Did you back answer your parents? Did your children back answered you?

As much as I hate to admit to it, yes, I did do a bit of backtalking. My mom and I used to get into arguments that would go on for a few days. But, it wasn't until I was 16 years old that I did this. You know, the age when all I could think about was being with my friends or boyfriend, and didn't want anyone telling me I couldn't. As far as my children go, the oldest two are 13. They are constantly sassing me. Well, it is either one or the other doing it...they take turns. Mornings are the worst. IT seems like every morning without fail I have to deal with one pitching a fit over some little thing or another, me trying to correct it followed by her smarting off to me. IT's something that I have learned to deal with, seeing as to how it is not going to change. I still feel like pulling my hair out over it! IT's enough to drive a Momma mad, that's for sure!

hi During our childhood days, if we back answer our elders, our elders will scold us and we are afraid of it. So whether we like it or not, we simply listen to what they say. But in the present generation, we must listen to our children and dance according to their tunes. Sometimes, my children listen to us and some times they give priorities to their moods

Hi Buchi, Answering back to the parents is not bad if you do it in a respectful way. But make sure that we are not hurting but simply telling our opinion. As a child I too scared my parents and elder siblings and thought that it is not good to give a reply. As a grown up I think we can express our opinion if we have a different opinion but we have to make sure that our words won’t hurt them. I deal with those situations in a humoristic way. I am applying the same method while dealing with my eight year old son, when he started to argue and unhappy with any, so he laugh at first then think what my mother is saying. But difficult to deal with my two and half years old, he is my 'mother-in-law'.

There is nothing wrong of answering when you are being scold by your parents but when you answer you must not raise your voice, speak softly, stay calm and explain truthfully. In this way you can explain thoroughly why you had done such thing. If you know to your self that it is really your fault, don't keep quiet, accept the mistake and apologize.

I did not talk back to my parents or any other elders as a child. If i had, I probably would have been sent to my room or worse for at least a month. Siblings was a different matter all together. We got on each others nerves constantly and told each other off. Today's generation does seem to handle relationships between children and adults differently. The respect that should be shown to elders is often abused.

Hi buchi, I never back answer to my parents or my elders i respect them, wat ever they tell is for our good. But the present generation childrens wont listen If your tell them something they tell your generation is gone, its our generation now, its our life, we live according to our choice, give us freedom they tell. sometimes i really feel very pity to them if they speak like this.

There is nothing wrong with talking back, if you're RIGHT!!! Parents don't automatically have the last word just because they are older. As my husband says, a father of many children, if kids can say something and BE RIGHT, then they've learned a lot from their parents, and will do alright in the world.

Well, I always back answer my parents, even until now, when I have my own kid. I don't think it's anything wrong to back answer the elders, and since I was young, I do not think whatever parents or adults said is correct. Different people have different opinions, different generation experienced different things too, the parents or adults shouldn't force the children to listen to them all the time. I am glad that my father always told me that parents are not always right, and I can always voice out my opinion when I was young. Back answering or voicing own opinions doesn't mean we do not respect the elder people, I think it is. I let my parents know what I think, instead of just keep quiet but do something else. Although I always had arguments with my mother whenever we have different opinions, of course, she didn't like me to back answer her that much, our relationship got improved every time after the arguments, as we understood each other better. I still think I am an obedient kid, though I always argued with my mom, at last I still did not do what she didn't like me to. I just wanted to let her know what I thought and what my feeling was. I think this is important in the family communication, it helps to build our relationship stronger. My kid is only 8 months old now, so he still hasn't back answer me yet. But I'll encourage him to do so, encourage him to voice out his own opinions, of course in a polite and respectful way. I still remember when I was young, my younger sister didn't back answer me though she seemed like she didn't agree with me. I wouldn't want her to just keep quiet, because I wanted to know what she thought, I might not be right and I might not understand what she thought, hence I always asked her to tell me what she was thinking. Now, she is much better in voicing out her own opinions, and I prefer it this way, so I can understand her better. I think after all, it's too improve our relationship, it helps to understand each other better, then why not?

Though I'd love to be able to say that I never backtalked my parents, but that wouldn't be the truth. I did backtalk my parents and I did get in a lot of trouble for doing it when I was younger as well. I remember getting several spankings for backtalking. The most memorable one was when I was about eight years old and I'd done something to get in trouble. After the spanking, I turned around to my mother and asked "Was that supposed to hurt?" I ended up with another spanking that resulted in a broken ping pong paddle. Now that I am a mother with children of my own, I notice that they too backtalk myself and my husband.

well, buchigaru, never i didn't answer back to my parents or any other elders, till now i didn't do that. i do repect elders. then only they will give back also. everybody likes me that way. i treat as everyone as my friend. i feel repect elders what ever position you will be. thankyou, have a nice day.