Have you ever compared yourself to someone you know?
By chiyochan
@chiyosan (30186)
Philippines
April 2, 2011 9:06am CST
Have you ever felt that sometimes you should have done something more… and have you ever felt that you end up comparing yourself… or your decisions with your friends, or people you know who have been in the same shoe as you and they stayed on and decided differently from you?
Was there a time that you compared to others.. like why you are not as good as them( you think) or why they are not as good as you are (when you are trying to teach them something and they can’t get it).. who’s guilty of this?
I admit I am.. sometimes I do compare to that extent.. thinking why can’t you be like me and learn fast, why can’t I be like you and be rich… all those little comparison… thank you in advance for your responses! =)
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10 responses
@banban (601)
• China
3 Apr 11
Yes, sometimes I would do that.
I think the world is full of competition, and when you do compare yourself to the other one that you know, you want to compete with him/her to some extent.
From time to time, comparing yourself to someone else can lead you to know your advantages and disadvantages. And in such case it's not bad to doing so.
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@chiyosan (30186)
• Philippines
19 Aug 12
yeah it is quite the best way to look at this. I like what you said that we should really put up with others and look at them and see how we would be able to "learn" from them... how to become better than them and achieve for ourselves, or even how not to do what they did wrong... all of these will do us good.
@chiyosan (30186)
• Philippines
19 Aug 12
yes shace.that is how we should look at this. Let it serve as aninspiration and not to harm us i any way. Espevially our thoughts ofmaking ourselves more of what we want. When we see oters move frward we should not let ourselves be held back and just remain stagnant and not doing anything. Instead let us do more or usand show people that we too can be the ones they can envy and look up to.
@CarlHalling (3617)
• United Kingdom
3 Apr 11
Yes, I spend a lot of time comparing myself to others. I've made some unusual life choices; and although these have brought me great pleasure in terms of my creativity: I consider myself to be a very fine actor, singer, songwriter and writer. I've neglected other areas, and it soemtimes makes me enormously sad to realise this. I've never achieved the success I set out to gain; nor been successful financially. But I take comfort in my Christian faith. I grew up in an age that valued material things less perhaps than previous ages. And I've never been materialistic. But as I get older, I find myself taking enormous pride in my artistic endeavours; yet feel very sad at times that I neglected the materialistic side. I'm still young enough to put this right I feel...I hope. But Sometimes, I find it hard to understand my life choices...I speak as an older, wiser man.
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
2 Apr 11
I have never really been one to compare myself to others. I am happy with who I am, and confident in my abilities and knowledge. I guess I also take into account that everyone is different and where I may not excel at a particular thing someone else does, and vice versa. I guess the only 'comparison' I have ever done is when something goes wrong, I always figure it could be worse, or that someone else is worse off than I am.
@chiyosan (30186)
• Philippines
19 Aug 12
oh it is good that you are like this. I often wished i can just try and compltely not to do this. It is just not the negative when i do compare sometimea i alsi think of what i have and feel i am blessed alright. I just hate to b a hypocrite and say i have never thought or wished to have someine's body or figure... Or their wealth. Haha
@allknowing (153530)
• India
3 Apr 11
In fact it is the other way around. I have always done what is best for me and those around me felt that I new my bearings and perhaps they on the contrary regretted not having done for themselves what I have done with my life.
@chiyosan (30186)
• Philippines
19 Aug 12
oh wow wel that is good that ou have always been the best in every ones eye. You shoud then be careful to be in he center of everyone's envy as others do not take these wel and might actualy try to do something to get you. do your best still and be consisten on being the best of what you truly are. More blessings to you my friend.
@allknowing (153530)
• India
19 Aug 12
If you notice, only those people are loved, who allow one to walk over them. I am more interested in optimising my abilities than pretend to be gullible so that people love me!
@balasri (26537)
• India
3 Apr 11
I don't remember comparing myself to anyone ever.I know that I am special withing my limits.
And my friends and family members always give the support for what I am.I always believe that even if the entire world doesn't like you you will be the entire world to someone who loves you.So I never compare me with anyone knowing that comparison will always makes you dissatisfied and hinders your happiness.

@Kirinx (1688)
• United States
23 Apr 11
ah i think we all feel this way sometimes.I used to feel this way when I would look back on my classmates and their lives but once I sat down and thought about it i realized we are all on different levels and some are slower on the path of life then others.
@chiyosan (30186)
• Philippines
19 Aug 12
it is noral if you ask me if we tend to look at others people lives with jealousy... It helps us be more industrious and it helps us do more so we can have what others have. Use this to better yor self. Use it and take it as an opporunity to bteach you how to strive harder beause others have got it and that means it is possible that we can achieve it as well.
Do not let what others have that youdont have put you down ever. Use it as a motuvation i am sure you will notice that you yourself is improving and you areslowly becoming a success yourself.
@fantabulus (4000)
• India
19 Aug 12
No I not like compare myself with others or other with myself. Everyone is good on their post and in their life. We cant say I am the best or they are the best.










