Old Fashioned or Respectful  

As a woman, it wouldn't be a requirement for him to ask my Dad first but I would be impressed and I would see it as a good sign as far as where the marriage will go. I'm kinda an old-fashioned persons in a lot of ways, so I'd want my potential husband to be in the same boat with me. I'd also like it if my Dad and my potential husband got along and I believe my Dad would be impressed if he was asked for his blessing first.

Hi chick :) When the moment comes to ask my girlfriend, who i have not meet yet, if she wants to marry me, I think i will not go and ask for her father's blessing, because I don't care about it, i mean, if we have decide to marry there is no matter what will he or anybody else say, because I think nothing can stand my way when I find the girl of my dreams!

As a mother...i would prefer to have a respectful in-law(son and daughter)
With my son..i would surely ask his gf's parents consent if they want to settle down.
It is always a good tradition and also respecting the other party.
And,it is always good to have a good start,rather than,rushing to get married without asking permission from the other party.
I wouldn't like the idea if it happens to my only daughter also.
So,i still prefer the good traditional planning and asking permission.

I do know that my hubby asked my Dad for permission to marry me...and that was a few days before he actually asked me to marry him as it was over in Vegas and I had no idea it was coming. Needless to say, he received my Dad's blessing lol. From my point of view I think it's sweet to still ask permission although I wouldn't have been fussed if he hadn't...I'd have married him anyway.

Hello, Click. My father died a year before my first husband proposed to me, but he did ask my mother for permission to marry me. It was academic really, as I was already pregnant, and in the 1960's if you were pregnant you got married or had the baby adopted, but I thought it was a nice touch. Things went downhill from then, but that's another story.

It's a sign of good manners and respect for the family you marry into, and I think it would be a great shame if the custom was allowed to die out. My granddaughter is only 3, but I'd like to think her future husband would be man enough to ask my son's permission for her hand in marriage.

I will have to think back to answer this one lol...I think I would love it if my bf were to ask for permission first, but it dint happen that way with me - eveything was arranged and later I was told who the boy was and that I HAD to marry him...Now regarding my daughter ,her BF did all the right things before they got married in December.I have absolutely no complaints nor did my daughter have any...all the best tdc and have a great evening

I think it's both old-fashioned AND respectful. Not that either one of those is necessarily negative lol. Before I got engaged, my guy took my Dad aside and did the traditional 'ask'. My Father thought that was wonderful, and of course he said yes. I was impressed because my guy respected my Father enough to do that, and it did not offend me in the least. I've known others who went to the father after asking the girl, and that worked out OK too for them. It still conveyed to the father respect for him in the old-fashioned traditional way. I think that by doing this it shows the father that the fellows intentions are good, and that he wants to start off on the right tone with offering this respect to the father. I also think most Father's would be honored and give their blessings.

I would like the traditional one. It shows real love and respect. I wanted my parents to see that I have chosen the right guy. With the proposal, it is not only me whom he'll convince. Old folks like that.

Hello to the daily click!

I also feel that it's old-fashioned, but still think it's a respectful and good idea to do so.

In my case, my future husband and I were engaged for 5 years--so, it would have been a major shock if we hadn't married! But, my fiance had asked permission before we even got engaged. My marriage ended after 25 years, so it just goes to show that long engagements don't ensure anything either.

My son-in-law also did the same thing, but he did ask my daughter first. I guess he didn't see any point in asking my husband and I if my daughter was going to say no anyway! And they've been happily married for two years now. :-)

well i don't get into blessing or something. i agree with daughter why should i ask for blessing or so ? i don't follow religious traditions. they don't mean to be followed just for sake of it. i prefer having good dinner with the family instead or vacation.