saying that he didn’t love the other girl, tomorrow he might say the same thing about you and leave you with a baby to look after. Are you ready and willing for that? Or would you rather take the risk and continue with your present relation and let the future take care of itself? Love is all very good but sadly, love cannot take care of our personal needs. For that we need caring people around us and we need to care for them too! If you feel that your bf is really a caring person and you genuinely love him, then his past should not matter. However, I would still adivse you to be cautious in your relation…its very easy for guys to walk out while we girls are stranded pregnancy and broken homes.

hello elsemarie,

Looks like you're into another adventure again, when is it going end? i hope it's a happily ever after soon. well, i n this case the girl never dared to introduced herself, so who's the coward now? she would have talk to you face to face rather than in a face book where she can have the guts to say what ever she wanted to say. just dig in deeper before you can judge. the only proof there is DNA testing.

It may be true if your boyfriend admit to you that he see other girls beside you as most of the times you could not really follow your boyfriend whatever places he hang out. Nobody could know the truth better than your boyfriend itself if he already confess to you. Then, if their is doubt about the paternity of the baby it is best to talk personally with the girl to clarify all things between you and the third party. In cases you found it later that the girl is lying then your relationship could survives this kind of threat.

Then, if your boyfriend is confirm truly as the father, then he must support the baby. It is up to you if you could still accept your boyfriend despite cheating on your back. It only proves that he could not be trusted and really have to be sorry to his foolishness. It may be hurting in your pride but the truth would be the one to set you free. If you could forgive your boyfriend for his mistakes then just go on with your relationship and makes the situation as an inspiration for both of you to keep both of you strong despite the challenges.

wait, so when did your bf got the girl pregnant? ( assuming that he really is the father ).. Is it during the time that you were still together? or before that? If it was while you were still together, then that's a whole different story.. you should really ask him about it, and don't take any one-liner or nonsense answers.. tell him that he should tell the truth..

But if it happened before, there are things that you still have to consider.. If he is really the father, then why won't he take responsibility for it? what if that happened to you? would he run away, just like what he did to the other girl?..

Think about this long and hard, because it's during this kind of experiences that you will see what your boyfriend is really made of.

Good luck in making your decision.

els or marie what you prefer,

Sorry for the guys that just like your boyfriends attitude I am not directly judging that you boyfriend is really of this kind but who knows he might or he might not...
I am not in their side. This is what I should comment to them. They just play the weakness of a woman(sorry if womans don't agree with this). Every woman believe that they will met their prince charming and eventually bring them to the altar of marriage. So, she would do everything to make him happy even to the selling of her soul. He promise that if they would make love and crush the virginity of a woman... that he say they "love"?- I don't think so because he only wants to satisfy his own selfish cravings...then he would marry her. Then the poor woman believe him.
But after 'they' get what they want the flesh of that woman... I would say,, then they will left her behind awful. I know all this agenda because I am also a Man.
I understand what behind a selfish cravings of ours. I believe that if you dearly love a woman you should respect her, and dignify her by not touching her until marriage. No, I am not conventional but...I have my own principles.

I guess if it were me, my decision would be based on how my boyfriend chose to deal with it. Is he planning to support the baby if it's really his, or does he plan to sign over his rights and let his ex raise the baby alone? No, it's not an ideal situation if the baby is his and the two of you continue your relationship, but it gives you an idea of whether or not he takes responsibility and also what kind of father he might be if that's a situation you are considering in the future.