Handling confrontation.  

i agree with you. very good point. easier said that done though, it's especially hard for me to ontrol my emotions. i'm not afraid of confrontations though, and the suddent burst of emotions is quite expected.

While you make a good point the problem is that often an attacker may not interpret your response the same way that you do. I tend to not respond to verbal attacks, particularly if I know that my action were not the real cause of the attack. The problem with can become that the attacker views this as weakness or an admission of guilt and will use at another time. The thing to try and do is diffuse the situation and then discuss the true problem.

What exactly are you looking for as a response here?
It would make a good Sunday School Lesson! I am dum-founded, as if I wadded too far out in a mud puddle, and now my feet are wet! Oh! that reminds me of a story!
A Pastor, walking along a narrow path in the jungle, met a Tiger. Quickly he whispered a prayer. "OH God show this terrible beast that I am your good servant, so that he won't eat me!"
The Tiger licked his lips and growled, " Oh! Thank you God for giving me this tasty Meal!"

Hello pose dear...I must admit I am very bad at handling confrontations.Especially if it invovles my loved ones.....I know that when a person is overcome with strong emotions like anger,he tend to say things which he dont normally mean.Though I tend to get hurt by such outbursts I prefer to remain quite and keep my mouth shut,because I know that if I retaliate it will only make things worse for both parties.I am a highly emotional person and can never thing of hurting or retaliating to my loved ones with strong words,and believe me this attitude has stood me in good stead most of the time...

Most of the time when we are attacked there is no reason to react if we know for sure that we are innocent and then it is clear that the person who behaves that way gets some relief in giving vent to his anger but it is hurled at someone who does not deserve it. When that happens it is best that we walk away from the scene.

I agree with you on a few points and sometimes you have to release your anger so the other person can know that you are passionate about the topic. Emotions are raw and they are real and sometimes you can't just let them be scraped too often. Talking is always a better solution and sometimes talking loudly works too. Always fight fair and never go to bed angry with your spouse, stay up and fight!

I agree with you. It is difficult to do though. But if you think of it as a communication skill, taking time to formulate your thoughts can make it easier to deal with confrontations. I think confrontations are inevitable. It is just a questions of getting used to handling them in such a way that we get to say our peace without either getting or giving hurt.

hello, pose123.
do you know that i'd been emotionally attacked this morning? coming across your very nice discussion is such a blessing. i have no plans of confronting that person because i'm not guilty of the accusation. your discussion has made me realize something very important right now.
even two thumbs up aren't enough, please allow me to give them to you.
thank you so much and more blessings to you!

I always say its better to count to three rather than act immediately. Sometimes staying calm works in your favour. The other person will see that you don't fall in his trap and he might back off. Its not worth it ruining your day because of someone else shortcomings.