Seeing Some Friend Lotter "around" And Not With You.... How Do You Feel?

hello thesids, I CAN RELATE TO YOUR TOPIC Before i am trying to convince myself that maybe my discussion is not under my friends interest one of the possible reason why they are not responding on my discussion but after seeing that they participated under the same interest with other topic starter i feel bad really but since it's their choice i can't do anything about it. We rarely find a true friend on virtual world that can be also a true friend in real life Sometimes if i can't relate on my friends topic i tell them why i don't response on some topic they started. happy mylotting

I do not even see sometimes who has put up the topic but if I find I can respond I will. But I have noticed that many here go by who has put up the topic and accordingly give their response.

Hi mamu.. When i start a discussion, i think that i shall get atleast 10 responses from friends whom i trust most. But many times it does not happen which make me sad like you. Then i politely follow their discussions and try to response so that they can realize that i am around them. Sometimes it works and sometimes not. But sure i expect responses from close friends. have a nice day.

Honestly sids, I really have no discussion worth appreciating... I dont like starting discussions. :) I had a good friend thea. :) She once complained, so I started a few. But I have kinda had it.. I am happier flitting around. Yes, at times I do not attend my friends discussions. That may be because I have left the system on, and pa is doing some of his work on some other site... lol. Happens at times. :) Even my aunt and uncle use the system... poor vandy... the system is mine but it becomes so much of a public property...lol.

Really? And here i thought we all were good friends. Should i whip or spank them for you sweetie?

I agree with you. in the short time of me being on mylot i see familiar faces replying to my discussions and that gives you a warm comfortable glow inside of me. the occassional time i get missed out by one of the regulars and that does upset me a little. Then i remember that i do not reply to all the discussions that they start. this is because i am definately better at replying to certain types of discussions and serious one's i feel like a fish out of water. So perhaps it is the same thing. Right now i am greatful to have any responses to my discussions!

Hi Dear Sids! Frankly speaking, though I used to feel bad about it initially when I have joined this forum, now i don't feel anything if some friend around don't respond to my discussion! For I understand every topic of mine may not interest my friend! He/She may be in some different mood or may not feeling like respond to any discussion, as it often happens with me! I many a times just simply go on read the responses and discussions instead of actively participating! This can happen with any one! So in nutshell I don't take anything personal and get hurt if some one is not responding to my discussion as often I too don't respond many discussions which I feel are of my interest! Thanks Sids for the discussion!

thesids! This is something very common and I do not pay much heed to it.My friends are always my friends and they may have any number of reasons for not responding to my discussion. They can be hard pressed for time and the moment they peep in here they may be attractd to some other topic and then they may leave. If they continue to participate in other discussions and my discussion has been ignored it means my discussion was not of particular interest to them where they could feel they could contribute.Even in real life, at home too, when people talk we may be silent participants or not even talk.FOr eg, i don't know much about sports nad if all around me talk about spoorts I won't have anythign to say. SO what? I would still go ahead with my job.Here some others would respond. It is always natural for us to expect some responses from our friends but they will have some legiitimate reason or they would have missed ours out. If it continues for long and you are in touch with them you can always tell them that you have posted a discussion and would like to hear their views if it is very important.

Guilty...as charged...on some occasions..like just NOW! Sometimes I DO NOT receive notifications...of discussions started by my friends, stumble upon them days later, read the discussion/responses, find that I have nothing further to add of consequence..so hang my head, and wander on! You are a kind & gentle soul..superbly sensitive and I truly hope that you don't absorb personally, too often, this subject you pose! Honestly, there are times that I DO NOT have insight or thoughts of quality to add...could be just the mood I am in that day (a mood that I can hide from the General Public--but may be exposed in the cyber world.) NEVER, is it meant as an afront to you, dear soul! I, too, do question..when myLot friend(s) respond to discussions, all around me, and I am ignored. I feel pained and chagrined! And beat myself up with self-recrimination wondering if I somehow, have offended them..unintentionally? I tend to "pull in my horns" and withdraw near "Pay-out" time here at myLot, as there often is such a feeding frenzy, I find it overwhelming! Near the end of March, I was away for 2 days...I had 3 pages of started discussions..by JUST 4 friends...started to read them, so many, to me, seemed non-sensical..and hate to admit, I deleted the 3 pages...I feel BAD, because for sure, there were truly good discussions amidst the triviality..but I have TIME constraints! I work full-time..and all the time (mostly No days off!)! I truly apologize, if I am a culprit!

Hello my brother, One problem ends and another one start here. Today mylot is working for the whole day but I missed notifications. I just saw your topic from home page. I got the last notification from mylot at 11.25 PM (Indian Times) On your topic, I am the culprit here. I missed some of your topics but not intentionally. When I am back in mylot you would have started another one and many of my friends too. Once I tried to visit your old topics (when you added me in your family) but you never give me acknowledgement, I mean you have not respond back. I am not sure whether you read that responses. For me, if anybody failed to give their reply, I don’t care, because I know their problems and I am happy with those who are giving replies. I would like to add that I have some responders who are very particular in my topics irrespective of the fact that I am not reciprocating to them.

Hi Sid, it is funny that i found your discussion from my lot section. i rely on my notification email to response in my friend's discussion. and yours is not arrive in my notification right now oh please, don't have that negative thinking to me. i am glad to drop by in your discussion

hello dear sids, I am sure i did not miss any of your topic since we become friends here in mylot. Now,if ever it happens that i missed your topic...blame it mylot admin... .................my notification is still missing................ I always scan "friends started" everytime i come here in mylot. So,i am sure i did not miss any of your topic. I might be late...but not missed now,go and response to my topic as well...i just started one

Hi thesids, You know that I always try to respond to your discussion. I know I must have missed some, for that I apologise. It is not because I don't want to, sometimes it is because of the internet connection going funny, and sometimes I didn't see it for sometime and by the time I see it, oh well, it sort of old already. Not a very good excuse, but that's me being honest. Enough about the excuse.... I don't feel any different when I see a friend responding to someone's discussion, but not mine. I know I don't always get round to responding theirs either. Sometimes it could be that they feel they have nothing to add, or whatever the reason. Saying all that, it does feel nice when friends appreciate and respond to my discussions. I appreciate the effort...well, not just friends, any Lotter.

In the starting I was also thinking on the same way but after a while I realize that, "Demanding response from friends always or looking for their reply is not an good way". If I am eager to get response from my friends than I must chose attractive, interesting and informative topics. So everyone can response to it without knowing me or being my friend. Another way I found to rate good replies and topics of the lotters who are doing really hard work to get their ratings sustainable or looking for good ratings by posting informative and interesting topics. In the end I always try to be positive regarding my topics even some times I get only 2 or 3 response but I am not ready to give up on any conditions. :D Cheers

Hi there sids Well, I hope you don't get offended if I don't reply to some of your discussions. It is not personal at all. I don't have any of my notifiers on so I might miss some of them. Other times, I just might not know enough about the subject matter to feel I could add to it. Don't be sad, Sids. We all love you!

Definitely one will feel better when his or her close lotters is around to respond to every discussion. But every one of us have the freedom to do so. I mean I will welcomed every lotters to respond as I want to see their opinions. Old lotters are also welcomed. One or two close lotters are expected in my discussion if I were to make one. Have a nice day :)

Being a friend on myLot does not mean you are "required" to respond to a friend's discussion!!! I try very hard to make it a point to reply to my friends discussions first & then go from there. Sometimes I make it & sometimes I don't!!! Then there are discussions started by a friend that is of a topic of which I have NO opinion & by the rules here, we're not supposed to respond "if we have nothing of importance to say". Then there are those discussions with which I don't agree. With those...I usually pass on by because I do NOT want to bring anything negative to their discussion!!! Then there are those days that I try hard & just seem to miss some of my friends' discussions. Of course, there are those days that notifications doesn't work & I don't realize it & by the time I notice, I'm so far behind I feel overwhelmed!!! Then there are the days that no matter how hard I try, I can't get here due to my "real life" problems. When my friends don't show up for my discussion, I just assume they are really busy or for "whatever reason" couldn't find the appropriate words with which to reply!!! It makes me work harder to come up with new discussions that my friends can relate to!!!

I love to see my friends participate in my discussions but I also try to remember that I might sometimes start a discussion that they can't reply to. It might be because they don't relate or they really don't know what to say. I have actually came across discussions before that I really did not know how I would respond if I did. I want to give my friends' discussions all that it deserves and if I can;t give good input..I might not respond...not because I love them any less though. I try to remember that when I start discussions too. If it is for an extended period..I might start to wonder if it is because of me. I always look to myself first..lol. I have sometimes come to the conclusion that they are just not interested in me or my discussions..I don't look for them as much then but it is nice to see them participate so that I know they are still around and ok. I have not been faced with this very much. Most of the friends that I have had for a while are always active in my discussions as I am in theirs. Take care.

Hello sids, :) I am not so fond at starting new discussions, because most of the time i don't know what to talk about. But yeah, i know what you are speaking, of. I don't take to heart though, probably they haven't got something to add to, or probably they don't know how to answer (if it is a sensitive topic) . So take it easy, no one always wants to take part in serious discussions here. Not that i am saying your discussions are always the serious types, but sometimes we just want to take part in lighter discussions. Plus, everybody has their daily chores to attend to, and perhaps sometimes we get too exhausted to share our opinions on a few matters ? So just take it easy, even i have had some discussions were i expected some of my friends to respond, but for some reason they didn't and honestly i didn't get too upset about it. I believe i do the same with them some times, we don't have the time to respond to all our friend's discussions right ? So don't think much about it, you will eventually get some interesting responses from other members as well.

Hi sid.. I always like to join in your discussions. So i am sure this discussion is not directing me.. Well I always like to jump in all friend's discussions unless i found i have no info related to discussion. But yeah I also feel little sad if i found some active friends on not my discussions. But i know you all guys will surely be their for me..