Failed expectations...

Well your name fits what I was going to say. Just Bounce back. I know it's hard to deal with someone else's frustrations because I am that person. I went back home after a court battle was in the rise. I became angry and bitter and let everyone know and my parents that i hated them and my life was crud because of them. Sometimes the blamer needs to stop and point that finger to themselves. Just breathe when it comes at you. Just close the ear to that person but nod accordingly. Stop and write a letter, not just to knock them back down and point out their flaws but to also tell them what it's doing to you. My current situation caused me to have a nervous breakdown and I told my beau that "the weight you are putting on my shoulders right now is heavy and I simply can't do it anymore. It is not fair for me to try to help you and then you bite my face off because you can't handle what's going on. YOu need to get help." I hope this helps. Since I had my wake-up call I am trying to be nicer. I might feel like crud, but when I make others feel it, I feel it worse and it starts a fight. Write your feelings down and burn them when you are done. Breathe and bounce back. I didn't realize how toxic I was being until I woke up. Good luck to you.

I think you have to come to a place where you really understand in your soul, that it is about someone elses depression, and then you let go of the feeling of being responsible. You have to refuse to take the blame. People that are afraid to really look at themselves, tend to blame other people for their failures and their own in ability to adapt to what life hands us. We have to be responsible for our own happiness, no one has the right to expect you to be their only answer in life. Or their constant scape goat. Maybe you should remind someone that we all have to look in the mirror and realize the reflection looking back is the only one we have to thank or blame. Hang in there Bounce..we got your back..Sticks crossed.

I guess you just can't let other people's problems get to you. I understand that it's difficult, because other people's emotions effect me a great amount. Just keep telling yourself that it isn't your fault, because really, it isn't. It's their own problem.

If it's a guy you"re talking about, I'd just tell im to stop being such a wuss and not to take it out on me. Tell him that life's tough for everyone and he needs to grow up, and stop being a whiny baby. If it's a girl you're talking about, sorry, I can't help you there. the female mentality is a complete mystery to me, even after all these years of dealing with them.

For me about that situation I pray to Jehovah GOD so that he can examine my heart where do I belong in that matter after that I can manage my depression.

Well, you have to go on because you owe that to yourself. You need to let the people that are making you feel like a failure know that this type of behavior is abusive. You have to tell them that just because you are in a relationship with them that does not give them license to put you down. Sometimes people put other people down to make themselves feel better. Misery loves company and if you are a caring person like you appear to be you constantly are getting used up. Be strong for yourself and do not let someone do this to you. Remember the person that you married is the person that promised to be there for you and love you. Funny how they are always the ones that are bringing you down. I think in a good healthy relationship people really are there for one another and there is a genuine support. Not a power play. U know?

Take a deep breath and step back. If anyone is putting pressure on your back you don't need, then shake the pressure off. You can't be the blame for someone else who thinks they've failed. They may not and may just be depressed, but that's where stepping back would help, don't let them pull you in, or down, pull them up if you can. Did this help? I am not sure what is going on but I did my best to kind of cover all grounds without being offensive.