Guy has a GF, girl has a BF, but guy and girl are flirting
By moonchild117
@moonchild117 (1990)
Philippines
April 5, 2010 12:07am CST
Okay, so here's the situation:
I have a colleague at work who is currently engaged to be married this December. A couple of months ago, there's a new girl at work and suddenly they're flirting with each other. Well, the guy told me that he and the girl admitted they had feelings for each other but are both attached, so their relationship is "just as friends." Thing is, what the whole office sees is that the guy and girl has something more than "just friendship." Everyone in the workplace sees them together and doing sweet things to each other; they're acting like a couple already. But they're still attached to their current partners.
Honestly, I want to tell the guy off (since I know him personally), but it's really hard because we're not that close and it may seem like I'm meddling in other people's business. But I know that what he's doing is wrong, and what if his girlfriend or the other girl's boyfriend learns about it and thinks that we, as their colleagues, didn't do anything to stop it?
If you were in my shoes, what would you do?
2 responses
@rsa101 (40962)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
Well I guess it is really hard to meddle into this things since you and the guy are not that close so I guess you have to tolerate them and hope they will reform themselves for their partner's sake. Or you might just as well try to connect with anyone that you know is close to them and advice that to tell them that it is not appropriate to be in that kind of a relationship.
Or if you really have the guts you can confront him about it and I doubt if he would even care about your opinion of him if you are not that close to him. So I say, that you just stay away from that one to be on the safe side of things.
@moonchild117 (1990)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
Well, that's what we're doing, we're just staying away from it. He is aware of how we feel about it, but it seems like he's not doing anything to stop tongues from wagging further. I guess it's just upsetting, if you think of it from their partners' points of view. He's been told off before, but I don't know why he's not doing anything to stop it. Thanks though for the response.
@iwrite (5034)
• Singapore
5 Apr 10
You better remind him that he is going to get married soon, moonchild117. While there is still time for him to back out of the marriage, he should seriously consider this new girl who is herself attached serious about him? She would flirt with him now, and in the future if they do get together, she would flirt with others behind his back.
@moonchild117 (1990)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
He's been reminded of that, and he knows that. We think that it's just his way of celebrating his last days of singlehood, though it seems that it's getting a bit too serious. Plus, I think he's loving the attention, I don't know. You have a point there, if the girl can manage to flirt with him while being in a relationship, who could say that she won't flirt with others, too? You're right about that.
