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myLot reputation of 95/100. laydee (3927)   ranked 55 out of 3,931 in thinker3 weeks ago

Self-control is love's strength

What do you think that statement means? Do you agree?

When I first read the statement, I was actually thinking about natural birth control lol well, perhaps I'm just way way shallow today. But as I pondered about it, there's actually something to it.

A good example would be on the topics of 'cheating'. When you love your partner so much, I doubt you'd be easily tempted to go for cheating. But as love diminishes, or finds itself covered with all the emotional problems of life, self-control isn't really there anymore, thus cheating happens.

What do you think?

 
 
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1. myLot reputation of 92/100. free_man (365)   ranked 653 out of 3,931 in thinker   3 weeks ago

Hello Laydee I think that statement could mean many things. If one has self control then they won't do things the wrong way. I think if we all had self control there would be a lot less hate and hurtful things in this world. We all should practice self control I know it is harder for some but it is possible to keep control over things in our lives. I think when someone cheats they are weak people and need to learn that love is a blessing from God and should be thankful for what they have. Have a great day!thumbup


lyte_face01 (59)   ranked 2,948 out of 3,931 in thinker  3 weeks ago

I totally agree with your mr. free_man. Because temptations are always around us. It's always up to us on how we respond to them guarded by our strong discipline to stick on our principles on how love should be. I still believe that we should never do to our partner what we don't want him/her to do to us. Like, we don't want to be cheated. We need to be STRONG and not be tempted.


myLot reputation of 92/100. free_man (365)   ranked 653 out of 3,931 in thinker  3 weeks ago

I think it is wise to treat people like you want to be treated and if they treat you bad then leave them alone. Show respect to others and that respect will be shown back. Once a cheater always a cheater. There is too many people out there looking for that right man/woman that won't do you wrong. No one likes to be alone all the time! Have a great day!happyhappy

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2. myLot reputation of 94/100. cobrateacher (4184)   ranked 4 out of 3,931 in thinker   3 weeks ago

Hi, Laydee!
I can't imagine anything ever tempting me to cheat on my husband.
I know a lot of women who lie to their husbands about their shopping and spending, but I really can't see why. If they feel they have to do this, they either need to examine their relationship and see that honesty is vital, or learn self-control. Is whatever they bought really important enough to betray their relationships?

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3. moyeun (19)   ranked 2,626 out of 3,931 in thinker   3 weeks ago

I agree that self-control is love's strength but I don't think "cheating" is main melody of love. Usually we will lose some senses when we are in love with someone. And we always try our best to perform better in front of him and to make hime happier. And sometimes we even make some "white lies". But we don't cheat. Cheating, never small or big, will lead to a failure of everything including love stuff. So, to be faithful and never use a cheating to cover some truth is the basic rule we should obey. Cheating is pain between you and him. Never let it hurt your relationship.

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4. myLot reputation of 91/100. learn2earn (10391)   ranked 658 out of 3,931 in thinker   3 weeks ago

I think that it's a good phrase to remember. As you explained, it is good to love someone faithfully when you are in marriage. Self-control would be a good asset that we need to have. Not only for a relationship but in all areas of life. We need self-control in the food we eat. We need self-control for ourselves when we are angry. We need self-control in using the internet. We need self-control in situations that would lead us astray.


myLot reputation of 82/100. starsailover (850)   ranked 692 out of 3,931 in thinker  3 weeks ago

Hi learn2earn: thanks for your answer. I didn't think about it when i answer the question but you can actually take this advice for almost everything in your life. You need self control for our friends when you're about to say something that could hurt their feelings, we need self control to understand in some cases that problems are not that big as we think. This is just because self control make humans able to make the best decitions, between the good and the bad ones, the inmoral or moral options. Thanks for your answer as usual. Have a nice day.

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5. myLot reputation of 82/100. starsailover (850)   ranked 692 out of 3,931 in thinker   3 weeks ago

Hi laydee: Nice interpretation of these words. For me "self control is love's strength" means that when you love someone you'll have to fight against some temptations and that will show you the strength of this love. We must admit that even if you love a person, in some points of our lives we're not sure about what to do, maybe cheating but it's not only the case. We need to have self control when we discuss with the person we call the love of our lives and we think it's enough and that we want to leave. When you love, there are sometimes that you have to make difficult decitions and self control will be required.

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6. sachikobrandl (19)   ranked 2,627 out of 3,931 in thinker   3 weeks ago

agreed, but not because of the cheating. self-control in any relationship shows the amount of love. i think most people focus on cheating out of fear of being cheated on. demonstrate self control over your fear and youll probally make someone feel loved.

parenting!!! showing self control with your children will teach them love and show them a love they can feel. instead of doing whats convenient do what is best and control yourself, your frustration, your exhaustion!

siblings instead of being jealous or angry with each other show some self-control and embrace the older years where its time to love each other as friends.

FRIENDS!!! control yourselves when friends don't take your great advice and just give them love. control the urge to argue over different topics you disagree on such as politics, money, parenting, religion. you know you disagree, why get heated... again! don't talk about it, show some self control. your not going to convince each other to believe the opposite.

self-control is love's strength... in every single aspect of life.

its funny cause love is an emotion and that's what we must learn to control is our insane human emotions. if you live by what FEELS good, you wont know love. if you let what FEELS bad direct your next action, you wont know love.

what can you add to this thought of mine?

where eles does love get shown by demonstrating self-control?

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7. Ashwinirakesh (16)   ranked 2,634 out of 3,931 in thinker   3 weeks ago

I Really Really agree with you. Yes! Self control is Love's strength.

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8. evadhar (11)   3 weeks ago

I don't think that self-control has anything to do with love, nor should it. To me, self-control means restraining oneself from our natural impulses, emotions and desires. It means resisting our temptations. Regarding love, true love means we are committed to our significant other, our partner in life. In that case, there should be no temptations to resist. If there are, then maybe we need to examine our love, maybe it's not love after all. I think a better statement would be "unconditional support is love's strength."

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