if you are forced to live with someone because of a contract signed...but

I can see you're quite in a dilemma now. Most people, if they have to live with someone else because of a contract, they may once have such an experience. Certainly, it's a tough problem. But it doesn't mean that you can't handle it. If you want, I have some suggestions for you. Perhaps you can try them. First, try to talk to your partner over and over. It requires amazing patience and tolerance. Now you're fed up with that guy, but you still have to bear him. Talk to him frankly and honestly, pointing out his merits (since everyone likes hearing others praise him), telling him you really admire his advantages and the kind help he offers for you. Remember to watch over his facial expression while talking to him. If he's happy, then go further and tell him if he changes some of his habits, he'll be a much more fantastic and charming person. We all have to live somebody else in our life, so I'm sure he'll give you an ear. But you'll have to be patient with him first. If he still pays no attention to you, then try to talk to the owner of the house. Tell him your misery and see if he can show some sympathy and adapt the contract. Good luck!

If you signed the contract then you will have to stay or pay the money. Maybe you can fine someone else who gets along with your roomy to move in with him. Maybe your roomy will decide to move and then he will have to pay. Hope you can figure out a way to make things work out for you.

Hi Chiumee, I am sorry for you to have to be in this awful position. As somene else responded, four months will go quickly. Basically what this room mate is doing is taking advantage of you while verbally abusing you. Do you have a United Way within the community you are in? I would try to seek out a men's shelter and find someone to talk to there. Instead of talking to your co-workers, or employer, go straight to the Human Resources department of your work place, if they have one. Spare your co-workers. Try to not take this problem to work with you. I know how hard that can be but it is best for your professional reputation. There are organizations that are there for people in abusive situations. I would seek something like that out and make an appointment to talk with someone there. Personally, if anyone leaves the place that you are staying, it should be your room mate. If he ever threatens you or lays a hand on you, call your local police department immediately. Perhaps they may remove him, place him under arrest for uttering threats or if her brings physical harm, for assault. In such a case, then talk to the owner of where you are staying with a contract. You could ask the police for a restraining order so that the guy can't come anywhere near you but then you, if he does ever threaten or harm you. Since he signed the contract oo, he would still be responsible for his share, I would think. If you were go to talk to the owner now, there isn't much they can do for you since they are simply business people. You signed a contract with you. If you want out all he is going to want is his money. Your only option in that case is to take a place with others, crowded or not and just pay the rest of the four months to honor your contract, even though you are not staying there. I understand what you are feeling and it is unfortunate that you both signed the contract. Perhaps, if you could find someone to take over your half of the place and thus your half of the contract, the owner would let you leave without penalty. last option would be to get a good lock for the door to your room and install it. Put all of your personal belongings in there and lock the door in your absence. When you go to shower etc, take your things into the bathroom and take them out with you back to your room when you are done. Don't even talk to the guy. Prepare food in the kitchen but eat in your room. Just pretend he isn't there. Easy. Wear headphone with your favorite music playing so if he does ever enter the common areas when you are there, you don't have to hear a word he is blabbing about. Four months will go fast! I wish you well.

That is a horrible situation you are in. I think you are resigned to live there for the next 4 months unfortunately. If I were you, I'd chalk this one up to experience and be looking for a place to live. I think the only way you could opt out of this contract would be if you found someone else to take over your place on the rental agreement.

hi chiumee that sounds terrible,is there any way short of boppint your unpleasant roommate on the head to get him to be more agreeable with you.it would be like hell to live with someone like him, unless he changes his ways. Have you tried explaining how rotten this roommate is to the owner? maybe if you could give some examples of the things he has done you may be able to persuade the owner to let you out of the contract, or is there other roommates in other rooms there that might be persuaded to trade roommmates ,. maybe the jerk might be less of a jerk with someone else. talk to your owner and see if you cannot work out something. let us know what happens.

Hi Chiumee, I'm sorry to hear your having such a tough time. Its seems your really stuck between a rock in a hard place. If i was you I'd try to talk to your roommate again. Stay calm and try not to get a fight going.... get your point across without pissing him off or aggravating the situation. Tell him how you feel. Tell him what he does that bothers you, and ask him if there anything you need to work on. Tell him your both stuck in this apt for a few more months and your stick of being miserable... tell him you would both be happier this way. No one wants to hate being at home. Even if you guys aren't friends or get along there is no reason to be disrespectful and make someone else like miserable! Just try you best to stay away from him. Get a luck on your door to so you don't have to deal with him using your stuff I hope this helps in some way and i hope it gets better for you

dear friend .. there are a lot of things happens in our life which we dislike but we are bound to bear with it.. i understand the situation that you are facing... i was earlier signed a job with a MNC company where the pattern of working was very disgusting but i have borne with the situation for the sake of my family and now i am free and living of my own...

Chiumee it must be really hard for u to live with that person................ but if u don't want pay money just for nothing u have to bear it............. if u ask me i should tell u, just to ignore him.........