Do you find it stressful when people asked why you're still single?

I'm far too old to worry about that, but my youngest daughter is 28 and tells me her friends ask her about it. Worse than that, she says, is when they express sympathy because she is "single." She isn't against guys or relationships but just hasn't found the right one besides enjoying doing her own thing right now. There's nothing wrong with that.

For me, it's not stressful. Why? Though I plan of having my own family someday, currently it's not my priority. I mean, for now, I don't put too much effort on looking for the right partner. So it ain't stressful for me when people try to ask why I'm still single. You see, things will only take a toll on you when you keep working on it and yet you do not seem to be getting the results that you so desired. I mean, if you really want to get married, then by all means focus all your energies on looking for the right partner. Mr. Right won't simply fall from the sky. But for those who are actively looking for the right partner and when people you know try to ask you out that question of you still being single, why don't you try to answer them with something like this: "Do you have someone you can recommend for me?" These friends of yours have one of the best resources for your potential partner. I'm pretty sure they will not recommend someone who will harm you.

Hi ene! It could be really stressful when people ask these kinds of personal questions about your bachelorhood. You see it is very difficult to stop others from asking these questions. You need to be patient with them and could tell them - "When the time will come and my luck will smile on me, I will surely get married and will surely let you know". For the sake of record - I do not fall into your category and am married. Deepak

I have friends who are over 30 and still single. Yes they also feels the same being stressed by people around them for being single. But they are never bothered about it. They just shrug their shoulders and say " it's good to be single" I know they also have plans of getting married but maybe they're still not prepared and wants to enjoy being single still. have a good day

the same does happen to me. I want to stay single for I think it's the best option and the most suitable for me now. my parents well, they want grandchildren for I am the first in my family. it is annoying indeed to get friends, colleagues, and acquaintances when they ask that. well, for me, it's not "why you are still single?" but "when will you get married?" in the beginning, my answer usually led to another annoying questions. so now when were I asked that, I would just say, "Until I got someone who is very lucky to find me."

Dont be too pressured about it..Let the people around you wait for the best that may happen to you... The best is yet to come so wait for it...i have also a friend in your situation actually i was part of the group until a couple of yrs ago me and my beloved decide to get married. As i follow the advice of one colleuge i have...if i will wait that we have more money in our pocket then we cannot get marrried.. Many singles thinks of the security during marriage but i guess only few have that in financial matters. Be better to be ready by heart...

I have the exact opposite problem. I got married relatively young and I am the first of my friends to be married. People CONSTANTLY ask me why I got married, when I'm having kids, etc. I'm married because I want to be, nothing more and nothing less. And I'm never having kids.

Yes, I would say my parents keep on annoying me to have kids. I have a boyfriend and I feel like they keep on asking me when will I start having kids, and it's very frustrating on my part because I am not yet ready to become a mom. My boyfriend asked me if I wanna marry him, of course I do, but I am not yet ready. I am so afraid of commitments and crying babies and diapers. The pressure is always there, but I just could not do it. All of my closed friends are already married and have kids, but I am still enjoying life of being single.

I am 31 and I am single. Truthfully I have never been in a relationship, nor have dated anyone before, which sucks because I fear that it would be harder for me to find anyone at this age. My friends are all in some type of relationship, engaged or married, so I don't have much contact with them, and no one in my circle is really keen on giving advice on this stuff. So it is really irritating, especially at gatherings when people ask why I am not dating. The answer is that I keep getting rejected (the answer usually is 'you're a nice guy but---, it is that but I can't get past, or I messed around and asked someone's wife), nor do I think that I am relationship material because I have baggage to sort out, but I don't tell anyone that, or it could be because I am a workaholic so I have no idea what having a life is. People know the last answer to be true because I am always working, so I really don't know what having a life is. I am really nervous about having a first date at this age, when other people I know have started families at an earlier age. If I do find someone however, the first thing I will do is get away from everyone.

My youngest sister is 36 years old this year and is still single but it's by choice and not because nobody wants to marry her. Relatives and friends have asked why she hasn't married yet but she just ignored their questions. She's happy with her freedom. If your being single is by choice then you shouldn't feel pressured by others. Just ignore them like how my sister is doing and she's happy with her life. She's not lonely. In fact, I think she likes being alone.

I think you're not alone. I know some of my relatives who aren't married yet because they're still single. Maybe they just want whats best for them and I guess they still don't meet that right person. Its okay to be single as long as you're happy with our life. Maybe our parents are so excited for you. Don't pressure yourself to be married if you don not want too or else you'll end up regretting it. Enjoy your life and you'll never know? Maybe the right person is just along your way.

Me, I'm a lot older than you. I'm 40 :-) still single and happy. I am not bothered by people who asked, not at all. Whenever they asked why I am still single, I simply say " I'm mature enough to know what I would like to do with my life and mature enough to choose what is good for me. " Then they would just smile and shrugged of their shoulders.:-) If you let them meddle in your affairs you will really get pressured. But if you just take it as a friendly reminder, it becomes lighter. Getting married is not like food that whenever you feel like you don't like it, you can spit it out. It is something that one should really make a thorough discernment, reflection before making the big decision. Don't rush. Take your time. if you think you are ready for it,just inform them. Enjoy your youth and being single to avoid regrets in your later years. It can affect how you will bring up your children someday .:-)

Yes, I sometimes feel pressured when someone asks me why I am still single, especially if the one who asked was someone from your family. That's why I become defensive when it's about that topic, because they keep on asking me.

I have around 5 close friends who are single. and whenever I ask how they feel about being single, they said they feel lonely sometimes, but since they have a lot of things going on, like career for one, they really don't mind at all.

I'm 23 almost and I'm in the same situation as you...it's a little bit scary to tell you the truth..and it's not really nice to have others asking you the same question. I feel like it's not their business it's only mine. sure my parents want me to be happy but others ask from a stupid curiosity. but being single has it's good parts of course..I think that rather being in a bad relationship it's better to be single