Out of Place

I feel out of place around my youngest granddaughter's "other" family...and she just turned one so I'll have a lot more of these experiences. First of all, the father is my husband's son so I'm technically his step-mother. Secondly, the mother of the baby is Cuban so there's a lot of Spanish spoken by her family members. Thirdly, no one in that family has any manners so I've never been introduced to anyone. At the baby shower I introduced myself to the soon-to-be "other" grandmother. My oldest daughter was with me (Thank God) and we ran into another woman we knew who sat with us but, other than her...and the mother-to-be for 3 seconds...no one talked to us. I overheard "grandmother" comments a few times and at one point I wanted to yell, "Hey, I'm the baby's grandmother, too!" but I didn't. Recently we went to the baby's first birthday party and it was more or less the same situation. Some other relatives from my side were there, my daughter, son-in-law and their 3 children...a few nieces with their kids...but, again, there were a whole bunch of folks I have seen before but have no idea who they are. As soon as my family members started to leave I got the he11 out of there!

There were plenty of times I felt out of place. I used to go out with a group of friends I no longer speak to. I was there alone as I had no boyfriend, so I was the third wheel, or if it was more friends the third, fourth or even fifth wheel. Now I have a husband, but I am sure that the two friends my husband and I are close to most likely feel the sting of being a third wheel. For this reason, we tend to just hang out and not do anythign couple like, or anything that would make the others uncomfortable. Though I can't help but to steal a kiss from my husband from time to time whilst in the company of our friends.

Well, there have been many times where I have felt out of place, and wished I could disappear or would have stayed home as well. Many times things are like this when I get around my husbands family, and even though we Love them, since we do not drink and our Christians we feel all out of place for sure. But personally I think the biggest thing is just trying to do your part when around others to make the Best of things and if it does not happen at least you tried.

I feel like that a lot. I even get lonely being with people. Like tonight with my boyfriend. He is at home and we are watching a movie. I feel there is something missing. I feel more alone with him here then when he is gone. I thought I would make the first move tonight. He does not even react. This makes me feel out of place too.

..where ever I go, I would always long for the sense of belongingness.. this is one very important factor for me.. because If I don't feel I belong to the group, I'd rather be alone or find other group.. Even in the workplace.. I'd prefer to look for another job if people in that workplace don't accept me as part of the family even if the pay is high.. I want to stay in a place where I feel I belong so I could be happy.. there's no point of staying in a group where I can't enjoy myself..

I did feel out of place quite a few times. I think it's normal. There was this social event my friend took me to where she didn't tell me that everyone was dressed in semi formal attire. I was dressed very casually and stuck out like sore thumb. That made me feel really awkward and annoyed that she didn't tell me about the dress code.