SHOULD I LEAVE CHILDREN TO MY MOM...OR SHOULD I TAKE CARE OF THEM MYSELF?help...  

it is ok if it is just for 3 or 5 years. Please make some money to save. so if you have enough money, you can go home to your country and take care your kids as well. you can start a new business from your savings. i hope everything will be ok .

My heart goes out to you! I certainly hope you come to a decision that will benefit your family. What a difficult situation.

May I say, though, as a mother, those precious few years when your children are little will NEVER come again! And the years pass by SO quickly!

No one can love those children the same way you do. It isn't possible. Granny will be good to them, but you are their only mommy.

Is there any way you can manage to make a living while still staying close to your little ones?

Take your children with you ONLY when you have saved enough and ONLY if you have a stable job. That way, even if you are in a foreign country, you won't find it that hard feeding them, clothing them and sending them to school. If you take them with very little money saved, you will only be putting your kids in harm's way. Who will feed them and take care of them in Japan if you don't have the resources?

Think and consider what other options you have before you do anything rash.

If you have to work then it is best that your children are taken care of by your mother where they will be safe rather than leaving them under the care of some baby sitter. Only see that they are not spoiled by the Grandmother!!

Whenever possible children need to be with their parents. This is the most ideal situation for any child. However, this is not always possible. In your situation, you need to do what is best for your children. If that means that you need to spend some time away from them and have your mother take care of them so that you can make money to provide them the best possible life, that is what you should do. This will eventually make your childrens life better in the end when you can provide the best possible life for them.

I assume your mother raised you. If you think that she did a good job with you why to you worry - that is unless your mother is very old. Consider yourself - you are responsible enough to worry about this. That means your mother raised you correctly. So your daughter is in good hands. As your children get older they will understand that you worked for them. Make sure you spend good times with your kids when you can because your kids will remember this.

You are a good mother you are trying! There are many, many people who wouldn't provide in such a way.

If the children are in a happy and healthy environment, there is nothing wrong with leaving them with your mother to care for them. Military personnel do this all the time. You are keeping in touch with them, so they do know who you are and that you love and miss them. You are there when you are at home. You also want them to have a loving and stable home. Moving around is not healthy for children grow and thrive on. They need stability and it sounds like they are getting from your mom. As they get older and get friends, it is hard to detach them from that. Be an active part in your children's lives. Think of the bet interest of the children. will you have the time to put into them needing it if they are with when you are working? Can your mother take care of them while your gone? Not to intrude but wheres the father? Is he not helping? I cannot tell you what to do but follow your heart and listen to your children. You will make the best decision possible when you weigh all your options. Good luck and take care.

if you worry too much, you might not be able to work properly. i know this is easy to say but relax, be positive. save as much as you can, with your savings, you can put up a little business in your native country or you can migrate to japan with your kids.

your intention is great as a mother, but if you want to be with them, try to seek local employment and if not possible, continue your recent work, save and invest in paper assets like mutual funds.

the best way for children is to stay with them.they are too young to stay away from their parents.i think you should share their growth experience.it is important for both of you.children need mom's love.you need your children's love.maybe you are too busy to take care of them.but just try your best to take care of them yourself.

Hi Anitarei! I believe that we are in a same situation. I also have to work and leave my baby to my mom. I don't have a choice, if I don't work I wouldn't be able to give my baby's needs. I trust my mom and I didn't worry much when I leave her because I believe that she wont harm my child.