Anger Management part 2  

The only thing she said, was he needed to do it. The rest of the convo is between me and him...

Mine minimizes everything, downplays it...
More or less what I expected. With a few days of reasonable talk, he may come around. Or maybe just play it lip service. idk

It seems mine has totally given up and I'm having to accept that and go on. I'm not going to give up. Courage means trying it anyway! ;)

I'm pretty far down in the direction of giving up meself...

Well...you've probably watched my own battle with feeling defeated and knowing when to toss in the towel...I'm still struggling with it a bit. But I had to face that I can ONLY control me...my nice counselor lady helps by reminding me of that. If someone does NOT want help, does NOT want to change and says so.......then.....I've been defeated by default...and have to face it. I'm in the game, but all my players didn't show up...so...by default..I had to forfeit....I HATE it...but...I can't control it..............moving on............

OMG, and here I am looking for a girlfriend... Dagnabit them dorks really mess things up for us good ones... What a shadow I have over me...

I have a lot of friends who are girls, but I've yet to find that girlfriend, although I think the ice is breaking... *fingers crossed*

Mine pays lip service to wanting to change but then comes back at me over and over again with the same stuff.

Don't you mean he has found his perfect wife and just doesn't have the eyes to see her? His vision is a bit out of focus, actually to be honest the guy has to be blind.

You know that is probably quite correct. I think perhaps he needs to find the perfect eye doctor.

Hi brother is on divorce #2, long ugly story. Not sure how it helped him, but his brother has talked sense into him before. I hope he does talk to him. I don't want to talk to his brother directly. Reason being, he went and dropped a load of stuff on MY family and I made him promise never to do that again and I wouldn't feel right if I went and did the same thing.

cute...

Sad very sad... Had you known then what you could know now, maybe your first marriage would not have ended.

Very sad for you, your children, and him.

Yes, but you have to know when it's just not worth saving. Actually, after the divorce, a lot of stuff came out which, had I known about it earlier, would have speeded things up. There was no saving it, but my kids have gone on to have good marriages themselves.

Hi Sandra, sorry if I was unclear. Saying he needed to get into anger mgmt and why was the counselor. The rest of it was a conversation between me and him. And the last part was just a smart aleck aside by me about taking 'perfect wife' classes.

Hi Sandra,

Thanks for explaining a little more. Did you read part1 of this discussion? I go into greater detail with my personal experiences also. Look for Blackbriar, and might I add that it isn't fun when the Doctors and the Church gang up upon the innocent, I never knew something that Blackbriar pointed out, many times I would hear things my wife would say things to our children and I would wonder where did that come from. Maybe she has a memory problem from the anger issues. She might be going into a blind rage and forget or not know what she is doing. I think men and women are capable of this problem.

Blind rage or blind emotion.

Wow! I never really got that before...

You can not survive in a relationship that interacts with blind behavior.

That is true.

You certainly can't. I do remember everything that happened, though. It's rarely a problem with just one partner.

That is good advice from your son of all people... LOL???

he wasn't telling me that, lol altho he would if he wanted to. He's like his mom he says what he thinks. thanks for your comment.

I got that... ;) I understood right away. :)

It is very good advice.

That would be what HE would throw at me!

aIN'T LOVE GRAND.

I wouldn't know.

Let's get that story straight, Eve blamed the fictitious serpent, Adam blamed Eve and so did the Patriarchal god...

He blames himself. Then he blames me. Then he blames himself. The he blames me.

It's like dealing with Jekyll and Hyde or being at the end of a yo yo...

ya know, there must be SOME reason I'm still single...

you ever been to Snyder Texas???

http://www.traveltex.com/...

Furthering his education, hmmm... Maybe I'll try that line.

Hey Opal take another trip through this thread, trust me...

The trick is getting him to actually go. He hasn't agreed to even do that...

If everything else fails that will work!

Oh he could figure out how to get in if I changed the locks...

sounds like restraining order time to me

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