Then have her come here, I'll leave.

My ex mother in law hated me......I thought. I never did anything right for that woman. The last time I was at her house I had three bloody noses from my blood pressure being up so high....told the ex I wouldn't ever go back. After we divorce I ran into her at a grocery store...she said....You know how much I loved you? I was like....huh?

Hi Sarah, My In-laws hate me and I cannot prevent that. My mon and dad (in law) never wanted me to marry their daughter due to caste differences but we did marry against their wishes. Now, I had two options - to let go of them and do it as you would have dealt or do it my way. My way - I believe I have married her for my life and she accepted my offer to marry her despite knowing this would happen. So I think it is my duty to try to build up the relationship and that is what I have been trying. Though my health doesn't permit me to go to their place (it is an overnight journey) I still have gone their twice and stayed at the hotel (for the time after our meeting). They are parents and parents are possessive of their children. They are aged and aged people are stubborn children. This is my belief. It will take time I know but in due course of time I am sure things would be better and we would be a family. As of now... I should keep doing things to keep the relation healthy and strong... Cheers, theSids.

Whatever works for the individual. My husband has a few felatives who have driven me nuts in the past, and when they're around I want to be around, because I don't trust them (for good reason). However, in a relationship where there is only dislike, but no distrust, then there should be no problems with the disliked party leaving.

I do get along with my in laws. But I was dating a guy who didn't get along with my family and it did cause problems. He stopped coming to see them which made them feel like he didn't want to try and show them they were wrong about how they felt about him. He even tried to cause fights between us and I didnt see it at the time. I'm glad i finally opened my eyes and learned my family was right.