A good Spanking
By natnickeep
@natnickeep (2336)
United States
December 21, 2009 1:05pm CST
Is there a such thing as a "good" spanking? Is this a good way to discipline your child? When I was a child I was spanked when I was bad until I was at least 7 or 8 years old. I then in turn have spanked my children, just a light swat on the but. Mostly when they are doing something that might endanger them. I never hurt them. Nothing like the spankings I have heard of children getting. Sometimes I think parents go overboard.
Once they are older than 5 I don't swat their butts. They then understand the corner and after age 8 you can ground them from things and what not.
What are your views on spanking?
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6 responses
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
21 Dec 09
I was spanked as a child also. I never thought it was a horrible thing. We only got it when we really needed it and never with anything other than our parents hands. No belts or "switches" or things like that. Then once we got old enough to ground us or take things away they didn't spank anymore. I've done the same with my kids and while my middle one can still challenge my nerves, I get compliments all the time how well behaved my kids are.
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@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
21 Dec 09
Yes my kids are also fairly well behaved. I never have a problem with them in public and I don't have to spank them that often. But when it comes to making a point sometimes they just aren't listening until you swat their butt and get their attention.
@abhikmjmdr (779)
• India
26 Dec 09
I am not in favour of spanking my children.But there are times when nothing else works and they deserve it.I do not really hurt them but try and get the message across loud and clear that they are in forbidden territory.We got spanked in our childhood and I do not think it is too harsh a punishment when necessary unless one goes overboard with it.
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
27 Dec 09
I agree. There is a limit for sure. You should only use it when you have tried other things first. Sometimes you just have to get their attention and that's the only thing that works. Especially when they are doing something dangerous. There are many things that they can do that will hurt more than your spanking them.
@kaka135 (14994)
• Malaysia
24 Dec 09
Well, I personally disagree with spanking the children. I don't think it's an effective way to teach our children, and also it may bring bad effect to them. I was hit by my mother when I was young, and I couldn't even remember what I did wrongly. At the moment, I didn't think it did help me to learn better when I was punished. I just knew that I shouldn't let my mother discover what I did. 
Since I was young, I already didn't like the concept of punishing the kids. 
Since I was young, I already didn't like the concept of punishing the kids. @natnickeep (2336)
• United States
27 Dec 09
Yes I understand that also. Everyone has their own views on discipline. I don't spank often and when I do it is usually something my daughter knows she shouldn't be doing or something really dangerous. I always make sure to slow down and explain why she got in trouble and hug her and let her know I still love her after wards.
@musicman6 (2413)
• United States
21 Dec 09
I agree with both of you, we got spanked when we were kids, but it was for things that deserved spanking! And we were all well behaved and now, my kids are well behaved also!
There is nothing wrong with spankings like some people seem to think! You have to know what you are doing!
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
21 Dec 09
Yes I think spankings have gotten a lot of bad rep because some people don't know their limit. They spank kids to hard or use objects or worse. That puts a strain on those of us who are just trying to make sure our kids grow up as decent respectful individuals.
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
21 Dec 09
some parents really get overboard. my brother has two sons and they are really two headaches. you can see two tazmanian devils in theor house. walls full of drawings and they are really both hard to control. and he spank them.... and the spanking is too much that now thatt he kids are 7 and 6 no longer listen to him. they are already immune with the hurt. my child is three years old and his photo appears as my avatar. and we warn him and tell him that he will get spanked if he will not listen. and it is easy to let him stop just by showing the act that he will be spank.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
23 Dec 09
I am yet another example of a person that used to be spanked when I was a child and that is now something that I do sparingly with my own children. I don't spank them all the time when they misbehave, but I do chose to spank them when they are doing something that they know that they should not be doing and also when the action that they are taking part in is something that is very dangerous either to themselves or to others. I am always getting compliments about how well behaved my children are.
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
23 Dec 09
Yep same here. Mostly when they are doing something dangerous. And I do get lots of compliments. My kids are very respectful already at the ages of 4 and 9.
