How to build trust with your spouse?
By riani2009
@riani2009 (581)
Indonesia
October 7, 2009 9:35pm CST
My realationship with my spouse is not really well. Since I don't really trust him, he ever made lies not just once but again and again. I realize my relation is not health and I wonder how to trust him again.. It is a kind of alarm in my mind to remind me like this.. remember he has cheated you several time..I wish I could stop that alarm but I am human not a robot. I have emotion too...
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5 responses
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
8 Oct 09
try to ask him about the problem you feel. Give him a chance to say a few reasons. If you think the reason is not the right reason, tell him that perhaps it is time to end your relationship
@xannebull (1793)
• Philippines
8 Oct 09
I could understand how you feel because it's too hard to trust somebody especially your spouse who betrayed and cheated you for several times.
@shajerrl (309)
• China
8 Oct 09
I think you should have a kindly communication with your husband as soon as possible, and tell him all about your conern and hope you can understand more each other, you also should tell him that the foundation to build the relationship between you and him should be trust and honest...
@riani2009 (581)
• Indonesia
9 Oct 09
I have told him about it but you know he did it again uncounciously.
@snowy22315 (208906)
• United States
8 Oct 09
Often I don't feel that I trust my boyfriend. He has not done anything that I know of, but there is just always a niggling doubt, because he doesn't seem interested in me, I feel maybe he is interested in someone else. That is just the sort of person he is really. I think i either have to take or leave him.
@riani2009 (581)
• Indonesia
9 Oct 09
I think your relationship is not tied with married so you still have a big chance to rethinking about it before it is too late (getting to serious relation/married).
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Oct 09
hi riani has your husband said he will be true to you from now
'on or not,if so maybe a marriage counselor is in order,otherwise'
if I were you I would seriously think about a divorce.you deserve a mate who will love only you and be true to you,not
'a womanizer who plays the field even though married. it is
worth all the pain.
@riani2009 (581)
• Indonesia
9 Oct 09
thanks for the comment. I try to survive because I think of my kids..
