Has Your Significant Other Ever Made You So Mad You Found it Hard To Function?

so annoying arn't they my son does that,he strolls around after his teenage strop and I am still seething.men

Hi ladym How are you today? Well it seems from your dicussion that things are not too smooth at your house today. I have one of those hubby too. He will start an argument over something real silly and then he is over it almost as soon as he starts it. I don't get over them that quick at all. I will be angry for quite some time. During my madness I will slam doors and jerk around things and cuss under my breath. If he still around I will give him the silent treatment until he apologizes. So far that has worked for me. Good luck and have a better evening my friend.

Oh my goodness, has it ever! Last fall, we were supposed to move south for the winter. We had everything lined up, the house rented out. We went down, he said he had business that had to be taken care of up North, and would be back in a couple of weeks. Well, he kept saying a couple of weeks over and over. But he never made it back. I was so upset. I lived in a different town, I didn't know anyone. It was a temporary situation, so I didn't even have long distance on the phone in the rented condo. I was completely miserable. I cried a lot. Then I went through a stage that I just sat and stared, I could hardly move. I think this was the worst shape that I have ever been in of my whole life. Come March, when it was time to move back up North, he came and got me. And then acted as nothing had ever even happened. Who would have known that Love could be so painful?

Only a few times but its best not to hold grudges.

I have been going through these fights ever since I was married and that was 22 years ago. The fights have come down only for the past 3 years or so. I said their number per year and frequency has come down, to I must say, some 1 per month. I consider this a grrreattt improvement.You can imagine then what would have been the status, in those sad years. I had gone mad after these fights is a gross understatement. I would rather say if I had not gone mad and got admitted into a hospital then, only my Vedantic training is responsible for it. Hundreds of times I felt like calling it quits. But here in India people don't take it kindly to divorcees. More than that the kids would be put through hell if one goes through a divorce. It is always resorted to only in the extreme in India. Of course days are changing. People are beginning to have less regard for traditional values. So, divorces are on the increase though they would still be very small compared to the West. This is because we[Indians-Hindus in particular] believe in Karma. There is no escaping karma. If you terminate a relationship in this life without going through the whole gamut of experiences, you will be once again put through the same thing in another lifetime. The very thought scares us out of our wits- esp. those who believe. In my own case I may doubt the Theory of Relativity but I would trust the Law of Karma, to work unfailingly. But the situation of being so overwhelmed by anger as to not being able to function has happened to me, several times in my younger days. But as I told you I have cultivated the Vedantic attitude, I come to a composed state very fast. But often I have wished and do so even now that I shouldn't have narried at all. In fact one of fervent prayers is that either it must be Moksha(= Liberation from the cycle of births and deaths-the goal of all Hindu religious activity) or no marriage in the coming lifetimes- to that extent I want to carry the memories of this "pain". I am sure my wife will also be feeling this way.

Actually I am the exact opposite. I go crazy cleaning then re cleaning everything in the house.

‘ever’???!!! say ‘most of the times’ LOL well, I’ll admit that we both are a bit hot headed and in our younger days we actually used to fight physically and he being a chivalrous man could not really hit me while I took it out on him with all my strength LOL nowadays however, when we argue he is usually the silent type which infuriates me further and then I start shouting and after I’ve spent considerable energy, he opens his mouth, says something further infuriating and clams ups again *arrgggghhhhhh* you can well imagine how I spend my day after that!

Yes, this is something that happens to me as well. My husband and I will argue for a certain amount of time, but then he wants to be done with it whether we have a resolution or not. I guess he likes time to cool off and think, but I don't want to move on until the argument is resolved. Or, I will feel like you feel. I will focus on it constantly and won't get anything done. If we fight at night and he wants to go to sleep, I know he will be upset the whole next day and I would rather have it resolved so we can have a good day the following day.