simply pretty: Does someone put pressure on you on how you dress??

Hi! Excellent post. Loved it. I am against it. I do not want to put pressure on my partner to wear the dresses or make up which I like. Everyone should have freedom to dress up and use make up the way one likes, there should not be any pressure to look like a model or movie star. It is said that beauty is skin deep. I also wear what I like and do not like that someone else should direct me to wear the dresses of his or her choice. I prefer to remain simple with a motto - "accept me the way I am or leave me".

My advice is just be yourself girl, wear what makes you feel comfort and makes you happy, dont let other people to dictate you what to do or what to wear. If he likes you then he should accept the way you are and not telling you to be somebody else. Yes, asking you to wear this dress or that dress its the same as try to change who you are. The first rule in fashion is to make you be happy with yourself, why would you force yourself to wear something you dont like? For me, I dont let anyone to tell me what to do or what to wear. I admit, im into fashion but it doesnt mean I follow latest mode/trend or to let fashion to dictate me, I only wear what fit my body and make me feel comfort. I know how to design so I create my own fashion, I feel that I have freedom to express myself, to decide what I wear. And if someone tell me what to do or what to wear, I will only smile and say "thank you, but I know whats the best for myself"

tess if this man does not like the way you look and mandates you must change thats not love, thats controlling the first step to the ultimate control freak and wife beater

I like the way that I dress, i usually wear dresses almost daily. It wasn't always like this, I just changed my style recently when I moved here. I also wear makeup daily and try to keep my hair and nails looking decently as well, but I don't do it for anyone in particular, I do it for myself.

Oh, he's a real critic and I hope he looks good in himself. Yea, he just want you to look great. Before, my friends used to pressure me with the way I look for I came from a unremote province, I look really waful before but now I can carry myself. We live in a same place and I see beautiful and cheap clothes.SM and AYALA is on sale now!

My first husband was and still is that way. My husband now is very cool about what I wear; he just does not want me to look like a school teacher. My first husband was a control freak and I did not know and this was one of the first things he started on. He would BUY my clothes for me and not let me even pick them out. I mean I dressed very well for work and was very into stle on a budget, but he wanted me to look like his mother it seemed. It got to the point where I could not wear certain underwear they had to match the bras and come from certain stores. WHO CARES ABOUT THAT STUFF? ANd on my money so I could not save anything up. wow. I hope you do not have one of those type of people on you hands.

I am not a slave to fashion and I dress for my own satisfaction and comfort. It is not for anybody to dictate what I should wear.

When I was younger, most people around me, like cousins or even my mom says that I should dress better for my age...actually that time I am kinda "manang" lol! Well, I don't know, I am not really into fashion, and I just wear what's available. Like you, I don't also buy much clothes, shoes or bags...unless its needed badly. Right now, I still dress the way I wanted and I don't let anyone influence or pressure me with the way I dress, this is me, I am comfortable with it and that's good enough for me. I think beautiful fashionable clothes is useless if I am not comfortable with it... I guess its not what you wear but how you carry your self with the clothes that you are wearing...

I just love how I dress like. The thing is that it's not the typical boring standard way of dressing, so I receive a lot of society pressure to change my way of dressing, as in this world it seems that having your own style is offensive for others The most important thing is that I like my style, so I dress for myself and not for others

I really love matching clothes,accessories and bag that suits the occasion and depends on where will I go.I really want to look presentable when I am out in the house because other people will look at you being respectable and we should also carry our self well because it will enhance our look.

I think that I do this part with my sister. I don't keep telling her all the time what she should wear, but when I don't like some combination of clothes, I tell her. I love to buy clothes, shoes and bags and my sister don't. So, she pretty much always wearing something of mine.

I'm not into fashion either. If i like it I shall buy it. I don;t need media telling me what I should and shouldn't wear just to fit in with the fakes. However, I do feel some pressure from family, such as my Nan because she's always having a dig at my weight and the fact that I'm not a girly girl. I'm pretty lucky to have a boyfriend who doesn't tell me what to wear. He suggests certain clothing items but he never puts the pressure on me to wear it. However, I do feel a little pressured about my hair, as on one side where I have an undercut is bold & he doesn't like it and he's always asking me to grow it back. I can't do much to make it grow and I keep telling him it was an accident (My mum accidently shaved off more hair then she should have) but after a few weeks of it, he seems to be getting used to it. So to me, it seems like i get a lot of pressure when I change something but after a while they get used to it or get the message that I am perfectly happy with who I am and how i look like. I personally think that if you like who you are and what you look like then don't change but suggestions are good once in a while depending on how "manipulative" they seem.

Your like his barbie doll, eh? Why are you letting him pressure you? I mean if you are not comfortable with it, why allow him to make you so stressed about it? You can tell him simply that if he can't accept you for what you are, he better not accept you at all. I mean, it is ok to change for a person, but if you are no longer happy with what you are doing, I guess, you should not stress yourself that much. Oh men...sigh

Nope..

Personnally I think you should dress and act the way you want to and however makes you feel comfortable. Nobody else should try to change you because guess what? You will end up being resentful--just as you are now. Have a talk with this person and tell them to lay off. You appreciate their advice, but that isn't your style. And if they don't like it and disassociate themeselves from you for that reason, then they are not much of a friend to begin with. Be yourself!

I am happy with the way that i am and i will say that the only time i put make up on or dress myself up a bit is when i go out to a party or another occassion.I dress the way i feel happy and do not really care much for what other people think, as long as i am comfortable that is what matters to me.

I am just like you tess. I would consider myself out-of-date because I just wear clothes that I like. I don't like skirt or girl stuff. But it does not mean I never wear it. I just feel that as long as I wear clean clothes then it is fine. I will not spend my money just to make sure others pleased to me. In your case your man should buy those things not just command you to buy them yourself because he's the one who wants you to change as I see that you don't really want to go with his recommendations. I don't like people to say that I should wear this and that because if I am afford to buy new clothes, going to salon , buy new bags and shoes every week I will get them myself. It just me who don't like it as I don't see I need it.(^^)

I was with a man who wanted to make me over. He wanted me to dress a certain way and have a certain hair color. I realized over time that he did not accept me for who I am. A man should not be controlling and this is the way to control a woman. If he just wants to give gifts, that is one thing but if he never accepts how you dress or do your hair, he is not the man for you. The man for you will accept you for who you are. My husband says I look beautiful even when I just woke up and my hair is everywhere. That is the kind of man that you deserve.

hi:) I think if it is for your good then its alright, but if he only wants to change you for his satisfaction, I think that's not right, I think being simple is beautiful, seeing your photo I think you look alright, simply pretty. but it's your decision anyway, still your decision will matter and don't let other change you for what you are, unless you are willing for a change too... well happy shopping then, and stay pretty:)

I suppose the man you are referring to is your boyfriend? Correct me if I am wrong. If he genuinely loves you, then he should accept you the way you are and the way you dress. He should not be putting pressure on you as to how you should dress. If you oblige, would you really be happy? What if he expects you to oblige all the time, would you be able to take it?