What is the meaning of a myLot Friend to you?

that's what i thought at first... after learning that emails would be sent to your friends list after you make a thread... but then that doesn't always work... the core idea of adding friends in your friends list is not really to make them respond to your threads, and that's the same thing that happens in an actual friendship... those who really are close to you will be there to support you... in my case, i don't expect them to do just that here at mylot...it's just my third day here... and also, there are two kinds of mylotters...responders and starters... i'm more of a starter...

As of today, I only delete people who I know are no longer active, meaning they have closed their accounts. One of these days I may go back and delete people who have had no activity, but I haven't decided to do that yet.

Hi neil, First of all thank you very much for adding me in your list and I am happy that you got me through Zandi. Regarding your questions, I never expect all of my friends will answer to my discussion but I have some nice friends who always make a point to answer my topics. I never delete any of my friends from list except the banned people. Sometimes people are getting busy with some other place and they may come later so I am keeping them (inactive members) in my list. Now I am limiting to sending requests but anybody requests me then I will add those people.

I thought of deleting some friends whom are not active anymore too. I think some of them in my friends list are not logging in anymore. But just last week, one friend did come back and that's awesome..knowing that she has not been logging in for quite some time. I feel glad for not deleting her off, thinking that she will not log in anymore.

Hello, Neil. I keep my friends list trimmed, because I want to be able to keep up with the active ones, such as yourself, and you can't do that if you have a long list. If I find friends are starters but not responders, they have to go, because friendships is 2 way traffic. Only yesterday, I mentioned on a discussion that I'd been a member for just under a year, and Mysd said it seemed she'd known me for much longer. I said the reason for that is because we've got to know each other so well on the boards, because we're always running into each other. There's a group of I would say about 20 people who I always seem to be meeting, and as we seem to start probing discussions and make full responses, we're learning how we all tick, which is great. The serial discussion starters just don't know what they're missing!

i have received your Friend request---shall i take it for granted that you have decided to add me up as i have place in Zandi's list---coming to the number of posts i have is less comparitively---or you're trying to increase your friends count thats it---just kidding man. I would never add friends just for the sake as my discussions would get more responses or to increase my list(the higher the number---we get lost in them---i'm really not comfortable with that---so i prefer a list of 10 active friends rather than having 1000 friends who try to spam you with referral links lol)some thing like that---i never checked number of friends in my list though---i have 16 pending requests now---i didnt accept them coz most of them are newcomers and i really doubt they would hardly be active in the coming days---so i wanted to take some time so i can easily avoid the inactive ones. Meaning of Mylot Friend to me-----he/she is Some one with whom i can have fun and make them laugh harder,Pull their legs---and irritate them and later apologise,share some hot stuff with my special fans and and discuss many other things great day.

Personally from time to time I am known to go thru my friends list and update them as since I have been a member now myself for more than 3 yrs. I have seen a lot of people come and go. When I have a friend in here who is quite active, if I am in here responding back to discussions I will try and post back to some of theirs. But as we all know, we lead personal lives so it is hard to get back to everyone for sure. But I have met, and will continue to meet a lot of interesting people in here so if we can all just have fun and take life as it comes, everything will be alright.

I have a policy of accepting everyone that invites me as a friend. If I have to delete them for spamming me, or being rude later, I will, but I give everyone a chance. Once in awhile I will invite a new member as a friend, because I feel I have something in common with them. Like you, I sometimes see someone so frequently that I assume we must be friends, but find we are not, so I usually request those people. I do not keep track of who responds to me, as I very seldom write discussions. I am waiting to get some resolved before I start any new ones now. I do try to respond to each of my friends who starts a discussion at least one time in a day if not to all their discussions. I have all of my friend notifications turned on so I have lots of e mail to answer. It would surprise you, though, that I do not get that many notices as compared to how many friends I have. I sometimes struggle with the people who will start twenty or thirty discussions a day, asking questions that they could just search online. I start ignoring them. I almost never delete a friend, because you never know when they will become active again.

I think that friendships are a 2 way street in that friends should be supportive of one another. I don't expect a friend to respond to every discussion that I post/posted. I think that people should only respond in discussions where they actually have something to contribute. So I don't even think that a response is needed, maybe they saw a comment from another friend and responded to that comment, I would say that was still being a friend. Do I delete because a friend never responds to a discussion? The answer is no. I have only deleted for rudeness, inactivity for longer than a year, and people who repeatedly break the rules. Friends are great and you can never have enough! Just my 2 cents worth! Happy Mylotting!

To me a Mylot friend is someone who has responded to discussions and creates new and interesting discussions. I usually add someone as a friend if they have participated in one of my discussions or if I participate in theirs. I love to look through the list of discussions that my friends have created and I will usually respond to the ones that interest me. I was an occasional Mylot user for a couple of years so I haven't been doing a lot of posting. I plan to post a lot more and make some more good friends here.

Hi Neil! I have said for a long time that, in my opinion, 'friend' is the wrong word to describe those that are part of a list on here. Some become real friends but they are not always a friend from the moment I add them to my list. It takes time to cultivate a friendship. They are acquaintances at that point and a friendship could grow and bloom over time. My list is very long and I am happy to keep it that way. I can have direct contact with those on my list whenever I need to and likewise for them. Some of them are no longer active and have their reasons for not being here. They pop in with a PM unexpectedly, something which they could not do if I remove them. I feel no obligation to or from them with regards to responding on discussions and do not expect the same from them either. We are available if and when we need each other and that is what 'being friends' means to me. Some will become closer over time than others obviously but rarely are any of them just 'names in a list'. Of course it is up to each and every one of us to use the list as they think best. MyLot provide the facilty for us and we can opt to use it in whichever way we enjoy.

My friends in mylot for me? Well, for 3 years I have only few friends, I am more on accepting request rather than sending request... As long as I have accepted them, we are friends forever then whether they would support me in my discussions or not...

Hey mate, I remember before when I was a newbie here, what I did I always add friends in the time I post my discussion who leave their post after on it. I have lots of friends here but after 6 months I think I stop adding, I mean friends that I am the one who sent them an FR (Friend Request). Instead, I accepted all FR i got everytime I open my account. I am amazed mate, you know why? it's because even I am inactive here but many individuals add me even they didn't saw me on their discussions. I am very thankful to them. I did not foget them. Time comes and mylot still here I will participate to all their discussions like what I did before. I turn ON my emails, everytime they post new discussions I am aware so I always leave my comment on it. So far, I never delete any friends in my list even they are now inactive, simply because time also come that they will be back here and be active again like me. This is a good discussion mate and I have posted similar to this discussion before but quite different the way you commented it. Thanks for being a line of my friends and also a friend of my referrals. Keep it up. Best Regards, Mr. July

Hi,Neil.:-) Haven't seen any activity from your end lately. How come? I hope things are well with you and family... Well, as I am about to say re this post, it doesn't bother me if my friend respond to my post or not. I don't take it against them for there could be many factors why they don't do so such like they don't find it interesting, they can't relate to it or they did not see it. I'm putting myself in their shoes. Since I can't respond to all of my friends' post, too. Even if I wanted to, I just couldn't put the right words to say. Thus, even if I read their posts I'd leave without leaving a trace.:-) I'm responding to some friends that I have interacted the first time. They are in my list but I was the one who made the first move to support them and I was glad to be of help.As well as having lots of friends gives me a lot of options of to which discussion to respond to. You see, it is ok with me but I am hoping that once in a while these friends will send me a line or two to see if they are still here...:-( Once you are in my friends' list you are there to remain for good unless you remove me as your friend.:-) Have a lovely day, Neil.:-)

My myLot friends are people I log on to check on and worry about if they're absent for more than a week. They're the people whose discussions I'm most likely to respond to because we're very similar. I have two really good friends here whom I hope to meet someday in person.

Hi Neil, Am not sure how many friends I do have but know it is a few pages, all their notifications are on but most times I only get discussions from regular friends like yourself and others, a lot of my other friends are inactive and only have a few posts and that could be over a year old so wether they are here or not is another question. I will respond to my friends when they post a discussions even if it is late when I get round to it.but normally I don't add to the friends I already have it is nice to keep up with those who already know me and post discussions regularly like yourelf...LoLo

Basically someone that participates in the discussions that you start and try to write some good responses to them and vice versa. I like having a lot of friends because it gives me more topics to choose from to respond to.

hi neildc, I never deleted any friends in my list even those who send spam as long as they never insulted or hurt me in any of my discussion they are safe with me even those inactive, recent or even those who i often met on the discussion board. Since, I only add few friends they are the one who add me so they are all welcome, the more the merrier. Anyway the things which really not good which happen to me as some member of mylot are racist even if they do not admit they only choose to reply on the discussion made by their countrymen or in my case i could not relate to their choice of discussion especially when they are talking about their places so even if they are in my friends list i could not participate. Their is a cases where I think I send invites but I was rejected thrice or twice by this lady and i do not really know what on her mind i think she is very choosy so she do not like to be my friends so i lost interest in responding to her discussion. I gain some friends who are older members and newer ones which i really appreciate and just like you i really feel guilty since their are times I could not reply on their own discussion since my times here in mylot is limited, even though I like to reply on them I could not do so. I really admire those whom I befriend even though I never see yet their face or know their real names I could see their are kind and very good people.

Hi, i m about to be one year old here and have less friends than u at this stage. I never seek a huge list of friends. I need friends who r supportive and active. Frankly i have no need to enlarge my friends list unnecessarily, dont mind if u find something rude. For me, mylot friends r bank of knowledge, i tend to learn something about countries and i have gotten it here and its also true that if i find someone frm separate country, then i send request. Otherwise i keep silent.

Hello neildc, frankly, i just like the idea of adding oldies and veterans because i know they have more interesting topics that i can respond on. if no one responds to my topic and that can only mean that the topic is not interested or related to other users. it's their RIGHT to respond or not, i would only pm my friends if the topic is very important so that they won't miss. I only delete those who don't go beyond five hundred post and newbies that are inactive. now a days, i don't just add people unless they are active and not spammers