Why I hate buying expensive things  

It still makes me angry. I am the type of person that if you wear me down long enough will either go and say :"what's the use," and spend all my money or do the opposite and be stingy. That jacket will last at least 20 years- I had a purse like that, it was leather and it lasted almost forever. I am the type who get things that are of good quality and I save to get thet.
I would not mind if a few months after we got that piano or after we paid for all our stuff, that my friend suggested I need a new coat, or my husband decided to get the lap top next month or so, but all at the same time?

I told my husband how I felt and he gave me a lecture that he needed the laptop. Well I knew I needed the laptop, but he made me feel guilty that I had gotten that leather jacket. He also said that it was his money that paid for it (well the reason was that I put some of his money on the jacket because I had to use my money for the groceries.) But usually I would have paid for the whole thing.

But he also conveniently forgot that it was my Old Age pension that paid for the groceries and the check from the government was in my name not his. And he thinks that he is still paying for them because when we went shopping, he insisted I get some of what he wanted. Well I was thinking of getting some flour, because we are almost out, So I had to not get that.

My father was disabled so we were living on a pension and my mother was not well (she died of stomach cancer when I was 14) so she could not do much heavy work. But we were taught that if we work hard, we can buy what we want. The trouble was that I went to live with a family who believed that if you buy something expensive, you can afford to buy anything else expensive, rather then that one thing.
And I never liked the idea that once someone bought something expensive for themselves, they were expected to buy something else expensive that their friends figured they needed. And often that item they bought through persuasion made it more difficult to buy what they were saving for.
Like we just finished paying for getting our house fixed up, and the piano, and my friend decided that right then and there, I needed a coat. And in my size, coats are not cheap. So now I have to watch the budget.

I understand that. I probably didn't when I was younger and my parents were still livng but I do nowKathy.

I thought people who were rich, could spend money like there was no tomorrow. I then realized the reason they were rich was because they did not spend money like there is no tomorrow.

We were looking for a jacket at Value Village, which is our main thrift store and there was not any. I did not want to buy something that did not fit and that needed extensive alterations. Sometimes you have to buy something that costs a bit much. But I still hate buy8ng anything expensive because as soon as I do, my husband figures that he needs this or that. And he is usually the one who is proud that I bought whatever and even though he says it is not, he gives me the feeling that my getting something expensive gives him carte blanche to buy something expensive for himself.
well when he got me the piano, I did not decide "I will get that Macbook Pro computer right now.

When I got my jacket, I wore it for church, and one of my friends said that one of the snaps had come off. So even if it is well made, there is a possibility that something will go wrong or someone who was much fatter then me tried it on, tried to fasten it, and there was a snap.
So even if it is costly, does not mean that everything will be okay. There may have been someone careless in the fitting room, putting on the wrong label, but at least I know that if I did not know someone who is a seamstress, the repairs will not cost that much.
Oh I have never paid full price for anything. I have this innate sense of bargains. Of course when it comes to Ipods and to Macs, I might have to pay full unless they offer support free for those who buy on a certain date.

Did not read the post did you? I hate to buy something expensive but we did look at our thrift stores and there was not anything. I had the same problem getting blouses, etc. Skirts are no problem, but I have to look at the name brands because the ones designed for plus sized woman are wider around the stomach area and the b*st line. And usually they say 16 plus, 18 plus. Not only that, they also have them in petite sizes where as the regular sizes may only go up to 16 petite and not 18 or 20 or 22 petite.
So I look at the label to see if it fits me. (by the way, I hate when people tear off the labels because a size 18 in one brand may be too small, and the other size just right.) You can also find good name brands at thrift stores and you will save a lot of money.
I think you may have to use Zero Dark Wash or wash in cold water unless what you got was only dry cleanable.

I could have kept my old jacket until the end of winter. And right now we just finished paying off the alterations, piano, and kitchen stuff so figured we could wait for a while. Next month, I would have had more money. But right now was not the time to buy it.
Now my husband needs a laptop -because he is in a wheelchair and it is hard to get into the computer room and he needs it for the speech communication because he is losing his voice.
The trouble is if I said I need a laptop, or some music lessons on Cd, then I would get the "you don't need it. Isn't your old computer good enough?" or "you can take lessons from so and so."
That also makes me mad.

I love buying good quality stuff and usually that costs more unless I am lucky to get it at a thrift store or if it is sale. I have been lucky that I have been able to get things on sale, and this jacket was on sale. The trouble was that we had just paid for all our renovations, and as soon as it was all paid up, my husband got me a piano. All this paid for, but I do not like buying a whole lot of expensive things at once. I could have waited and bought the jacket next month. What was the last straw was that my husband decided he needed the laptop today.
And when we started to discuss about how many banks I have he told me get rid of one bank and that is where I have my high interest tax free account. Well I am not going to do it.

I love buying stuff that is high quality and well made. I am not an anti snob who feels that no name is just as good, and I can get the best at Walmart, because in some cases you cannot. You pay for the fine stitching, the lining, etc. and it is worth it. But it is much better if you get it on sale, and best if a rich lady owned that jacket, just wore it for one day and found it did not fit or she just needed it for one time, or the store had made too many and it wound up in the thrift store where you can get it for less then $10 when it is worth an arm and a leg.
Well I got it on sale, but it was not dropped off by a rich lady at the thrift store.

That is what I say. Just because my husband bought me that piano does not mean that now "we are rich! we are rolling in dough!" I mean he waited until all the other stuff was paid up, but I do wish he waited until later to go look for that lap top. He did tell me that he had to transfer money into his savings account and now that money will be going to the computer.

oh dear go on line and see if you can find one on sale!

He got a cheaper one because he did not need to do much with it according to the salesman. Me? I intend to buy mine from the Apple Store here in Canada online. I got screwed by a salesperson who decided I did not need as good a computer as I wanted because I was not going to do much with it according to him. The brand he got was a Toshiba and I have been told it was a good brand.

I dont know about that brand but then the new one I just got is and E and to me al the insides sound just like the HP I had for 5 yeaqrs
I plan on redoing my HP but it will take awhile to do it getting up the money and all.

At least he did not buy an HP, because we were told that they make crappy laptops. I do think it is because we have a Toshiba Tv, and we have been happy with their products so they work very good.
The trouble is i am not used to that touch type mouse pad, and he thinks that I messed up moving the cursor on purpose. I felt like crying, but our friend came over and set him straight. I am not mechanically inclined.

no problem withthat think it is a waste of my time tho and you can hook a real mouse up to it

I am getting a little better, but I wish in Windows 7 they made the cursor a little darker. It is hard to see on the monitor.

Mine is white on here forget what it was on my laptop

Same is on my husbands's, but it is almost transparent and the Windows 7 background is almost a light blue varigated shade. I know that you can give cursor themes for Windows XP - I got some, but took them off as my computer is going to the cats pretty soon (dog person).

I now have VISTA and dont really like it much but its what came in the new putter

My husband's laptop has Windows Seven. Designed for near-sighted people. I have a slight astignatism and I have to have a real contrast between the text and the background. I can hardly see the mouse in it, but at least it is better then Vista.
But I still am going to get a Mac. Oh yes and an Iphone when my contract runs out.
You see, I have a feeling why people want you to buy expensive things= they want you to buy the expensive thing that they consider you need, so you do not have the money to afford the expensive thing you really want.Another thing is that she thought I would not live that long and would need a very good jacket - sort of like in the old days, when you only bought one mink coat in a lifetime.
So if that was her intention to persuade me to get a leather jacket, it did not work.