What did you get for Mothers Day?  

I understand that things will change when they get older but I kind of think my husband should help the kids out with making something like I do. I know that he doesn't really do the craft thing but he could try. I always have to be the one that gets the gifts even for his mother which doesn't really bother me but he doesn't give me any input on what he would like to get her. Thank you for your comment. I hope your mothers day was great and it is always nice to see your kids I am sure.

I didn't mention that he told me he would get up with the kids and then didn't because he didn't come to bed till 4:30 am and there was just no way he would have been able to function. It just seems like I try so hard for him but then I get nothing in return. I am sorry that you have so many things going on in This month that is a lot to handle. My birthday is January 6th so I don't get too much on my birthday either. I think women know how to prepare so much better than men that it is almost unfair for the things we do for our family. Don't get me wrong I wouldn't change my life for the world. But it is hard on me because I try to do so much of my family. Right now I can't work because we can't afford the child care so I am around my kids all the time. I don't really get a break unless it is a quick run to the store once he finally gets home. I guess talking to other people is the only way to get things off my chest and just move past it. I just really hope that at some point he can realize that he needs to prepare a little early. Thanks for your post. Hope you have a great Birthday and a fun time at the party for your son. Have a great day.

That's the way of the world it seems.

We have a lot in common you and I. I also became a stay at home mom because I couldn't afford child care. Love my kids to death, but I do get so stressed and sometimes I wish I could work instead of be home with them all the time. Though I know that if I left them with a babysitter all day I'd hate it and be wondering about them all day. It's a no win situation!

Have you tried telling your hubby how you feel? I know mine tries now, but he hasn't always been this way. One birthday I seriously got nothing more than a candy bar inside a card.. that was like an insult and I would have preferred he not bother! But I told him, more than once, that I need him to put in a little more effort for holidays. He has gotten better. He's not perfect, some years are far better than others.. but he has improved!

Before mothers day even came I saw a few things on television and told him "hint hint". I actually said that. He got it and understood, but I went away for a week and he said that he was going to take some money from the account for it and when I came home I noticed money was taken out but then mothers day came and I got nothing which means that while I was gone he wasted the money. Also we watched The Middle I don't know if you have seen it but the mothers day one that they showed was pretty much what I got but no gifts and no breakfast in bed. I bet you could find it some where online to watch. It was funny and sad all at the same time. There has been several times that I has forgotten Mothers day all together then I get the really bad flowers that are left over from the closest store. I can remember the second mothers day after my daughter was born, He got me a picture frame that said MOM and a bunch of other writing on it with a picture of my daughter and me in it. I guess mine have gone downhill instead of up. I would tell him but I don't want to stress him out anymore than his job already does.

Marriages only work when both parnters share their feelings, good and bad. If you keep it all bottled up it will just get worse and you'll get bitter and he'll never know why because men don't pick up on subtle clues, you have to flat out tell them point blank. Just tell him calmly and start your sentences with "I feel..." so it sounds less like an attack, and don't say "you always" or "you never". Also try to throw in a compliment or 2 so he doesn't feel like he's being put down. Doing so shouldn't stress him out, and hopefully he'll get the picture and do better next year.

Yeah I know I should confront him but I don't think right now it being right after mothers day is such a good time maybe when we get closer to a different holiday or just out of the blue I could bring it up. I don't want him to feel bad about any of it. I am open on other levels I just feel that everyone in my family deserves more than me and I have had this since I had my first daughter but when I went to see my sister she kept telling me that I need to do things for me. And now I think maybe I should do something for me. Not something that is going to take a lot of money but just a little something.

Yeah, your sister is right. Sure it's natural for mom's to put the family before themselves.. we all do it.. but we still have to take time out for ourselves too. If we pamper ourselves on occassion we'll have more of ourselves to give our family.. know what I mean?

That is a nice gift. I got my husband a plate with the kids hand prints on them for fathers day but he doesn't know it yet of course. I am happy that I got to spend quality time with my Family. But it always seems like he gets an amazing fathers day and mothers day isn't so great. I guess maybe I try too hard. I did not get to see my mother this year But I think I will see her on Thursday. That is her day off. I am waiting for the items that I ordered for mothers day still I ordered quite a few so I will just send them out when they get here and I let everyone know that I don't have them yet but they will be coming. They are bracelets. I am glad you had a good mothers day and hope your week and year are equally good.

It was very nice. Tomorrow is hubby's birthday and i have nothing for him. When you get older it just doesn't mean as much. You'll get there too.
Have a good year and be sure to hug those kids.
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He knows about giving gifts he has done it before on these holidays and every holiday I didn't ask for something that cost 300 dollars I just thought he would get something. Or at least have the kids make something. But his excuse is that he is not crafty that to me is not an excuse it could be considered lazy and not willing to try. My husband is not lazy but he definitely didn't try as hard as he could have. I understand that a lot of people don't celebrate holidays the same as others believe me my husband and I have done a lot of compromising on traditions plus added a few of our own. I don't think making a list would be right for us just because my husband doesn't like it when he can't buy me something that I really really want and to put it on paper might hurt his feelings. Thanks for your post I will keep everything in mind.

Well that is a horse of a different color, tell him to get over here so I can kick his booty. LOL. He could have at least had the children go pick some wild flowers or something, put them in a jar and tied them up with some ribbon. Get a helium balloon at the dollar store fry crying out loud. Okay I thought maybe not knowing him he might have some reason that was good. LOL well guess not. I know what you mean about traditions. We don't keep the traditonal holidays either, we do observe mother's day, father's day, birthdays, anniversaries and national holidays. Not Halloween, Christmas, etc though. He could have even had them draw some pictures for you of something. Shame on him.