Do you do it yourself?

Yeah, they could have helped, but from the way they acted, you know why he didn't ask for help, don't you. Take care.

This goes with the proverb, "when the ship has sank, everybody knows how it could have been saved." Truly this happens all the time. Or the worse, you could be the scapegoat. The very unfortunate. I think it is best that each one should learn how to face and clean their own mess. There is nothing wrong with asking for advice. But it doesn't mean that you have to digest everything since everyone has different views on things. Seek help if you need it. Yet remember not to pass the burden completely to the one helping you. The best thing, FACE it, SOLVE it. And after that you'd feel stronger and more confident in life..

The others should not have been looking for an opportunity to criticize. Those people act mean and jealous. He best ignore them.

Some people want to be the helpers for the glory it gives them, the status and recognition. Some people do not want help because they think it makes them appear small. When I ask for help, someone better listen, because I will not ask a second time. I will find a way to take care of it myself, or pay someone else to do it. In your story, people should have been helping each other all along, and then the bump in the road would not have hit so hard.

You should ask before you help someone. I never ask for help if I can possibly do it myself. People know that when I ask for help, I've done everything in my power to take care of it. They know I don't ask for frivolous reasons, because I'm too cheap to do it or because I'm lazy. God knows that, too, I do all I can before I ask Him for help. When I do help someone I expect nothing in return. There is pride and accomplishment in not accepting help and I sympathize with that man's family but they should also realize that being able to help someone is a gift and they should accept the help graciously.

If i know how to do something myself and I am willing to take the task on by myself, then I would rather do it myself. I am only happy for someone to step in and help me if i can't handle the task alone.

I usually have my daughter handle things. We live in an apartment and if something brakes we call maintenance. My mom was one that always did things for herself. She was so independant and self reliant. She would get up on the roof and fix lose things and do carpentry work as well. She didn't like people coming on her property. She and I are alot alike.

My best friend and I had an argument in regards to the fact that I don’t like to ask for help unless I am very (and I mean very) desperate! I recall getting told to leave the place I was renting because the owner was selling up and stubborn old me was running around desperately looking for a new place although I didn’t have enough money. When my friend found out she was furious that I had not shared my predicament with her and allowed her to help but that’s just me, I don’t like to bother anyone or to owe anyone any favours even to a really good friend. I love helping my friends but never out of obligation...

Hello my friend TLChimes Ji, I wish to bring out following from my library to deal everything in life and remain happy :- SATSANG (a) ”If you can balance /stable your mind, when people around you are in un-balanced , and at the same time blaming you”. (NO-reaction) (b) “If you have belief on yourself, when others have doubt and at the same time, you strongly oppose their belief of their doubt” (c) “If you can wait for Good/Bright days without loosing patience/getting disheartened of waiting”. (d) “Everyone around you is deceiving you , whereas you are not in any way.” (e) “ Every body hates you and you do not, at the same time, you ARE not proud to be ‘good’ and ‘wise’. (f) “ If you Can dream, but do not allow them to overpower you, and you Can ‘think’ but at the same time, do not plunge into dreams of ‘thinking”. (g) “If you can welcome ‘gains’ and ‘defeat’ OR ‘profit’ & ‘loss’ with open hearts and they do not unbalance your mind”. (h) “If you can accept your own words in twisted/mutilated /distorted form, happily by ‘fools’ and they do not involve you in their bad plans”. (i)“ If you Can bear/tolerate the ‘gains’ accomplished by you ‘raise to ashes’ , for which you took whole life to build, and at the same time you can once again order your tired hands to restart making”. (J) “ If you can take one chance to reduce your gains in your life, ‘loose’ or ‘gain’ (like a great gambler) (k)“If you can, after loosing every bit in your life, get ready fresh to obtain the same with total energy from all corners of your body and mind, without uttering a single word even”. (l)“ If you Can compel your heart, mind and limbs, when they are so tired and refuse to accept any thing, except that your ‘belief’ and ‘desire’ to order them that they have to march forward and not falling back”. (m) “ If you can roam in crowds, but do not allow your ‘thoughts’ and ’abilities’ to wander stray, and you live with emperor, but do not neglect common man “. (n) “ If you are unharmed by people loving you and people hating you”. (o)“ If you Can respect everybody within the limits, but at the same time nobody”. (p)“ IF YOU CAN REMEMBER THE UN-EXCUSED MOMENT/SECOND (time) OF YOUR LIFE, AND EXPLAIN THE REASON FOR THE SAME”. Then, the whole world belongs to you only and every thing that exists on this, at the same time you fall under the category of ‘ACTUAL HUMAN BEING ’, which is greatest achievement in the life than any thing else”. Thanks. May God bless You and have a great time.