i know too much
By doormouse
@doormouse (4599)
September 14, 2010 12:29pm CST
i know lots of things about people,mainly secrets,but i wish i didn't,my friends tell me things about their personal life or about other people,some are secrets and some is just gossip,i hear lies and the truth,why do people tell me things,is it because they know i don't tell tales or because they know i won't tell the people involved,i don't know the reason,but i know way too much about people,if people find out about the secrets then they presume it's me that has been talking,and it isn't,as i wouldn't want people to know my personal business,so why would i talk about theirs,you hear the gossips in the playground or standing in the local shop,why do people feel the need to talk about others,a few years ago someone had a go at me for something i apparently said to someone else,i know i hadn't said it,it was this person making up lies to make me look like a bad person infront of my friends,thankfully no one believed her,but why,,i've decided just to talk about everyday things with my friends now,i don't want to know anything else,that way i can't be blamed for something i haven't done
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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14 Sep 10
There are lots of people that come to see me that also tell me secrets,as they know that what they say in my house stays with me and do not get told any where else.In the past i have found out when i have said something in my house to a person that it has traveled to other people,so i know not to trust anyone.I think that in life the only person that we can trust is ourself.I tend not to say anything that is going on in my life to people,as not everyone is all that they appear.I do not go in the school play grounds,shops,actually i do not go out to even hear the gossip.The people that come to see me at my house,tend to chat about schools,their children,booze,cars and if they have a problem with their finance that they want advise on,among other things that are every day things.The only thing that i am interested in is my family and my life,not just that but there are peoples story that you only hear that side of and never the other persons side of what the things were.If i have a phone call,when i have people here and it is a private call then i either phone the person back,go to another room,or if i can ring the person back later on,that is another one so that noone knows what is going on and if anyone asks you can say it was who ever you want as only you know who you were on the phone to.I am nearly 40 now and i am getting past caring what people are doing in their lives,other than if they have a problem,i tend to change the subject like if people want to talk about other people,as that way i do not know anything.If my name has been mentioned then i will listen.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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14 Sep 10
This is one of the reasons that i came off face book,as there were always peopleon there that just went on there when they could get to a pc and add a nonsence status,also trying to stir up alot of back stabbing.If that is the only reason why people has a face book account then i think they are really, really sad,as at the end of the day if they only have friends on face book rather than people that they see,then they are going to be stirring up trouble each time they get to a pc.I find that my life, comes before any of the stirring,also the peoples that stir trouble up for themselves.Perhaps thats why i am happy all the time,as i do not listen to it the crud that is going on,seems i am home all day.
@doormouse (4599)
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14 Sep 10
i just sit and listen,then try to forget what they told me,all i want to talk about is normall stuff like who was on jeremy kyle,or what the kids have been up to,i may sound selfish but i know there are too many lies about people being told,and i don't want any part of it,it's not just people that i have regular contact with it's people i haven't seen for ages aswell,,i don't care and i don't want to know,i've got enough to sort out in my own life,if someone has a problem then i will try to help,but i don't want to hear the whole SHE says,HE says thing,,
@eshaan (6188)
• India
18 Sep 10
its better to keep away from such so called friends...as far as feel that these friends are not your real friend at all...coz real friends share everything and anything and dont blame you for that if they know you well...find out for good friends and then only go close or else hi...hello is enough ....
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@doormouse (4599)
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18 Sep 10
most i wouldn't even call friends as such,more like aquaintances as i don't see them often,we mainly communicate through text message,i probably see them in person about twice a year
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
16 Sep 10
I am kind of in your shoes right now and I don't like it at all. I have a friend that wants to share everything that she knows with someone and I happen to be the person that she shares everything with because I am the friend that she is the closest to. This has actually put me in a very difficult position recently and I don't like it. However, I also don't want to tell her that she can't share with me anymore because she is a friend and I don't want her to lose any trust in me.
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@doormouse (4599)
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16 Sep 10
i know exactly what you mean,it's a real burden isn't it,you hear all these different things about people you know,you know that this person has a right to know what is being said about them,but you also have to respect the confidentiality of your friend
@yeyezz (196)
• China
15 Sep 10
i also have a lot of friends,sometimes my friends share me about some their secrets and personal emtions and i dont talk about it in the public.so they trust me .i also dont want to know more,the more you know ,the more troubles you have.but i prefer to share the friends' things rather than be blamed by someone sometimes.
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@doormouse (4599)
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15 Sep 10
well i've decided just to talk about normal everyday things with my friends now,thanks for the reply
@formidexo (1351)
• Canada
14 Sep 10
I guess people trust you. People trust me too and so they tell me a lot of things but I keep them locked up. I wouldn't want to betray the confidences of people. So when with people I choose neutral subjects to discuss. I really don't like conversations that put other people in a bad light.
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@doormouse (4599)
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15 Sep 10
i don't want to betray anyone either,i've been keeping secrets for years and i'm now getting very sick and bored of it,i want normal conversation,kids,shopping,school etc
@GardenGerty (169474)
• United States
14 Sep 10
It sounds like a good thing to steer conversation away from anything that even remotely appears to be gossip. You are right, you are liable to get blamed, even when you are innocent.
@doormouse (4599)
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14 Sep 10
this is why i don't like to have too many friends,the more you have the more trouble it causes
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Sep 10
hi doormouse I am like that too, many people feel I am safe to open up to as I do not gossip butI really do not wait toknow other deep dark secrets. They are best kept to the person that owns them.I do not
do this at all, if I have some secrets I do not wantknown,I sure would
not air them to just anybody. maybe my best friend or my son, as they are the only people I would trust.
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@doormouse (4599)
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14 Sep 10
i just don't want the burden of knowing stuff,where i lived before was horrible,each neighbour was bad mouthing this one particular person,then that person was bad mouthing the neighbours
@cream97 (29085)
• United States
12 May 11
Hi. doormouse. I think that you are doing the right thing by not talking about everyday things with your friends, that way your name won't get caught up in any lies. I know many secrets about other people lives myself and they don't even know till this day that I know it too. When someone tells me to keep a secret about something or someone, I usually do. It is nice that your friends can trust you to keep a secret though. It just does not feel so great when you have to keep one though.
@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
Maybe she wants your friends to tell their secrets too. Just ignore her or better stay away from her. later your other friend will know that she is not worthy to be their friend afterall. Your friend need someone whom they can trust and can pour out their problems. Others just need someone to listen to them because that helps a lot in easing their burdens. So just stay as you are, a trustworthy friend. God Bless!
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@doormouse (4599)
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15 Sep 10
what makes you think it's a ' she ',i know woman are renound for being gossips but sometimes it can be a ' he ' aswell,in my case it's both
@hardworkinggurl (37062)
• United States
14 Sep 10
If I were in your shoes I would definitely express to my friends, wait before you speak is this Ba secret or is this something the whole world should know. Because if it is a secret then I do not want to know.
LOL... May work. 
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@doormouse (4599)
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14 Sep 10
some things i know i think the world should know,just because i think that people should know who they think are friends actually aren't,but i don't think it's my place to say,so i won't
@misalax (307)
• Ireland
15 Sep 10
I can relate to you. Lots of people say their secrets and feelings to me, mainly because I don't let it out like other people. Also I notice that people get comfortable with me easily, maybe im that approachable lol. But then we actually get to help them express what they want and we help them feel a lot better :)
