KIDS..is it enough reason to stay in a battered relationship?  

yahh..i do agree with you
thanks for your comment

in that situation the women should think for their kids future they must look how to earn money for them to support their kids.rather staying in that kind of relationship.

thanks for your response..Have a nice day

It only teaches the kids it is okay to beat on women

yep OR that its acceptable to be beaten....AND what happens when the abuser turns on the kids too....thats happened..beating the wife is not "fun" anymore or doesnt give the abuser the rush etc so he turns on the kids and starts abusing them..

..hi.. yeah.. I do agree with wangbu.. the decision lies with the mother.. if she feels it is okay for her to stay in the relationship and that she is ready to endure everything, then she can still stay with her husband but guard her children and teach them not to follow what their father is doing.. my husband's mother (my mother-in-law) is once a battered wife but she stayed in the relationship because of her children.. right now, my father in law has changed after so many years of beating his wife.. i salute my mother in law for having such patience and love towards her husband that she endured for so long.. but at least, right now, she is reaping the reward of her patience.. her husband is very good right now and she shows love toward their kids.. on the other hand, we as wives, should also consider why our husbands treat us that way.. maybe we did something that upsets them.. or maybe we are already nagging but we don't realize it.. everybody deserves a second chance, but if the wife feels that it is already the end of the relationship, then she has to let go.. whatever decision she makes, it will benefit the children.. if she gets out of the relationship and focus her attention to her children, that will let the children live a life without witnessing any violence and if the wife stays with the husband, the wife can also teach the children the lessons of entering into marriage.. if the children are guided and guarded, I do believe they will grow up considering their mother as the model and their father as a bad example.. they will learn in any way..

Dear raynejasper, I completely disagree. COMPLETELY. Children from homes where only the mother is abused are in very little better situations than children who are abused themselves, and they will simply learn that such treatment is normal, and are most likely either to imitate it or to expect it from others. Children learn by what we do, much much much more than by what we say!

Nagging or upsetting your husband may, in all justice, give him a mild right to nag or upset you back, but it is NOT, NOT NOT a reason to hit anyone. If you want to give a violent man a second chance, do it after you've got out and given him a chance to change his ways without endangering you or your children. And make sure that that second chance is only the second chance. Even Jesus himself only spoke of turning "the other cheek". No third cheek, no third chances to hurt you or your children again.

Forgiveness is a different thing. You can forgive someone, wish them well, hope that their future is good and trust that they truly have changed their ways, without ever accepting them back into the position they once held with you. Forgiveness is important for your own heart, but it does not require reconciliation.

Dear raynejasper, I completely disagree. COMPLETELY. Children from homes where only the mother is abused are in very little better situations than children who are abused themselves, and they will simply learn that such treatment is normal, and are most likely either to imitate it or to expect it from others. Children learn by what we do, much much much more than by what we say!

Nagging or upsetting your husband may, in all justice, give him a mild right to nag or upset you back, but it is NOT, NOT NOT a reason to hit anyone. If you want to give a violent man a second chance, do it after you've got out and given him a chance to change his ways without endangering you or your children. And make sure that that second chance is only the second chance. Even Jesus himself only spoke of turning "the other cheek". No third cheek, no third chances to hurt you or your children again.

Forgiveness is a different thing. You can forgive someone, wish them well, hope that their future is good and trust that they truly have changed their ways, without ever accepting them back into the position they once held with you. Forgiveness is important for your own heart, but it does not require reconciliation.