Love life

I don't follow any religion but will give my opinion on a couple of points anyway
Firstly I think that you may have a better response to this discussion if you had posted it in the religion section.

There aren't any rules about where to post but I find getting the right section for a discussion makes more people read it.

With regards to your questions about your church I couldn't say why you are being asked all these questions.

The only thing I will say is that I think your church is very controlling and not what I would ever feel comfortable with.

I don't mean that in any way disrespectfully towards your church or religion.

Personally if I was you I would find another place of worship.

HI! Fiona, Mabuhay! I cant think much right now cause i have dengue, but i will still try to give you a good response. You know that is the problem with most of religions, but for us catholic it is not, no matter what religion you are or no matter who you are believing with, what important is that you and your partner love each other. Have you even asked your pastor, Does he even know what love is? Is it really the doings of a Pastor to question the religion of your love one? What if he is in your position? A true and real pastor teaches good things, they must not teach people of their religion to be mean with other religions or to force a person to shift religions. I know it's their mission to attract members of your religion, but the word is "attract" not force. Humans have freewill, he also do have. Does he even know the meaning of freewill? Catholic and Christians are not that too far religions, they both believe in God. God's top rules are to love others no matter what nationality, race, nor religion and love oneself. God also gave us freewill. Questioning ones religion is like questioning owns religion. What if he will be the one to be questioned? I know some Pastors too, but they are way too different from your Pastor. It is not the way it should. I don't want to be mean but, you are beautiful maybe he also have interest in you that is why he is being like that? Let's say he told you, you are like a daughter? A daughter must not treated to be like that. You know what i see in your case? Your pastor is trying to take control of you. Controlling others, depicts the freewill and the human rights of a people, do you think it is a pastor doings? I am sure you don not want to be controlled by others, nor others to decide for your future. You are the only one who can decide for your future not others, because it is yourself. So that in the end there is no one to blame and there are no regrets. It will be still your last decision about that. I just want you to open your mind and be enlighten on what the real situation is. Besides you and your bf love each other so much right? So religion should not be a burden, but it must be the one to support your faith to each other. Your pastor must teach how to love others no matter what religion, not to question others. Even Muslims, and other religions do teach their people to love others no matter what religion. Cause we all believe in one Supreme Being. Love is uncontrollable by you, what more others to control your feelings? I am sure your Pastor doesn't want to be controlled too right? Because he knows hes thing, and it's the same to you, you know your thing do it. Does your pastor knows how to be a real Pastor? He must support you instead of destroying your future. I have questions for you. What if the boy friend that you loved so much! Leaved you because of that teachings by your pastor? Can you blame your Pastor? Can you blame your religion for that? Of course you can't, because whatever other people's advice to you, still you are the last one to decide for your self. In the end you will be the looser not your Pastor. You have the lost. Your Pastor remains a Pastor and you became a looser. If you will listen to what other people will say to you. I am not saying that your Pastor is bad, even your religion cause even do Priest commit mistakes, just be what you are and follow what your heart is saying so there will be no regrets and blaming. Just be yourself and decide for your self. Think before you decide and decide before anything bad happens. No matter what the result will be, just be ready, strong and and be sure you will have no regrets.

So.. is it okay to have an affair with someone in your church? I thought by principle there should not be "affairs" outside of the sanctity of marriage! I think it is difficult at best to marry or have "affairs" outside of your own denominaiton. But I don't think the pastor should worry as much about that as other more important things.

Hi baby,

For me, loving a person includes accepting everything about him/her. His faith, religion and beliefs are important to me as well. As you said on your topic, your boyfriend spent a year attending your ministry knowing he is not a part of it in the beginning. Which means that he is already devoting his time and energy to know you spiritually. It is all about you and him. With your pastor still in question about his faith, I think it is not important. What important is the true meaning of your love for each other. I don't want to question your pastor because he has his own views and he is the one who see how well your boyfriend participate on the church.

If you think he is important than anything in this world, then anything else don't matter at all. No one could let your love collide, either religion and culture. That what true love is.

Your Pastor unfortunately is narrow minded. Putting people in straight jackets is now history. Worshiping God from a plane or base that is comfortable to an individual is vital for peace and happiness taking care ofcourse not to commit sins.

I have heard of this preaching and in fact, it is written in the Bible that Christians should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. The way I see these things is that these guidelines are made for our own good to help us not derail from our Christianity. Most people who are not Born Again don't place Christianity as a priority so they can do somethings that God would not like us to do, and we can easily be lured into sin if we spend a lot of time with them so somehow I think your Pastor is concerned about your welfare

Wow your church is indeed strict in implementing their rules on their members. Well I think that Church although they are our guide as to what is supposed to be right and wrong. But I also think that it should not be to the point that they are the ones that control our lives and every personal choices we have are questioned already. I think the church should control you to a certain point in our lives. I think the fact that your BF has started attending your church is already trying to know your church already and your pastor should be happy about that. Having him join your church must be voluntary and should not be because you are a member there.

Both faith and love in a relationship must be included. Anyway, I would ask you an honest question: Are you really a Christian or are you just a member of Full Gospel Church as you have said because there is really a difference between a Christian and just a member of the church. The former is committed to Christ and obeys God's commands while the latter just attends church services merely for the sake of belonging or being part of a "Christian group". If you're just a member of your church, there's really a reason to disobey your church stand because you are not committed and you're free to decide what you want. But if you're really a Christian, there's wisdom behind your church stand because they are only following Christ command in the bible. Your pastor is only concerned about your welfare and your future as well because you are also his responsibilty to God because you are a Christian, a follower of Christ and you attend to the church entrusted by God to your pastor. Christ command believers in the church to not unequally yoke with unbelievers (2 Cor 6:14-18). It is not your pastor's only stand but Christ Himself through His divine and inspired Word. Please read these verses. Let's see your situation if your bf would propose to you: if you would be married, what church, catholic or born again. What would be the faith of your children in the future. Is it okay to you if your children would be catholic? Your children would have confusion regarding your faith in the future.
Lastly, if your bf really loves you why is it he cannot decide about his eternal destiny. If he can't decide about his relationship with God or he is not serious about being a Christian, how can he be serious with you regarding commitment especially marriage which is a lifetime commitment. Anyway true love comes from Christianity, it is a christian teaching and not a secular word or just an emotional outburst, it is a commitment. God bless and may God guide you in your wise decision. True love waits.

hello baby fiona,

If there's one thing i can never replaced, it's my religion, I was born with it and will DIE with it. but i used to have this girl friend of mine, we loved each other, and one moment she asked me if she changed into a catholic, because of me. i told her NO, because you can have as many men, but never religion. i think for me, it's not the persons business to question the man's faith. Is he God? or something, well, he should asked him that himself instead of asking you. he might be attending your attending your church for a year but maybe it's because of you and not the religion. you should test him or something....

Well, i dont think he has to remind you always. Beside what is wrong with falling in love with a person not a member of your church? Dont you think your pastor's rule is unchristian.? Sorry to say that but that is how i look at your pastor's belief. Besides what does he has to do with your lovelife.