Digging in someone else's pantry - decent or not?
By mommyboo
@mommyboo (13174)
United States
December 22, 2009 11:18pm CST
Would you ever allow your kids to dig into someone else's pantry? Would YOU do it? I'm not talking about if you're really super close to someone and you spend so much time at their house and they spend time at yours and you just help yourselves, I'm talking about someone who may be a new friend or just an acquaintance.
It seems to bother me more than anything to watch peoples' kids just dig into pantries when they are someone else's house - and the parent SAYS nothing! They don't chastise their child or explain that the snacks are laid out, or get a snack of their own that they packed, more than less lately I see the parents acting like they haven't even noticed what their kids are doing.
For the record, this isn't like 10 month old babies who don't know better and are toddling around touching everything. I'm talking about 4, 5, 6 year olds or older that just.... get into things and seem to have no shame.
11 responses
@gitfiddleplayer (10362)
• United States
23 Dec 09
Of course not, how rude. Our kids right now are being terrible and we need to do something different with them. Its the terrible 7's and 9's for us, not sure where this came from but its going to stop. My kids are not rude at all but when I see them acting up in public I will pinch the snot out of them, if they even did what those kids did it would back in the car and home for a beating.
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@Genericbe (1376)
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
For me, digging in someone else's pantry is not decent. Being an adolescent with values acquired it not a good attitude. It can offend someone unless I was given a permission for that in such reasons.
But, for kids it can never be called decent or not because kids are given the considerations that they are kids. They must be given proper teachings and values. Since they are dependent on mature people. What they see is what they do. They are in their curiosity stage. Given the right trainings would help them realize and reconcile with their doubts and avoid doings that will tend to disgust other people.
so, in kids, it is more of guidance and teaching of good moral values. When they have been given this, and they reached the adolescent stage, they will avoid doing things they have done when they are a child because they have realized also what is good and bad.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
25 Dec 09
i am so not into having adults let alone children going digging around in my cabinets or fridge. i don't like anyone feeling so comfortable they don't think they need to ask permission before they touch or go into anything that belongs to me... it really makes me mad!
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Dec 09
Not without an invitation, I wouldn't be comfortable doing it. Heck, even with an invitation, I'd be a wee bit uncomfortable!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
27 Dec 09
This is something that I don't like my children to do at all. It doesn't matter to me if it is a close friend's house or even if it is the home of a family member, I don't think that it is exercising very good manners to dig through someone else's food. My three-year-old son is the most guilty of doing this. The reason that I don't like them doing it is that it makes me feel like I don't feed the kids nearly enough, or else, I feel like my food is inferior to the food of everyone else.
@allknowing (153544)
• India
24 Dec 09
It is the upbringing that reflects in children doing that. I dont approve of such behaviour and if someone did it in my house I would stop them from doing it at the cost of getting glares from their parents. Leave alone children who are casual visitors even those close should not.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
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23 Dec 09
As we no longer have children visit us regularly this is not such a problem. However, we used to have a boy come here who I was convinced never got fed at home. He would come straight in and head for the fridge! He'd see something that he liked the look of and then ask if he could have it. Usually he was successful. Generally our daughter would hit the fridge or biscuit box and then tell us that her friends and herself were all "starving" and could they have XY or Z. Or more often could they have XY AND Z!
@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
23 Dec 09
This is disgusting and children need to be taught to respect their own house and other people's houses. We were not allowed to ask for anything in the house of another person. to go looking in their pantries or even to leave the room and look around th house would have been considered very rude. If we were dying for a drink we would wait until we were asked if we were thirsty. Then we would only ask for water because we did not know if the host had anything else to offer us. I hate bad manners.
@jahernandezrivas (11287)
• United States
23 Dec 09
No I know I wouldn't do it and this one girl used to come over all the time and it was like she was hungry all the time and the first thing she would do was to go straight to my kitchen and get in the cabinets and say dang i'm hungry what you got to eat? Man that annoyed me so bad then she would go on the fridge and be digging around in my food I said dang I hope you washed your hands or you will buying me new groceries! Thank God she does'nt come over anymore!And her little girl would do it too and I am sure she taught her to do it or told her to do it before they knocked on the door.
@bingchen (1119)
• China
24 Dec 09
they are children,so what they have done we could not criticize much.at the same time,they could not think about much what they done which effect other poeple life,so what we is excusing their behaviour.i think that they could know how to regulate their action when they grow up.
