My best friend who I've known a decade hasn't responded to my calls or messages.

United States
March 13, 2010 11:40am CST
So, I was sick for a week, and then I got an ear infection(still recovering)related to my sinuses. So, before that, about 2 weeks had passed where I was trying to call my friend on cell. She normally will ring me right back or leave a message. Should I be worried? Part of me wonders if she doesn't want to talk anymore. But then, my own sister told me i was "Boring." Maybe I just need to find new friends? She always calls, even though she moved away a few yrs back. Don't you hate it when your sick...and nobody calls?
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12 responses
@Wizzywig (7847)
13 Mar 10
It depends on whats wrong... sometimes you dont even want your own family to talk to you - you just want to be left alone. Perhaps your friend is not well now? Do you have any mutual friends you could ask or do you have contact with her family? Maybe you could casually mention that you haven't heard from her & wondered if she was ok? is ahe on facebook or anything so you could see if she's logged in lately? (BTW, you dont come across as boring on here )
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• United States
13 Mar 10
No, no mutual friends. We used to work together at a theme park. She has limited contact with her family and I have none with her family. She has re-married, so all the friends she had with her ex are crossed off her contact list. Thankyou for not thinking of me as boring. Usually friends treat me better than my own sister. A shame really. She's a scorpio. Very spoiled she is.
@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
13 Mar 10
When I'm sick I want to be left alone. Talking on the phone is the very last thing I want to do when I'm feeling ill and not high on my list when I'm healthy. She should see on her phone that you called. Leave her a message then don't call anymore. Maybe she's incredibly busy with work or something. Give her the benefit of the doubt but be ready to write her off if she doesn't return your call.
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• United States
13 Mar 10
I like getting calls when I'm sick. It cheers me up. It lets me know people care and are thinking about me and it helps me focus on all the fun things I can do when I'm better.
@mesuaky (397)
• Singapore
13 Mar 10
well i know how it feels when your sick and no body calls you. i feel like nobody care if your about to die or whatever happens to you it sucks but i always try to keep my head and think of better reasons and i try my best not to rush into anything before i react on something i might regret after. if your friend didn't call back or message you back try learning from a common friend what has happened to her. could it be that she had lost her phone or she may be facing much more serious things than what your having. being boring doesn't mean no friends. Yet it is a good idea to have new friends. Keeping your old friends and having friends will make your life much more colorful. Stay open minded you never know.
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• Philippines
14 Mar 10
Maybe she is just busy with her lie and i know what you felt for since i do experience the same things changes is inevitable such as when friends move to other location and found new friends at first they would still bother to call but once they get busy with their new found friends mostly forget and they are into making a new phase in their life. or maybe she have other reasons and in case her cellphone is lost together with no simcard in case she never jot down a copy of her friends number she would really have a hard time to call on you or their are maybe other reasons and the only one who could clear on this issues is your friends itself i case you see each other again then you could ask her reasons so both of you would have still time to patch things whatever bother both in your minds.
@krisnel (498)
• Philippines
15 Mar 10
dont think anything on your friend. maybe she got busy thats why she does not answer you. if i am sick and my partner never calls me or text me, i will feel lonely.
• India
14 Mar 10
i didnot ,i resonded my every friend.
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
14 Mar 10
thats when I get all my calls wehn I am sick or had an operation then I dont get many when I am well lolololol
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
13 Mar 10
Hi coffeegurl. I hope that your friend will make some kind of contact with you either by cell or by letter or email. I hate it when old friendships fall. Everybody seems to be busy with his or her own life and it seems we have little time to keep friendships going. Although I do believe that true friends last forever. But it is up to us to keep friendship alive. When I am sick usually I d prefer to be quiet on my own.
@ifa225 (14468)
• Indonesia
13 Mar 10
Please stay positive, there is a lot of probability in here, maybe she was charging her pone or maybe she lost her phone or maybe she out of town or maybe...if i were sick, i will try to read as much as i can to ease the pain and bored or you can spend time here in my LOt and find a friend. Happy my lotting.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
14 Mar 10
Yes, thats a common feel. The person whom we long much to spend time, doesnot respond back, its make me pain and go low. And when we are alone with no one to talk, its really sick. But dont go low, when time goes, you will find those old friends calling you back when u least expect them.
@rosegardens (3032)
• United States
13 Mar 10
Maybe she is very busy, or something has happened. If she always called you back before then perhaps something else is taking up her time. I do hope you hear from her soon. I am sorry you are so sick. I hope you feel better!
@ada8may21 (2404)
• Philippines
14 Mar 10
If i were in your shoe, i would really felt bad. But I would stay positive with all the things happening around you. I agree with joannaleed that its not because you are boring that is why she is not answering your calls. You've been friends for decades now so I guess she already accepted for who you are. So dont believe with your sister. Once I've experienced that my phone is not working well. Friends of mine complaining that I am not answering my phone I told them that I didn't receive any calls. Only to find out there is a problem with my phone. So maybe that is why she is not answering your calls, there might be a problem on her phone. Time will come, she will keep in touch with you. All I could say to you buddy, just stay positive and let the negative things ruined out your friendship. Decades friendship is really hard to keep but both of you manage it. So stay firm ok.. Good luck