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It's your life and you deserve to live it anyway you like. People tell me the same thing but I like the way I live,I enjoy my life at home no matter how hectic it may be.
Some people think they have the right to tell people what to do. I wouldn't let it get to me so much you are great the way you are and as long as you are happy that is all that matters.

Hi Sweetie when I read that I saw read because what you described as your lifestyle sounds perfect to me, who is she to judge? I am sorry it has to be said, the way you live your life is YOUR choice no one elses. You are happy, you are in control and only YOU can live your life the way you choose to live it, free and without someone telling you what to do. Why should you do things that you don't want to do. I know you are happy as you are and that is all that matters. I don't go out at night, probably I will go out once every three weeks, I feel safe at home, I feel comfortable and happy in front of the computer, watching the television and reading my books. I don't drink, I don't smoke, don't take drugs etc, but does that make me boring? And in who's eyes. Surely it's up to me. I hate going out, that is MY choice. Some people seem to know what's best for others, maybe they should worry about THEIR lives more before meddling. Those of us who have been in nightmare relationships we surround ourselves with our comforts, no matter what they are, we feel safe and surely that is the main thing? I prefer my own company anyhow and I certainly have absolutely no desire to go out and watch people getting drunk, being stupid, being knifed or paying extortionate prices for drinks or admission prices to stand around being bored? I have no desire to meet anyone. I am happy SINGLE. I don't want a relationship, never do, I don't wish to be put behind bars again. So you live your life the way you want sweetheart and let everyone else worry about theirs, regardless of who they are to you! Right I get off my soapbox now, but that did make Wolfie see red reading that xxxx

no, and what you should do when she starts is get in her face and tell her she needs to grow up and stop acting like someone half or a third her age - that REAL adults don't go out and get pissing drunk

I know its not your nature, but believe me when I say that you throw their behavior back at them, they will go away and leave you alone - they don't want to think that they are doing wrong, and actually they probably know it and want you to act like they do so they aren't making a fool of themselves along...

I do not pay attention or listen to anyone trying to tell me how to live my life. I have always done my own thing and will continue to be the boss of me and live my life as I wish. I think hat s why one of my very favorite songs is "My Way". I used this is as my signature song when I was going through my first divorce 40 years ago, so the phrase "and now the end is near" I took as being the end of my marriage. Now I am old it takes on a different meaning but I have always adjusted it at different times in my life.
You can listen to Frank Sinatra sing it while the words are on the screen so you can read them. I hope you enjoy it. Stay strong....xxOOxx
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6E2hYDIFDIU

No, you are absolutly not wrong and don't change. Especially if even part of it is because that illness. My girlfriend is the same way. And her daughter also told her she never goes out. And I'm thinking the same thing - why should she if she does't want to. Isn't the whole idea of going out is having a good time? If you're not going to, or if you would rather just stay at home, that's what she should do. Of course, her daughter lived at home at the time and I think she just wanted to have the house to herself. Me and my girlfriend live together in a house we bought. I like to go out to concerts but I never pressure her to go anywhere. (If it's Paul Mcartney she will definitly go.) Those people probably think if you go out you will probably enjoy it. But they don't know. You tell them exacdtly what you said here. I don't tell you to stop drinking, do I? Put it back on her. Why don't you stop drinking and partying and grow up? Why don't you save your money instead of wasting it on drinking? That will get her mad and she will probably shutup like she should. I hate it when people do that.

my fella doesnt drink, hates clubbing and doesnt mind going out but prefers to be at home on his computer and chatting online with friends as I get depressed not being in physical contact with people!!! Socialise out of the house!!! he does come out from time to time... but i do like to be out on my own with friends than with him all the time... and it keeps our relationship going... as wud have left a long time ago... BORED!!!!

Hi Gabs,



I think you should have a word with her when she is sober, she has no right to tell you what you should do or not, if you want to sty in and enjoy being at home, then that is your choice and no one elses, tell her to mind her own business, your computer and making cards is what you love and no one can tell you otherwise, I do hate poeple telling me wnat to do, I have friends like who wants to drag me out of the house and do what? talk about their kids and grandkids that I have no interest in, they find me boring with my computer, so what? just tell he straight hun, if she wants to ruin her insides with her drinking let her, but tell her you are not interested in her opinions. Love and hugs.


Tamara
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I never was a very social person either. I would rather stay home with my pets and read, be on the computer or watch reruns on TV. I do go out to the gym but I wait util most of the people are gone from there so I do not have to be around alot of people. I have always been that way. I remember getting in trouble for some small reason (I think talking out of turn) in high school. KNOW WHAT MY PUNISHMENT WAS? LOL........"thats it, you find something to do or someplacetp go outside of this house this week end, you are not staying home." LOL. I respect you and all others that are comfortable enough with who they are not to have to go out and alter their egos and personalties to fit it where they usually do not want to be anyway. MrPansey and CindyLou send their love to gissi.

Hi Gaby,

That is one of my pet peeves. I really do hate it when people try to run my life. My twin is constantly telling me to do something differently than the way I do it. Everything I do is not right or not good enough. She takes after my Mom. She hated it when Mom did it to her but refuses to believe that she is doing it too. I have tried over and over to get her off my back, short of kicking her out of my life. Now I just ignore her. My first husband tried to completely change me too. He thought that since I was young, only 20, that he could mold me into the woman he wanted. (His words by the way).
Just be who you are and try to ignore those who intrude on your life. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Love your Gissi and be happy.
Leenie

Gabs, Don't let anybody push you around. Whether or not they mean well, doesn't matter. Once they get an answer from you, that should be enough. Second time around is too much but it's ok to accept it but the third time around, they need a firm comment to leave you alone about the subject for you've already answered it and if that's not good enough then there's the door. Going out isn't for everyone. Some like to go out and get drunk, some like to go out and have a drink or two some like to go see a movie every now and then and some prefer to stay home. It's up to the person in what makes them happy and others should respect that. I'm a home body too and I'm NOT going to change for someone else and that's that!
Now we do get asked out every now and then to a restaurant that has a bar. Our friends want to sit at the bar, we do not but rather a table but if they want to sit at the bar, they can go right ahead but hubby and I will sit at a table. We don't drink and besides, I'm not sitting beside some stranger at the damned bar! But if our friend and our friends wife wants to sit there, go right ahead. We'll be right here. So stand your ground and tell her or anybody else, ENOUGH IS SAID ABOUT THE SUBJECT AND MY ANSWER STILL STANDS NOW END IT. If they don't honor you on that, then they weren't much of a friend to begin with!