Am I wrong to feel this way?

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I spent the last few months doing a lot of fundraising to get enough money for my daughter to fly from Ontario, Canada, to Puerto Rico to participate in the Pan American Games for Taekwondo. She did almost nothing to help me with fundraising. She didn't even have a job. She went to Puerto Rico this weekend. I wish I had been able to go but we were lucky to scrape enough money together to pay for her to go. She went with another team mate and her mother. They were representing Canada. I was so proud of her but she only got her Black Belt the previous Saturday so I didn't put too high expectations on her efforts. The experience alone was enough. Last night she called and had me call right back. I put the phone on speaker phone and she went on for over half an hour about everything that went on - including her winning a GOLD MEDAL!!!! I was so happy for her and really wished I had gone down there with her. So what do you do when your child wins a Gold Medal at an International event? I bought a bouquet of flowers and went to pick her up at the airport. I understand she was tired but she pushed me away, told me to leave her alone, that I was embarrassing her. She chatted happily with everyone else but when I talked to her she just glowered at me. When we stopped at her new workplace (4 hours worked so far) for her to pick up her paycheque, she happily went in with her gold and bronze medals around her neck. I broke down and cried telling my husband that I had worked so hard for her to get there and this is the way she treats me? I am going through a bit of a mid-life crisis in that I see 3 marathon medals my husband got over the last 2 years, all the trophies and medals both my girls have won, and me? I have nothing.... EXCEPT I raised two beautiful, talented, funny, smart daughters. Was I wrong in wanting to share in her glory? Everyone told me how polite she was while on the trip. And I have heard that in the past, but she is so rude to her father and me. She likened my bringing her flowers to a stick with underwear on it! I gave her a real talking to and told her if she didn't change her attitude she wouldn't be going on any more of these trips (she is supposed to be going to Belarus to compete in the Taekwondo World Cup next summer). My husband agrees that she is disrespectful to us but still shrugs it off as her being a teenager. "Don't you remember when you were a teenager?" he says to me. Don't get me started on that! Tell me, how would you feel if your daughter reacted that way. She won a Gold Medal sparring in a competition her first time as a Black Belt. Don't I have a right to feel proud and for God's sakes SHOW HER!? What are your thoughts?